Discussion Do you want children?

[MakinItHappen111]

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I personally wouldnt bring children to this world due to state of the world at the moment, but I may adopt in the future if i find a husband.


It would be brutal raising kids between 2 dudes though, so Im a bit skeptical about it.


@Lost in a Dream

 

[YandereMikuMistress]

I just dont want kids I dont wanna give birth and I dont trust nither men nor women both parties just cause pain both are awful,, I still try to just understand others who do want "children" but I can never truly understand because its the last thing I'll ever want especially when im looking to die and even if i weren't looking to die, why would I want to bring another parasite into a world such as this, even if i was stable wouldn't it be unstable to want to bring more little cunts into all this shit..

 

[Minfilia]

maybe through adoption, but not by birth. it would be a tough process however as the adoption system basically hates everyone lgbt in my country

 

[Lost in a Dream]

No not really, but if I ever change my mind and become mentally stable enough to care for one, perhaps I could adopt someday. I don't really know.

 

[secondfox2003]

excluding societal and political reasons, i dont feel responsible enough to have children, i dont think id be a good parent able to provide and raise a child properly. same reason i dont trust myself to get a pet as much as id love to have a cat

 

[boyafraid]

If I had good/stable mental health, and my financial situation was good I would probably be open to adopting a kid. Considering, the way my life is going and my plans for ctb, I highly doubt it will happen.

 

[Set Real Goul]

If I were mentally stable, not a NEET, and had managed to build a better life for myself, then yes.

I have a friend who's also a NEET — he's two years older than me — and he has a wife and a child. Honestly, the whole situation seems a bit crazy, considering that all of them are financially dependent on his mother.

 

[JustADeerGirl]

Maybe if I was mentally well, but as it stands, I would not be a good mother.

 

[WalmartSoap]

No. I think bringing children into this downhill world would be a disservice. The last thing this dying earth needs is more humans walking it.

 

[N-methylamphetamine]

Title

I personally wouldnt bring children to this world due to state of the world at the moment, but I may adopt in the future if i find a husband.


It would be brutal raising kids between 2 dudes though, so Im a bit skeptical about it.


@Lost in a Dream

i want 1-3 children but sadly I cant. Oh well, atleast I know it's not just me since the entire world is going to shit, especially if your a millenial or younger

 

[TwistedNightmares]

I decided a long time ago that I will never have any children. There are just too many negatives (bad genes, the current state of the world, no family for support, etc.)

 

[yhslimee__]

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I personally wouldnt bring children to this world due to state of the world at the moment, but I may adopt in the future if i find a husband.


It would be brutal raising kids between 2 dudes though, so Im a bit skeptical about it.


@Lost in a Dream

Having a baby is the most selfish and cruel decision two people can make and i'm not just saying that because i'm depressed or some sh*t but people really shouldn't consider making someone else live this hell of a life that most people complain about.

An even crazier form of selfishness i just can't understand is broke people giving birth just because they can. I grew up in a very religious muslim area, My family was considered medium-class thankfully but some people didn't have it this way. i remember some of my parent's friends insisting on having more than 4 kids atleast and its just something that angers me so much, how are those children gonna grow when you live in the middle of an isolated village, in a fucking room of a house, those children are getting the worst fucking education possible. and those people would just sit with that and keep on stuffing their consentinng women with their dirty cum. when these people of ALL people (villagers) should now better about the hardships of living such a life.

To me this is just selfish behavior, maybe i plan on having kids but it's not only if i can provide then with the better life they could have, i am not risking them needing anything or wanting and not getting something, the amount of hate i've gathered towards my parents for just not being able to provide me with the better option there is is crazy, some people would call me spoiled or selfish but that's how i think idk if there's something wrong with me. I understand some just want some love and shit but i don't think that's good enough of an excuse and on top of that, adoption is still an option.

This is my take on this, i would heavily like someone to talk me out of this mindset, until then ill still feel like giving birth is stupid and cruel when you can just straight up upgrade another kid's life through adoption.

 

[00ps]

if i ever get better and i'm at a good mental health state where i'm emotionally regulated etc etc then i'd love to have one. the only issue is that i'm at high risk for post partum depression and adoption is really expensive up front (not to mention there's a lot of anti-LGBTQ bills so i might just not be allowed to soon)

 

[FoxSauce]

Not really, Ibdont think Ibcan be a good mother and I fint wanna pass anytbing down and see them suffer

 

[diealegend24]

If I was mentally stable and financially stable then most definitely I would love to have children. But I have to end my life by accident. So I won't ever have children.

 

[MakinItHappen111]

i want 1-3 children but sadly I cant. Oh well, atleast I know it's not just me since the entire world is going to shit, especially if your a millenial or younger

I decided a long time ago that I will never have any children. There are just too many negatives (bad genes, the current state of the world, no family for support, etc.)

If you dont want children due to the state of the world or bad genes, you can just adopt a child. they would already be in a shitty situation, so you will upgrade their lives by adopting. I personally would do that in the future if im in a better mental state and am in a better environment for gay people.

 

[SASU-KE]

No, I'm highly anti natalist. In fact, you can call me Natalie.

 

[MakinItHappen111]

No, I'm highly anti natalist. In fact, you can call me Natalie.

Im starting to get why people become anti natalists lol

I dont see myself ever having biological children, i would only adopt.

 

[TwistedNightmares]

If you dont want children due to the state of the world or bad genes, you can just adopt a child. they would already be in a shitty situation, so you will upgrade their lives by adopting. I personally would do that in the future if im in a better mental state and am in a better environment for gay people.

I'm in a shitty situation myself. To keep things short, I am living in poverty, and I also have a very controlling mother who does a lot of damage to my mental health. Dragging any child into this situation would just be very cruel on my part.

 

[MakinItHappen111]

I'm in a shitty situation myself. To keep things short, I am living in poverty, and I also have a very controlling mother who does a lot of damage to my mental health. Dragging any child into this situation would just be very cruel on my part.

Im sorry to hear that, my bad for saying that to you.

 

[darksouls]

I would never bring children into this sick world,
I was born into poverty and I will rot in poverty,
if I had enough money,
then maybe I would have adopted children

 

[like-spoiledmilk]

No, I don't think so.

I like travelling and freedom. I love children, watching them grow, but I see no need to have them. There are millions of kids in this world without love, security, or safety. I would adopt before anything.

 

[Pluto]

 

[dance0nglass84]

No, I'm the eldest and I basically raised my siblings from when I was very young.
I still resent my parents for that, I should have spent my childhood and adolescence being able to do what I wanted, not being stuck in the house all day changing diapers and looking after toddlers while my parents were out gambling and drinking.
I think at 8 I decided that I never wanted kids ever lol, and that hasn't changed

 

[meowpuppy]

a daughter would be really sweet, but unless i get a really really good coparent, then i'm obviously not doing it. and adoption only, obviously. imagine if i put somebody through the pain of childbirth.. i'd never forgive myself lol

 

[Forveleth]

I knew at 10 I did not want kids. Got my tubes tied at 30. Never been mentally stable enough to feel I could handle the responsibility. Also kids are loud... and annoying... and expensive.

 

[Awesomefoid67]

i'd love them but like i can't really have them cus im trans and adoption wouldnt feel the same personally and i refuse to like do it through sperm or whatever that feels wrong and id hate it so yknow
does make me very sad that i cant though (tbh id probably not be a very good parent so maybe its for the best)

 

[Kenny]

I have mixed feelings with kids, on one hand I feel like it's give me a purpose of sorts in life, but on the other I don't want to hurt them like my dad has hurt me. It's a cycle of abuse and I want to end it but it's really hard and I'm scared that I'd hurt them.

 

[suncide10]

Only if I have a great partner and I can give them the best life possible then yes, but only when I get older.

 

[Green Destiny]

I can barely take care of myself, no way could I take care of a child. I don't need to think hard to know that I would not make a good parent.