Discussion Do you want children?

[miso_soup]

biological children def no - my genes are shit when it comes to mental health and i would never to that to a child. adoption or fostering could be an option but i don't think i have it in me to care for another human or that i would be a good parent given my own childhood.

 

[hurts2b]

Never. I can't imagine sacrificing all my time, flexibility, money and agency for...the privilege of....what? I can't find a single upside, personally.

 

[dragonofenvy]

I wish I could be a father, but don't think I have the capacity to be a good one. On top of that I don't want my children to have autism like me and lead the same life I've had to. I would do my best for them but I don't think my best would be very good and nobody deserves that. It's too bad more parents don't have my attitude and instead bring in children they either can't raise or loathe. The world would be a lot better if they didn't bring in children. There'd be less criminals, less violence, and less suffering overall.

Broken households create broken children which create more broken households for more broken children.

 

[the_gold]

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I personally wouldnt bring children to this world due to state of the world at the moment, but I may adopt in the future if i find a husband.


It would be brutal raising kids between 2 dudes though, so Im a bit skeptical about it.


@Lost in a Dream

I want kids desperately, I have for years, but I dont think I should have them as I doubt I'd be a good mother

 

[Forever Sleep]

No, I'm too old for it now anyway but, even when I was younger, I was so worried they'd turn out like me. I couldn't bare to see my child experience even 1% of what I have experienced. I just don't think the nicer things in life compensate for the bad.

Plus- to prepare them to succeed in this world, I'd have to be an entirely different person. And, I kind of hate the whole: 'Do as I say, not as I do' mantra. It's so hypocritical. I don't think my (creative) genes would do well in this world either. It was difficult enough for me. That's something else I'd prefer to spare them.

I was lucky in a way- that I wasn't attractive enough to attract someone. It maybe wouldn't have been impossible at times- that I still would have considered having children. I'm so relieved- for both of us- that I didn't. I feel weirdly protective towards my unborn children. I feel like they're so much safer not existing in this world to begin with.

Plus, I'm doing my small part in not over burdening the environment. Think of the massive carbon footprint the childless protect this world from. Not only from our consumer/ polluter children but their children and their children and so on.

 

[shampoo sniffer]

No. Never have

 

[MAKE IT STOP!]

I would if I were mentally stable

 

[Mr.Ruben]

I'd like to help someone have a wonderful life, one they can see all the great things about this world, and if adopted, make them play cool video games to learn more, but for that money is needed. I could not hold sadness if I had to buy the cheapest aliment because I don't have the funds