Discussion Do you feel guilty posting here?

[Suidice]

I like this forum, it brings me comfort and understanding, but i also feel really guilty posting here since my discussions can be used by other people to help them commit suicide. Do you feel the same way?

 

[unluckysadness]

I feel guilty too, but it's the only place I can speak truly without judgement

 

[CaptainSunshine!]

I don't feel guilty. In fact, most of the purpose of this account is to help others.

 

[Macedonian1987]

Why should I feel guilty? I'm not doing anything bad to anyone. I'm very happy to have found this place. The people here are so nice and understanding and non-judgmental.

What shocked me is the fact that on youtube this forum was presented as the most toxic place on the internet. Which is thankfully not true at all.
(Tantacrul's video about this forum said that)

This forum steered me away from a very violent method and this method would have traumatized my parents greatly.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

It's a conflicting feeling. Especially since we have "multiple opinions" due to having DID. So we sort of made some general rules for ourselves:

• We cannot comment on people's methods unless it is to tell them if it won't work/will be painful.
• We cannot reply to active goodbye threads except to say things like "whatever you choose, we hope you find peace"
• We cannot try to publicly workshop new methods on here.

A few more too. We have major issues with Moral OCD and guilt, so if we thought we caused someone to CTB in a potentially dangerous and/or regrettable way, it would probably drive us to CTB too. These are sort of... safety boundaries.

 

[BrainSplatter]

I like this forum, it brings me comfort and understanding, but i also feel really guilty posting here since my discussions can be used by other people to help them commit suicide. Do you feel the same way?

I don't feel guilty posting it actually is nice to speak freely about things without judgement or criticism. If someone's truly suicidal they're going to be seeking out any information to successfully do it no matter what there's more to the internet than SaSu plus it's not a pro suicide forum nothing I've seen posted has ever been harmful only informative no one's pushing anyone to do anything here

 

[socksnsandles]

someone thats going to commit suicide is going to do it regardless of whether you or i post here or not

 

[Sasha Swift]

I like this forum, it brings me comfort and understanding, but i also feel really guilty posting here since my discussions can be used by other people to help them commit suicide. Do you feel the same way?

yup, the feeling is there. It hit me even harder when I've seen the members to guests ratio, I feel like I shouldn't be here. I don't feel like I'm doing something wrong, but I feel guilt, the heavy sinking feeling in your chest. People often conflate the two, but for me, those are 2 separate things.

Maybe it's because of the heavy content on here. Reading a thread documenting someones CTB while piecing together just how it was witnessed is something... different.

 

[NoHappyEndings]

I feel guilty that I able to come back. I get the information I need here and form a plan then something stops aka car won't start, gun jammed, or do everything right and wake up 3 days later vomiting. I wish life didn't hate me so much.

 

[MissAbyss]

No, everyone bears their own responsibility in this matter. I'm not intentionally encouraging anyone to commit suicide by sharing my own experiences. What someone does afterward is not my responsibility.

 

[Leonard_Bangley39]

i never really thought about anything like that. I mostly just use this as a place to vent and crashout about me hating myself and wanting to kms.

If i did that on any other platform id either get banned or everyone would just say they dont care and that im attention whoring

 

[Pale_Rider]

Yes. Sometimes. But I also have nowhere else to go. This is the only place I'm aware of that I can text what I NEED to text, and not be immediately banned, or attacked by a mob.

 

[qewpie]

i feel like this is the only place where such thoughts are allowed and accepted. even in chronic illness communities where these thoughts are so common, it still feels taboo. so im not at all guilty

 

[madwoman]

I feel conflicted with it. I am suicidal and pro choice but I do know there's hope out there too. But this is the only safe space I'm aware of that we can be open about it and it's helpful too. Suffering is the worst pain. I try to view it as knowing a person is going to do what they want /feels best for them regardless of me and that I want help too from this site with feeling less alone and my plan. I was grateful to find this site and what I learned. I wish we all didn't feel this way and that our lives would get better where we'd want to stay but at least we can all be less alone here.

 

[Isolatedloser]

I feel conflicted with it. I am suicidal and pro choice but I do know there's hope out there too. But this is the only safe space I'm aware of that we can be open about it and it's helpful too. Suffering is the worst pain. I try to view it as knowing a person is going to do what they want /feels best for them regardless of me and that I want help too from this site with feeling less alone and my plan. I was grateful to find this site and what I learned. I wish we all didn't feel this way and that our lives would get better where we'd want to stay but at least we can all be less alone here.

I feel conflicted too. It's hard to talk about suicide but it's nice we have this safe space here and when I am ready I can achieve suicide with less pain knowing that I didn't fail and only further prolong pain and make the failed attempt worse. Suffering is the worst pain there is. I wish everything was better but it is not but we are not alone.

 

[starboy2k]

Nope. I would feel guilty if I straight up told someone to kill themselves. I never done that on this forum, and I don't plan on doing that either. So Im not guilty of a damn thing.

Suicide being such a taboo topic to the point where us FREELY discussing it would make us look or feel "guilty" is not mine or anyone on here's fault.

 

[ABadPerson]

Maybe, the only reason for this account was to just have somewhere to talk about my life, mental world and suicidal ideation.

I been told by some privately that they felt deep connection with them, but they were all more so me having a conversation with myself publicly if that makes sense.
I don't want to make others lose hope if they are at that breaking point that could tilt either way, but without this forum I would go insane; I hardly see a lot of those posts as any way coherent even to myself, so I'm not exactly sure in what way people are connecting to them.

In the first place, this sort of topic is shunned by vast majority of the internet and irl; so why can't we just have a single place for ourselves?

 

[FadingSnowFake]

I'm grateful to anyone here helping with suggestions and for posting information which could be helpful to me. I feel more selfish than guilty if I do not share the same kind of information I would expect to find on this forum.

 

[always_a_crossroads]

Good question.
On the one hand, I firmly believe that an easy and peaceful death should be available to anyone who is capable of making that decision. If a capable adult, who is not being coerced, has considered their options and is sure they want to ctb, they should be able to access the information and emotional support they need to go through with it.
On the other hand, it gets complicated fast. Who's to judge if someone's "being rational"? Where's the line between "you're being impulsive, wait a few more hours, see if you feel better" - "just wait a few more days" - "weeks" - "months" - "years" - "decades"???
I deeply appreciate a lot of information posted here. But so far I've refrained from discussing methods, even though I've read about them and found it valuable. Feels kinda hypocritical, but eh.

 

[Jadeith]

Guilt? No. I don't think so. I did nothing to bring a person here and i will do nothing to influence their decision unless asked to by said person.
If you seek support, i'll do my best to offer some warm words, or advice even if i'm able to.
If you decided it's time to go, i will share what i've learned about ending one's life.
Will always remind you tho that it is your choice and your alone and it shouldn't be made under pressure or impulse as the effects of said decision are irreversible.

 

[Rose923452]

It's a conflicting feeling. Especially since we have "multiple opinions" due to having DID. So we sort of made some general rules for ourselves:

• We cannot comment on people's methods unless it is to tell them if it won't work/will be painful.
• We cannot reply to active goodbye threads except to say things like "whatever you choose, we hope you find peace"
• We cannot try to publicly workshop new methods on here.

A few more too. We have major issues with Moral OCD and guilt, so if we thought we caused someone to CTB in a potentially dangerous and/or regrettable way, it would probably drive us to CTB too. These are sort of... safety boundaries.

Hey , this is my first ever post here I think , I wanted to ask about why we cannot reply to the active goodbye threads?

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Hey , this is my first ever post here I think , I wanted to ask about why we cannot reply to the active goodbye threads?

I have DID. "We" is referring to our alters. Your choice is your own.

 

[kopebaldy]

I feel guilty that I'm STILL posting lol.

Too much of a pussy to off myself, kinda envious with people who did.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I don't feel guilty at all for posting here.
I'm glad SS exists.

 

[silverana]

I've only just joined but I don't think anyone should feel guilty for posting honestly about how they feel

 

[Marbas]

No. If anything it's nice to have a place to speak with others freely who feel the same way and actually get me.

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

Yes, I worry about it. Some moral and religious views say even considering suicide is wrong. Encouraging others would be at least as bad. But here I am.

 

[hopelesshound]

I'm new here so I can't really speak to the prolonged effects of posting here and reading others messages, but in my mind the material conditions that bring someone to suicide will far outweigh what any individual or even collective group of fellow suicidal people in a forum that doesn't encourage dying can say. It may alleviate their fears and make their decision to ctb less filled with doubt or uncertainty, but it was their lived experiences and overall existence on this planet that brought them to this point. If someone wants to die badly enough, they will do it. I'd rather they not be forced to be alone in their thoughts and suffering on their final days.

 

[idiotmother]

i feel like this is the only place where such thoughts are allowed and accepted. even in chronic illness communities where these thoughts are so common, it still feels taboo. so im not at all guilty

Yes even on surviving antidepressants they get mad if you mention suicide, even though it's a pretty common occurrence with poisonous chemicals gone wrong.