Do neurodiverse people attract neurodiverse people?

[noname223]

The last 3 women I Dated had mental illness. I met two of them through dating apps. I wonder whether there is something in my profile that attracts mentally ill women maybe in a subtle way.

Many of my friends in real life that I met in school are neurodiverse. We were all outcasts and united.

I think I tend to befriend with outcasts and contrarians. People who say no to peer pressure.

 

[Tobacco]

I think there is some truth to this. Currently I've met two other schizophrenics on discord and lots of autistic folks.

 

[noname223]

There was trans woman in college that I had a crush on. I also was very paranoid she considered me insane and weird because of how I behaved. I wrote so much about her in this forum and how she perceived me. This happened 2023.

I am friends with a Borderline woman I met last year in a clinic. She texts from time to time currently. We were pretty close but she is now friends with someone who is now her Favorite person. First, I only knew the first name of her New friend and that she Likes video Games. Then I found out her friend is trans. And well this was not a coincidence. She is now Best friends with the Trans woman I had a crush on. I told my friend to explain to her that I am not insane. I think she thought that about me. And the irony is they met in a clinic for Borderline people. So the trans woman I had a crush on turned out to be Mentally Ill.

One reason why I developed this crush was trans people probably also deal with a lot of mental health issues. I was pretty right. Damn, this is ironic.

Honestly, all women that I became closer with within the last years turned out to be Mentally Ill.

 

[m4rius]

Yeah, for sure.

Generally speaking, it's very natural for people to be attracted to those who are similar to them, so if you're neurodivergent, I'd say it's more likely you'll befriend and feel more comfy with neurodivergent ppl.

I think I tend to befriend with outcasts and contrarians. People who say no to peer pressure.

They're one of my favorites, so long they're contrarian out of good faith.