NSFW Do many men enjoy talking about sex with women?

[noname223]

I am a man. And even I can tell that they prefer to perform sex with them.

I once shared an account with someone else. WIth a woman. And there was a spam mail about something sexual. And accidentally without noticing it I highlighted the mail. I did not want to do that and I realized it only after we spoke about it. She said something to me that you have to press certain buttons in order to highlight a mail and that's very hard to do not intentionally. This made me uncomfortable when I realized it later in the account.

I think she considered it likely that I highlighted it in order to make it visible for her. But honestly I would never ever think about doing something like that intentionally. Even if I was interested in her. This would be fucking harrassment and quite creepy. I don't like making women uncomfortable I hate this notion. And maybe this is why I am not good at flirting because sometimes you need to risk things. But for me the sheer notion seems to be insane. Though, when I thought more about it. Maybe this is what most average men do? And this is why her interpretation wasn't far-fetched.

I once met a woman on a dating app. I didn't mention the topic sex until she brough it to the table. And it turned out she was pretty sexual active and already had sex with a lot of men. Sent me nudes and stuff like that later. I think she chatted with many men. And she said to me she assumed I wasn't that experienced because I didn't brought the topic sex to the table earlier. Usually, men are boasting to her how horny they were. This sounded to me a little bit strange. And I am not sure whether that's the usual experience for women. It also sounded strange to most of my male friends. Is this what men usually do?

 

[Hvergelmir]

Is this what men usually do?

I think this varies widely between cultures; countries and social spheres.
With dating apps in particular, I'd expect the individual platform to have its own norms.

I wouldn't expect most men to be like that. I would however expect most women to have seen men like that.

 

[noname223]

I think this varies widely between cultures; countries and social spheres.
With dating apps in particular, I'd expect the individual platform to have its own norms.

I wouldn't expect most men to be like that. I would however expect most women to have seen men like that.

Good answer.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I've known some men boast about their exploits or, sex in general. It was clearly on their minds a lot.

It can feel quite threatening when men do randomly bring up the subject in a more targetted way though. I suppose I'm kind of grateful in a way, that I didn't/ don't have the looks to draw that attention.

A couple of times, a taxi driver described how a passenger had changed in the backseat and got annoyed at him for looking at her naked. He told me this on two separate occassions. Obviously, it's the sort of thing that would make an impression on someone but, it felt a bit off to tell the same story. He was intrusive in other ways too. Asking about relationship status etc.

I've found most men aren't like that though. Unless it's obvious the person is flirting with them and might be more welcome to it. But again- thankfully really, I don't draw that kind of attention. I imagine more attractive women do though.

 

[SatinSoul]

It's a weird spot when an accident gets misread as creepy despite your harmless intentions.

I'd say most women have a "threat radar" on high alert because so many guys try to turn friendships into either sex or romance at some point. There is technically no harm in those feelings, especially when you both have been friends for longer, but it's stressful because she doesn't want to potentially lose a friend or complicate things between you two. If an accident like this happens, just be honest with her and talk it out. Don't try to panic since over-explaining can look like you're backtracking a move and being very direct and assertive that you are innocent can feel more like a threat than clearing the misunderstanding.

Also, any kind of unrequested nudes, porn or explicit sexual messages are a boundary violation, not just being sexual. No matter the gender.
Dating Apps are especially problematic since most people are just looking for a hookup and not an actual date.

So yeah, from my experience it is very common for men to push or break boundaries, especially on Dating Apps. I assume many women do the same.

To clarify, this is my experience in a western style culture so it might differ in other parts of the world.

 

[FoxSauce]

Idk im mot a man so
I dont tbh

 

[bobsacamano]

I'm in a sexless marriage and so I would like to talk about it but only in a non-creepy or non-threatening way. I'd never ever bring it up. The woman would have to initiate it. And I don't mean sexting. The last thing I want to do is offend or come across as a creep. But since I don't have an outlet it would be nice to at least have a conversation with an open, kind and understanding person.