Depression

[tfht98]

From my experience depressions are underestimated even by some social workers. They are too easy about picking up the daily structure. Like they won't understand how deep the pain of waking up/getting through the day is. Anyone else with the same thoughts?

 

[Smart No More]

I think it's too often the case that people judge things based on a persons outward appearance and what they can muster up the imagination to consider. They don't entertain the notion that there is so much more going on that they neither see nor can imagine.

 

[Marine]

They don't consider the cause, only see the consequences, that is the problem.

 

[Nohopejoe]

People don't seem to understand that it's like there is a 24/7 severe thunderstorm with tornadoes going on inside your head that leaves you broken and tired and unable to think clearly. You are totally bombarded with negative thoughts and you can't stop it. Then they get mad at you for not cheering up. They talk to you and then ask if you were feeling better and when you say no they get mad. I swear sometimes they only want to hear you say that you feel better even if you don't

 

[tfht98]

They don't consider the cause, only see the consequences, that is the problem.

!! Exactly

 

[ewigeruhe]

I think one has also to consider that many of us are living with this for a long time and are able to hide our emotions and avoid certain situations.
I mean how do i explain to a normie that i am pretty much dead inside?

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I think one has also to consider that many of us are living with this for a long time and are able to hide our emotions and avoid certain situations.
I mean how do i explain to a normie that i am pretty much dead inside?

I have a lot of friends asking how I'm doing… But I don't want to tell them how I'm really feeling… I would have all these people trying to save me 24/7…. There's nothing anybody can do anyway… All of my mistakes started decades ago going back to grade school… It's far too late to fix anything

 

[ewigeruhe]

I have a lot of friends asking how I'm doing… But I don't want to tell them how I'm really feeling… I would have all these people trying to save me 24/7…. There's nothing anybody can do anyway… All of my mistakes started decades ago going back to grade school… It's far too late to fix anything

I feel almost the same other that i don't have any friends but yeah i wouldn't want to burden someone with my issues.

 

[annique]

feelings boil down to quale (singular "qualia"). it's utterly impossible to know what other people feel. we have that thing we call empathy, but i like to say that empathy is more about ourselves than it is about others, since we take what others tell us (merely symbols and words) and interpret it according to what we have already experienced in the past. so if one hasn't ever gone through a deep level of suffering, it is hard for them to have a true grasp of that feeling

 

[FuneralCry]

I do believe that people will never be able to understand unless they go through something similar. Most suffering is not visible unless someone says something and everyone experiences life differently after all.

 

[Klophy]

Yeah, depression hits everyone differently the result is the only thing that's the same. They see someone sad and just assume they need to take a walk because that's what worked for them.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Yeah I had a phone therapist during lockdown ask why are you still depressed (after 20 years)??? He just sounded exasperated and confused. I didn't really know what to tell him.

 

[Brianiskillingme]

I hide behind a smile, but to be honest I want to die every day. I have my SN but worry about my daughter and how she will do without me.

 

[Lost Magic]

They call depression like a huge black dog laying on your chest. But I think It's more like a pack of wolves ripping you apart. Nobody will understand just how debilitating severe depression is until they have lived through it. I mean most people get sad from time to time. However, when that sadness is all consuming, it's just a living hell.

 

[tfht98]

I think one has also to consider that many of us are living with this for a long time and are able to hide our emotions and avoid certain situations.
I mean how do i explain to a normie that i am pretty much dead inside?

True!

 

[Smart No More]

Yeah I had a phone therapist during lockdown ask why are you still depressed (after 20 years)??? He just sounded exasperated and confused. I didn't really know what to tell him.

When it goes like that you instantly just feel a huge void between yourself and your practitioner don't you? I do. Like they will just never be abke or inclined to make that leap into the unknown to really understand and treat you. My personal experience is with physical health issues which impact my brain. That's bad but it must be even harder when it's depression or mental health issues because people like that have a kind of 'snap out of' attitude as though it's something you're allowing to happen not something you're afflicted with. Try explaining that and it falls on condescending ears. They tend to act as though you couldn't possibly know what's going on and their medical training should bw cowed down too. It's a dangerous arrogance that permeates throughout the medical system. I just hope that one day it' recognised and they realise just how poorly they treated people in our day and age. It's a real injustice and effectively quite abusive as far as I'm concerned.

 

[freedompass]

I don't like how they see that you are animated, chatty, laughing and joking and from that they say ah you're doing really well. When all they're seeing is the tip of an iceberg of pain, loneliness and alienation.