CTB date coming up, looking for ways to lessen the blow on my family

[nothingchanges]

My family's really great. I got lucky in that way so I'm wondering if anyone's come up with a novel way or ways of lessening the harm of ctb on family? Anything i can do or say in a note that would make this easier on them. Thanks in advance

 

[siray]

You can't make it easy on them if you CTB suddenly. I plan on moving to another city 2500km away and staying there for a few months with little to no contact with family, I'll take up a small job in a hotel/restaurant, plus climate there is great, it doesn't exceed 24 C and abundant rainfall, I'll live my last months there. This will slightly reduce the grief my family will go through when I die, I hope.

Also, if you happen to get very sick and are hospitalised or at bedrest for months, your family will watch you waste away and it might also reduce grief if you CTB after a crippling sickness. A cousin of mine had organ failure and he killed himself in hospital bed by detaching vital tubes on his arm.

I am of course not suggesting that you expose yourself to STD or delta coronavirus, it would be foolish to voluntarily cause it, terminal illnesses happen by chance and probability.

In any case, your family will grieve you, but not more than a couple of years, they'll live their lives without mentioning your name.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think the only thing for me that can help, is a note. Mine would say things like 'theres nothing you could have done' and 'now I am in a better place', things like that could give a bit of closure I guess. It is hard, as suicide is a pain cycle to end our own it passes it on to others. However I would never suffer for the sake of others and always put myself first.

 

[Alwaysdreaming]

I've been taking the time write out the things I couldn't tell my loved ones. Explaining why I have chosen this path and how I do understand that they will suffer no matter what I say. No one wins in this situation. Even though I know they will suffer I must do what I feel is best for me.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

This is from my "perspective" based on my "experiences" I would write that there is nothing they could have done to help you because this is your wishes. I don't know your specific reasons for CTB.
However just convey as much as possible how it wasn't their fault, and there is nothing they could have done to solve it.

display notes for financial obligations if you're over 18.

display notes to legal authorities

 

[L-L]

A lot of responses here are going to be personal, and mine is no different.

I don't think there is a way to lessen the response. A normal human life span is doesn't end early in suicide and so if you're does it will cause upset to those closes.

If you think it will lessen the blow, a note saying it isn't their fault might go down well.

 

[Jumping_realms]

Yeah, that's my problem. I seem to want to write out this long philosophical note on "why", when I will not even feel or know a single reaction.

I need to just be easier on myself, write something meaningful enough, and CTB.

I've suffered long enough.