Venting Being short as a man is a death sentence

[stepanch1k]

Height for a man is one of the biggest factors in life, I think everyone here has already seen the chart showing height and suicide rate. It's a also a very important for mating success, as well as intrasexual relationships, since being tall means your more dominant and a leader. I just wish that the uncontrollable things wouldn't control your life outcome. The halo effect tall people get is crazy, while short people get the oposite.
I'm not even that short myself (jfl, that's just a fucking cope to keep me sane, for reference I'm around 170), I know a guy who's 2 meters tall and just the diffrence in treatment that he gets vs what I get makes me so depressed at night.
Anyways I gotta "improoove" and man up and shit, it's fucking sad and it's fucking over

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I dunno, i'm about 6ft and i get treated like shit constantly. The only difference is i get called tall before being abused sometimes.

 

[Enyan]

Idk if it's a cultural difference or if the whole height obsession is just a younger generation thing, but where I live, "short" guys don't have many issues dating and finding success. I'm sure there's beneficial treatment of taller guys, btw, not saying there isn't, but being short is not a death sentence. I'm sorry it's so hard for you where you live.

(Also I don't even see 1,70m as that short, and I'm from a country where 1,78m is the average for men.)

 

[DarkShadows]

It's never been an issue for me but I'm not and never have been a social person. I actually think it comes with some benefits like I want to be inconspicuous and being short helps imo and I think people are nicer to me because I don't seem intimidating to them along with looking young and not being unattractive.

Being tall does help with social status and attraction along with other things but it's not something I care much about.

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I kind of get the feeling you're on the looksmax or incel forums. Those forums do not accurately portray real life. Look at all the couples walking around there's loads of short men with partners, ugly men with partners etc. Yeah, being tall does help, but it's not the be all or end all.

 

[LetMeOut67]

I'm tall but I look like I been dragged through hell and was only vaguely attractive in my much younger years certainly not now

 

[telekon]

Don't let anyone here gaslight you…it absolutely matters and people are straight up fucking dicks to short people. I don't know who's worse, the girls or the guys. I'm 30 now and I still get treated like a child and I know it wouldn't be like this if I wasn't 5'5. However it's not a death sentence. I like that you mentioned "the opposite of the halo effect" because lately I think people really think I'm a demon.

However I don't think it's a death sentence. Or maybe it is idk. Maybe that is the whole reason I'm here after all it's mostly because of my social life and inability to be respected, especially at work. I say it's not a death sentence because I respect myself. I love myself, I love my height even. I wouldn't trade my height to be 200 cm in a million years (which is freakishly tall btw). It would be really nice to be between 5'11 and 6'2 but this is the hand I was dealt. What I can't stand is how people will try and use it to humiliate you. Don't ever take anyone seriously who takes height seriously. People here are right. It's such a stupid cultural thing. You're not an incel or anything similar because you complain about this. It's bullshit.

It gets better though. Once you're older it really doesn't matter and people care more that you are happy and confident rather than being tall. My best advice is just don't think about it. If any thought like this comes again just forget about it. It's sooo fucking stupid to be upset about this and you only are because society is stupid. Remember that…society is fucking retarded. You are not.

Idk if it's a cultural difference or if the whole height obsession is just a younger generation thing

Yes, it is the younger generations. Anyone born after 1993 has to deal with this but way worse if you're after 2000

 

[iguazo falls]

i don't think its a death sentence but it sucks. i think my strat is to play up the young twink thing for whatever it's worth and make the most of it and own it (its probably worse to try and compensate alot since people will see through it). the handsomest guy i know is shorter than me, he also grooms himself quite well and dresses well. i think tho theres something to be said for how shit straight people treat eachother (or how viral vain criticisms of either gender recieves) because ive started being less attracted to women and prefer the idea of a male partner.

the more important thing is to not internalise it, but definitely still acknowledge you deserve better. i had some lady laugh at me recently just by hearing my voice and honestly the last thing i want is to impress her cause she doesn't know what i've been through. in my workplace which is relatively blue collar and requires a lot of confidence/standing your ground has a lot of very tall large guys but some short guys and femme guys too who excel. in the workplace you will probably have to work harder to "assimilate" but if you aren't valued enough to be a necessary inconvience for some people then its time to keep looking IMO.

the other thing it probably really depends where you live and whos around you.

 

[hiding the roses]

its only liveable if youre gay or desperate enough to tolerate the disrespect