Cauliflour
I'm the doodler, I make terrible doodles.
- Mar 24, 2025
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ITES not apps. I refuse to use apps like Tinder due to the gameification of loneliness being utterly disgusting and I know there's other kinds of sites out there cause my parents met on a dating site in the 2000s which was more like pen pals according to them with the way it was designed. NO scrolling/swiping/you know what I mean.
I'm just feeling lonely with myself and I've never been brave enough to ask out a girl irl. I'm an adult and I haven't been in a relationship yet which paired with a general feeling of loneliness due to most people irl not really understanding me or my interests, yeah not fun. I'm also worried that if I get to like my mid-late 20s with no dating experience then I'll wind up as prime grooming territory. I already have the autism, don't want to make it any easier for a toxic asshole to use me. I don't even care about sex, I just wanna be able to have a crush on someone without the inevitable anxiety that has come with previous crushes.
That being said, does anybody know any dating websites which aren't a scrolling nightmare and also are good enough for sapphics? I've done a bit of research but these websites don't go that much in depth on the actual functionality and their community. I don't want to ask anyone I know irl cause I don't want to admit to them that I'm really lonely cause they never seem to understand and I don't want to look pathetic to them (also I don't want to ask my parents cause my mum keeps making assumptions about my mental health so she'll definitely interpret that wrong).
Sasu is not a valid answer, before that one freak asks: I'm here to vent, not to start the plot of a romcom.
ITES not apps. I refuse to use apps like Tinder due to the gameification of loneliness being utterly disgusting and I know there's other kinds of sites out there cause my parents met on a dating site in the 2000s which was more like pen pals according to them with the way it was designed. NO scrolling/swiping/you know what I mean. I'm just feeling lonely with myself and I've never been brave enough to ask out a girl irl. I'm an adult and I haven't been in a relationship yet which paired with a general feeling of loneliness due to most people irl not really understanding me or my interests, yeah not fun. I'm also worried that if I get to like my mid-late 20s with no dating experience then I'll wind up as prime grooming territory. I already have the autism, don't want to make it any easier for a toxic asshole to use me. I don't even care about sex, I just wanna be able to have a crush on someone without the inevitable anxiety that has come with previous crushes.
That being said, does anybody know any dating websites which aren't a scrolling nightmare and also are good enough for sapphics? I've done a bit of research but these websites don't go that much in depth on the actual functionality and their community. I don't want to ask anyone I know irl cause I don't want to admit to them that I'm really lonely cause they never seem to understand and I don't want to look pathetic to them (also I don't want to ask my parents cause my mum keeps making assumptions about my mental health so she'll definitely interpret that wrong).
Sasu is not a valid answer, before that one freak asks: I'm here to vent, not to start the plot of a romcom.
