Am I The Only One Here Who Desires Solitude???

[AngelTear]

As the title suggests, I feel like I'm the only guy here who wants solitude in my life and not love or any relationships (besides a few platonic ones.)
Seeing people talk about it so often makes me feel more alienated...but I mean I'm already an alien among us

Anyways I'm just being curious as usual

 

[Custos]

You're not the only one. I don't need many people, just cats.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes. I spend maybe 96% of my time alone. If I do have to be around people, I'm usually so relieved to be alone again.

I think I'd struggle as an island. I enjoy keeping in contact with a handful of people but, not in person. Via online or texting.

I especially prefer to work alone. I really dislike working with others. I can do it but, it tends to crush my confidence.

A landlady once described it as the following though- to figure out which 'type' of person you are- what do you need to do to recharge your batteries? Be around others or, be by yourself? I tend to find being around people drains me. It's usually nice to be alone once more.

Maybe it's because I feel a pressure to not humiliate myself around others. Which, tends to happen regardless!

Are you able to be alone or, do you have to socialise where you live or work? I used to. I suppose I survived but, it wasn't entirely pleasant.

 

[LigottiIsRight]

I'm leaning more and more towards solitude too. I enjoy social interaction (although sometimes is a bit boring), but I can spend large periods of time without meeting people in person. I've found recently that I'm fed up with one to one chat conversations, I prefer doing whatever else before having to put the effort to think and write responses. So I'm taking another step in the realms of living by oneself.
Also I realized that I don't want new close relationships, they require too much work and friction. Also, I don't need to share my thoughts and hobbies or vent about my problems. I prefer superficial interactions based on the fun of the moment, the laughters without the pains.

 

[Grog]

I enjoy my solitude somewhat. I am sort of a misanthrope. However, I think I would enjoy being in the company of someone who gets me, accepts me, and loves me for being me.

 

[Captive_Mind515]

I'm a recluse, have been for a very long time. Without solitude I start to get high anxiety and my ocd gets very bad. I don't actually hate people. But I agree with the comedian George Carlin when he said he likes people individually, but not when in large groups. I think it's a great observation, that people very often change when in groups. I really hate social pressure to fit in or conform.

 

[Macedonian1987]

I used to desperately need friends and relationships. I used to desperately need to have a girlfriend when i was younger. Now after a lifetime of loneliness (I'm 38) I began to actually desire to be alone without friends and without a girlfriend. I guess staying alone for far too long can really mess up your mind.

 

[Rust]

This is a very confusing topic for me. Historically, I never desired connection, felt left out or had a desire for companionship. I would happily sit awkwardly alone in high school and even lamented when the few good individuals of this earth would approach me to speak to me out of pity. I always had trouble conveying that I was happy being distant with others. In-fact, I genuinely thought for a while that connecting with other people was just a social norm that people arbitrarily followed as opposed to an innate desire.

A few years ago, I thought this was just social anxiety. So I intentionally took up a fairly social job to "fix" myself. I never changed though, and learnt that I could be social in a work context, but that my personal life would remain the exact same. This wasn't really a problem, but I guess with the hope gone that something would be fixed, I realised that this is what my life is and how it will always be. That made life feel awfully grey, so these days, and out of desperation, I'm seeking some degree of action and reaction to make life feel less grey.

So basically, the summary is that I'm lost and while I'm seemingly a solitary creature by nature, I'm not opposed to talking to others (when I have the energy).

 

[yufu]

I wish i could live in a civilized cave by myself or that rich people would pay hermits to live in their gardens again

 

[Pluto]

 

[AngelTear]

Mrreeeooooww~?

 

[Hollowman]

No

 

[Lamentice]

I'm on both the ace & aro spectrums, I've never seriously envisioned my future and been with a partner. If I could spend the rest of my life alone just hanging out with myself and doing my own thing undisturbed and undisrupted, I would be happy & content. People & working with people are some of the biggest reasons I want to exit. I really like myself and my own company, but I'm both disinterested in others and agitated by their presence. I work customer service too, and all my coworkers & bosses are passionate "lifelongers" in the service industry, I loathe them & loathe the customers. It's not easy to hide, and even though I try it seems like people can smell it on me.

 

[Lov3]

I feel good about myself, I like spending time alone because I do the things I want and enjoy.

But I can also date someone, although that's never a necessity for me. The last time I dated, it was really good and I took that relationship seriously.

From my point of view, dating has to be a choice and not a necessity

 

[Ariii]

I find that when I'm even just friends with ppl beyond just casually, my emotions become really unstable, can't imagine what I'd be like in a relationship. I mean I like talking to people for entertainment, I just don't like anything else and it makes me more suicidal

Lucky that I like being alone so much, otherwise I'd be a total mess. Overall I'm just so much happier and peaceful by myself

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I have family in the house with me and it drives me nuts. Solitary confinement would be a blessing not punishment. Every interaction I have with people is unpleasant and bad for them. People exhaust me but I don't hate them. I hate the effect I have on them.