Would you: Date someone with shit personality but hot, or someone polite but not too attractive?

[Avril]

I just want to know your opinions.

P.S. I'm not attractive and I have a shit personality

 

[motel rooms]

I wouldn't date him, I'd fuck him. The hot one, of course. I'd punish the shit out of his shit personality.

 

[summers]

I don't date, but for fwb, definitely the nice one. Idgaf how cute someone is, if I can't get along with them, not doing anything else.

 

[Looooser]

I think personality is the most important for me. Beauty is only a light switch away. Lol. But seriously if a woman doesn't have a good personality that meshes well with mine that it'll never work. I like the person to have good hygiene as well. I love making out so teeth, smells coming from different body parts are just not attractive to me.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

It doesn't really matter in my case because I too am ugly both inside and out. Therefore nobody should ever logically even give me the choice.

 

[stellabelle]

It never mattered to me what someone looked like. Unfortunately I always wound up trying to fit into a role or space or a body that I never would. There were times where I had glimpses of happiness. It turned into a very dark, ugly mess. And to this day I still do not heal from the shit I have "lived" through. How fuckin stupid.

People forced shit on me that I didn't like. Very early on. And continued to force it and threaten and push me until I basically just snapped and gave up, I gave up repeatedly. I have seen the same cycles repeatedly and basically just give up. I give up.

 

[LastFlowers]

"not too attractive" lol
What about not attractive at all?
That's the real question.

Of course plenty of people already do settle for the pretty/handsome face with a shit personality (when they're not blindly insisting that the personality is actually not bad), or they act like they're some Saint by indicating that personality also matters, keyword being "also", as in looks are still a major factor no matter what, and that's the problem.

 

[lobster salad]

I feel bad to be the first and probably only to admit it, but looks does matter to me maybe a bit more than personality. I know this makes me so childish and shallow. However if they had a arrogant or really bad personality it will be a complete turn off regardlesd of look. I know wouldnt date someone who is particularly unattractive even if they had a golden personality, it'd bring zero pleasure to me and i doubt i can miss somethinh thats ugly. Speaking honestly, i have 'bad taste' I Like fat women i think theyre so cute. So maybe it doesnt even matter argh

 

[Someone123]

The nice one if she is willing to make an effort to work out together and do other things to improve appearance- it's a lot easier to fix the body than the mind.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

The nice one if she is willing to make an effort to work out together and do other things to improve appearance- it's a lot easier to fix the body than the mind.

Honestly, if someone was like "I'll date you but only if you workout and fix your face" I'd tell them to go fuck themselves.

 

[Someone123]

Honestly, if someone was like "I'll date you but only if you workout and improve your appearance." I'd tell them to go fuck themselves.

Well, I had a relationship with a girl that went like that, but it wasn't presented like that. We got along well, started going out, and got a gym membership together, and it made the relationship better that we both worked out togther- it wasn't presented like that, and the relationship worked out fine. If one person takes care of their appearance in a relationship and one doesn't, this doesn't work out too well- both people should make an effort.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Well, I had a relationship with a girl that went like that, but it wasn't presented like that. We got along well, started going out, and got a gym membership together, and it made the relationship better that we both worked out togther- it wasn't presented like that, and the relationship worked out fine. If one person takes care of their appearance in a relationship and one doesn't, this doesn't work out too well- both people should make an effort.

I'm not overweight so I don't know how I would feel about something like that, but I think I would feel weird if I knew right up front the the person wasn't really attracted to me. That if I got injured or sick and couldn't work out, and gained weight, the relationship might be over.

I've been with my husband for 17 years, when you're married for a long time you learn to look past that stuff.

 

[Manaaja]

I love your avatar! And it's always nice to see more non-binary people! (though on the other hand, maybe seeing anyone on a SUICIDE forum isn't nice?)

That said, I have seen so many who I find attractive when others don't, and who I find ugly when others don't, and to add.. Everyone is beautiful in a dark room but not everyone has a good personality in a dark room. So personality > looks. Especially if they hack Elden Ring to work on Windows 8 machines.

 

[Sherri]

Sounds like a chliche but most women gives for what's inside that guys head , politeness, mannerism , know how to treat us. Now shallow girls they choose muscle and abs to the opposite of all that, they forget that once they will stop working out all those abs will turn into fat, look at Arnold, S . I personally find a small belly sexy.

 

[LADY007]

I just want to know your opinions.

P.S. I'm not attractive and I have a shit personality

Much better off with the good personality....either sex. Good looking people get used to getting a lot of attention and can miss all the flirting if committed to one person.

 

[toseeyousmile]

I think I'd pick both, Im too starved for love and affection and would fall for anybody tbh...

 

[deletednumber]

Definitely the second one
but i wouldn't mind date them both

 

[cocainenosejobs]

Honestly I would date both

 

[ultrafuntimes]

The first one.
Genuinely good people make me uneasy. Shitty people feel more "real" I guess. I know thinking this way isn't right, but emotional intimacy scares me too much for it to matter anyways. A good person deserves someone better than me.
Maybe I'm like this because I actually want the best for people, maybe it's for the sake of my own ego, maybe it's a little of both. I don't know.

 

[WadeingThru]

I think I'd pick both, Im too starved for love and affection and would fall for anybody tbh...

@toseeyousmile meet @Dr Iron Arc

 

[toseeyousmile]

@toseeyousmile meet @Dr Iron Arc

He just like me fr

 

[Squalo]

I'm too shy to date with anyone, but if I could I would choose the second option: I don't feel very attractive and a very hot partner could cause me anxiety and fear.