What were some of your goals before age 20?

[Journeytoletgo]

For me personally I didn't have money goals. I always had creative goals like learning guitar, writing a book, creating a video game. Nothing money dominated. I mean I was aware we were poor, I tried to wear the fashionable clothes but I just felt like complete shit for my severe acne.

 

[unkuto]

I had no goals and I still don't have any. That's the saddest part.

 

[FuneralCry]

My goal was to die, I was very suicidal when I was a teenager but at 21 I am still here and it sadly looks like I could be here for a long time. I am trapped in this world as it is so difficult to leave. I have never really had any life goals, there is nothing that I have ever wanted out of life and not much that I am capable of doing anyway. I wish I left years ago, I just see no point to me being here and the future looks even more hopeless.

 

[CommitSudoku]

I had a goal to die at age 19, or preferably before that.

 

[whywere]

Well, that was before 1976 for me, yikes! I was kicked out at 18 and the primary goal was food, shelter, clothing, medical and dental care. Unlike my brother and sister who had it made from the get-go, since I was the "mistake" in the eyes of my "parents", I at 18 had to work, heck like work all the time, to just not be homeless and have some food.

I made it in the world, but 100% by the sweat of working nonstop. Never, ever had anything handed to me and/or given, never, all me or starve.

That was before the age of 20.

Walter

 

[Nightmare Painting]

I never had goals because I never believed that I had any other future other than suicide because of how mentally broken I always was.

 

[its-about-time]

While my pre-adult years were suicidal and rough, I did have big goals of college and world travel. Between 18-19 I achieved those goals, not in their lifetime entirety but I worked and saved up and traveled the globe and then went to a college I was excited about. Then mental illness really took hold and it's been shit since then. Had to drop out, stopped working and traveling, etc. My lifetime goal was 1 country for every year of my age. I've fallen quite behind. I'm almost 26 and I've been to 20 countries. I know many will say I'm fortunate, and I am. It's just that much more heartbreaking to know the excitement and potential I had before things really got bad. I mourn that younger me. As hard as things were then, it's nothing compared to now.

 

[deathbydragon]

Had none & planned to die before that age for years. I went to university with the sole plan of giving me time to off myself before I had to start looking for work.

That didn't happen, since I decided to wait till I was 25 instead. My outlook is only more solidified now.

 

[NSA]

Figure out what's wrong with me, go to college, get a job, make lots of money and do interesting shit.

Clearly I haven't succeeded in any of it.

 

[BigGimpin]

I wanted a career racing motorcycles and win a championship. Started riding when I was just 4 years old, but a practice crash ended those goals when I was just 15 years old and left me paralyzed. Been in a wheelchair for 37 years.

I did reach one of those goals though, I won a championship racing off road cars.

I feel like I have achieved a lot in my 52 years, but I have fully worn out my body and am in so much physical pain I cant take it anymore.

 

[Of The Universe]

Well, that was before 1976 for me, yikes! I was kicked out at 18 and the primary goal was food, shelter, clothing, medical and dental care. Unlike my brother and sister who had it made from the get-go, since I was the "mistake" in the eyes of my "parents", I at 18 had to work, heck like work all the time, to just not be homeless and have some food.

I made it in the world, but 100% by the sweat of working nonstop. Never, ever had anything handed to me and/or given, never, all me or starve.

That was before the age of 20.

Walter

Hey WW,you are the best. My question: Did you as a yoot,ever think of joining the army, or did you ever join the hippies?? J/C!

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I wanted to be an animation major until I was around my early 20s. The first two years of the major were brutal though because it turned out I only enjoyed doodling things in class and drawing because I have to is just as exhausting and tedious as any other form of work for me. With that out of the way I've come to realize I don't like doing anything productive, which is why I eventually studied and graduated in Businsess Management but even that kind of job requires more work than I'm willing to put in at all.

I also wanted to get over the girl I had been infatuated with since I was 11. I sort of did in around 2013 when I was 19 but I ended up with new people later down the line to feel heartbroken over. Oh well. I also used to have a goal to die before age 30 if I could never find a girlfriend by then but about a year and a half ago I decided I'd rather just end things much sooner so here I am at 28 years old ready to die later this year.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I wanted to save the world (from environmental destruction). But had my head in the clouds with zero understanding of how the real world worked. A "nervous breakdown" at 22 sent me into years of depression and survival mode.

 

[NorseHel]

I had plans to get into game development, maybe move to England or Canada to pursue a career in it over there. Managed the first part, but my health quickly caught up to me and now after a little over two and a half years of being a professional game developer, I've been forced to retire. It's not what I'd imagined, but... I suppose I'm proud for at least getting this far.

 

[treetop.grazer]

I always wanted to move to and live in Canada. Never happened, been there loads on holidays just never managed to move over there.

 

[fastlife]

Mijn doel was om te sterven, ik was erg suïcidaal toen ik een tiener was, maar op mijn 21e ben ik hier nog steeds en het ziet er helaas naar uit dat ik hier nog lang zou kunnen zijn. Ik zit gevangen in deze wereld omdat het zo moeilijk is om te vertrekken. Ik heb nooit echt levensdoelen gehad, er is niets dat ik ooit in het leven heb gewild en niet veel dat ik toch kan doen. Ik wou dat ik jaren geleden was vertrokken, ik zie gewoon geen zin om hier te zijn en de toekomst ziet er nog hopelozer uit.

Can you pm me plss

 

[sourokraandfish]

I had plans of working in healthcare and was going to college for it. But right now the desire to die dominates everything.

 

[whywere]

I had plans of working in healthcare and was going to college for it. But right now the desire to die dominates everything.

Howdy! I am 66 years old, reference point for this message, and I went to college at the age of 24 and got my 4 years at 28.

I looked at the healthcare field and finally went a different direction, BUT I 100% believe in YOU, as far as we need so many folks in the healthcare field and YOU will be awesome.

From 18 to 24, I worked in the agriculture field and finally decided that I wanted something different/better than what I was doing. Went to college, boy the first year was tough, as I had been out of high school for 6 years, and the profs talked to most of the students that were like 18 and just out of high school, BUT I worked and made it.

I truly believe that you will make a excellent person in the healthcare field and I stand with you all the way as everyone here is like my family to me and you are part of that. I have no family nor friends, except all the fine folks here, and I want the very best for you.

I just started a new position, at 66! and I like it and the ability to help others and you are family to me and I want the best for you also, my great friend.

Sending you lots of hugs, knowledge that you are awesome! and beautiful blue sunny skies to enjoy this week.

Walter

PS. Yep real first name and have never gotten around to changing it as I never liked it very much.

 

[bing]

I wasn't really sure but mostly have a wife and a house

Too hard to get those things in 2022

 

[Message In A Bottle]

Never really had any goals - Just ideas that I would tell people who asked so it made it seem like I had direction.

I thought maybe, "well what about college?" since people go all gaga for that nowadays. But it doesn't help when you don't know what you wanna do in the first place.

Would be nice to test the waters, but you can't do that without the debt bill going up.

 

[roo]

18 rn, i'd like to go to college, hoping a new era would make me feel less stuck in life. i would like to become a zoologist ultimately

 

[ceserasera]

This hits different because I turned 21 just two months ago. I wanted to be free of compulsions that dominate my life, stop me being with my family and friends, make me someone I'm not, stop me studying and getting my degree, doing a job I enjoy and find fulfilling. I think people need to remember that as much as we're in control of our lives, other factors influence the outcomes. I think I was full of optimism and what I thought was unrelenting hope. Nothing could put it out no matter how hard things got. But now that light's gone out and it's because other people put it out. The world has weighed me down.

 

[Shu]

I wanted a career racing motorcycles and win a championship. Started riding when I was just 4 years old, but a practice crash ended those goals when I was just 15 years old and left me paralyzed. Been in a wheelchair for 37 years.

I did reach one of those goals though, I won a championship racing off road cars.

I feel like I have achieved a lot in my 52 years, but I have fully worn out my body and am in so much physical pain I cant take it anymore.

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Damn. :/ now I know how gimpin became paralyzed. Rip man.

 

[jimmy7754]

I think I was off course ever since I was 18 going to music college.

 

[Kismet]

I'm in my 30's now. Never had any real goals. Make it to graduation if that counts. Work hard and do it better than the other person was about it. That's probably why I'm where i am with no people in my life. I genuinely thought work was life and lost touch with friends, never made new friends, never had kids. Work, work, work. Looking back now, I would have invested in people and not work

 

[Weebster]

Become wealthy and have sex with an escort every night

 

[Heartaches]

I wanted to begin my art career, have a pre-established following and a portfolio to get some notoriety to work with potential costumers. I'm not dissatisfied with what I have now, but it's far from that dumb idealized thought I had for many years. I struggle to focus on one thing so I rarely finish what I start, then I feel totally dissatisfied with the work I did and just scrap it. I feel I can't truly express my feelings through my art. I'm a nobody, my faith on my work dwindles constantly.

I wanted to study Uni in another country. I'm still at a good time to begin Uni, but I'm tired of the education system and my depression barely lets me do anything. I probably won't study outside due to my severe mental health problems, I'd have no one to rely on and I don't trust myself to not drop out when shit inevitably hits the fan. Similar situation with job-hunting, I wanna get a job and make my own money, but again, if I'm already skipping school continously so I'd most likely get fired not long after I get hired.

I wanted to lose my virginity because almost everyone my age has already lost theirs. I don't care anymore, I don't think sex can bring anything positive to my life.

I wanted to have my own house. Prices here are higher than the Eiffel Tower and again, no job. I'm still living with my family and I hate it.

I wanted to travel outside of my hometown, around my country and the world. I've never left my country, though, I'm happy with the places I've gone to, I just wish I could see more.

I wanted to be slim, healthy and beautiful. I'm not, I struggle with workouts and routine, gym was fun but pandemic fucked it up. I still can try again but I feel so intimidated. I loved dancing since I was young but left it when I hit adolescence, I don't know why; I miss it but I'm not sure if I'm still capable of doing it after so many years. I always had an interest in gymnastics, ballet and boxing, although I think I could only do boxing considering everyone who practices the former two are considerably younger than me. I've never been attractive and I doubt I'll be.

I wanted to learn an instrument and/or singing, but I never got the motivation to look for classes, it seemed like too much work.

I wanted to die, but I'm a pussy and only self-harm, I'm too dumb for methods and my social anxiety keeps me from buying the stuff necessary to do so.

I wanted to be someone my family and friends could be proud, but I'm just a waste. Most of my childhood friends and classmates have drastically changed and have gone on to do something with their lives, but I haven't. I'm just waiting till my days come to an end, whenever that may be.

And that's the story of my life. Soon I'll be 20, but sometimes I wish I don't get to see that happen.​

 

[Lance Stone]

I dont turn 20 for another 350 something days, and if I am being 100 percent with you, no I have no goals. I just have the goal of being able to put a 20 gauge to my head and pulling the trigger.