Help what do you do when you cant cope

[kindawannacrylol]

Gosh im hurting so bad and i can't cope with living anymore, i can't find the right ctb method either, i feel so trapped. I'm crying so much i can't breathe, i cry when i wake up the thought of starting a new day is too much for me. I don't know what to do, does anyone have any good coping mechanisms?

 

[the_final_countdown]

I listen to rain, hold a pillow, talk to someone, put something on in the background, take a warm shower.

Hope you feel better.

I've been there.

 

[NodusTollens]

I'm really sorry to hear you're hurting so much, love. What you're going through sounds overwhelming. HUGS.

When I'm feeling like that I spend some time on SS, watch my favourite shows/movies, eat some comfort food. Sometimes exercising helps if I have the energy.

Hope this helps, take care.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Medication. If your brain is messed up to the point you're always crying/upset, the only thing you can really do is numb yourself. When you're spiraling and you can't function, you've got to change those chemicals up there. Basically over the years I've learned that no matter how bad things are, you can at least rid yourself of the worst of the fear and dread. I am lucky that I am back on meds now and doing okay, but I've had periods where I was absolutely terrible (when I was off them). You can get through this. Most of the truly negative feelings can be overcome if the meds are right for you and strong enough. I would say aim for the feeling of being unfazed. That is likely the best you can hope for if things are really bad.

 

[foxdie]

Sorry to hear you're struggling. Sometimes a hot shower/bath helps me. Drugs and alcohol can numb me a bit but that's temporary. Watching stuff can help too. Hope this helps

 

[NodusTollens]

Sorry to hear you're struggling. Sometimes a hot shower/bath helps me. Drugs and alcohol can numb me a bit but that's temporary. Watching stuff can help too. Hope this helps

Yes! Hot shower/bath for the win. Completely forgot about that. Cold showers help too- if you can stand it.

 

[Fragile]

This is not good in the long-run, or even in the short term, but whenever I feel like that (which is almost always) I just take enough drugs to black out and then pass out.

There are much better ways to deal with it, like going out for a walk, specially if you live near a park or even better, a vast green and open area. it's really comforting to do so, I wish I could bring myself to do it more often but my body can't even take a short hike anymore.

 

[kindawannacrylol]

This is not good in the long-run, or even in the short term, but whenever I feel like that (which is almost always) I just take enough drugs to black out and then pass out.

There are much better ways to deal with it, like going out for a walk, specially if you live near a park or even better, a vast green and open area. it's really comforting to do so, I wish I could bring myself to do it more often but my body can't even take a short hike anymore.

what drugs?

 

[Wrennie]

I browse here and pet my cats whenever I'm feeling on the verge of CTB. It helps some but unfortunately I don't know of anything that's capable of suppressing the feeling entirely.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I try to distract myself by any means necessary, when that fails I usually put on some background noise to lull me into taking a nap to clear my head. Sometimes I wake up feeling even worse though so I don't know what to do from that point.

 

[Fragile]

what drugs?

Anything that I can get on my hands, really.

Lately I've been using tons of weed edibles with pills like pregabalin, benzos, even painkillers.
Also, a cup of fresh coffee is really helpful when dealing with a depressive episode, and that's something much less damaging than the other things I've mentioned.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

I'm wondering if you've approached your GP about how you're feeling?
Your GP can refer you to the Community Mental Health Services where you can get the help you so obviously need right now.
Please reach out for the help you deserve.

 

[Bazzinga]

I have bad coping mechanisms I cut, I take some random pills anything to make me feel something besides the numbness

 

[Sea Turtle]

Watching random shows, YouTube videos, movies.
Just closing my eyes in bed and listening to music
Gaming if I have the energy
Going through SS

Probably not good ones,
putting myself to sleep with meds
taking steps towards ctb like (re)writing my note, ordering materials etc

 

[Keto]

My coping method is browse SS forum, thinking and planning to end my life. Rush into seller website and check if "drug" available and in the stock.
Contemplating CTB during dark moments is really a relieve.

 

[albino_elk]

playing video games. i can't cope all the time cuz i have too much of everything. nothing helps really xD..

 

[WornOutLife]

I just try to get outta my apartment and have some fresh air. It's weird but it makes feel better.

Also, I drink. It's bad I guess but I need to escape from this hell somehow.

 

[Deleted member 23885]

I just try to get outta my apartment and have some fresh air. It's weird but it makes feel better.

Also, I drink. It's bad I guess but I need to escape from this hell somehow.

You make me laugh with your matter-of-fact commentary.

 

[Mentalmick]

It might not be healthy but I lock myself away in a dark room, hide under the covers and cease to exist for a while.

 

[wordsonscreen]

Watching random shows, YouTube videos, movies.
Just closing my eyes in bed and listening to music
Gaming if I have the energy
Going through SS

Probably not good ones,
putting myself to sleep with meds
taking steps towards ctb like (re)writing my note, ordering materials etc

Whoa I thought this was just me!! Slowly taking steps to ctb helps so so much

 

[elfgyoza]

I like to game to escape reality for a bit, but my 'bad' coping mechanisms are what I resort to first... self harm or planning to ctb

 

[*Hope*]

I go to bed and lie there thinking over stuff in my head. I dont recommend this however

 

[loopylou]

I switch off. Kind of like auto pilot. A bunch of tissue cells walking around without any feeling.

 

[painoflife]

Ice diving may help. It sometimes does for me.

https://dbtselfhelp.weebly.com/ice-dive.html