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hoppybunny

hoppybunny

Fearer of the Future
Jun 26, 2024
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So ive been slowly feeling better but there are things like school that still set me off. However when i was requesting to be put into a class so i can graduate by the summer, i was reluctant to say the real reason.

I feel like i don't want to waste my time and money on an extra semester should be a good answer. But i also added that being in school is bad for my mental health and that i hated school and was tired of commuting.

I've been dealing with this registration issues since early december but it's only after i said it affected my mental health they fixed it.

And it's like i don't want to go around telling everyone I'll kill myself but like that's legit the only reason why anyone helps me at school.

In my last school they wanted to charge me a cancelation fee for cancelating my room that i won't be using till august in may. I told them the fee was ridiculous and i was already struggling with not jumping out the windows and suddenly the fee was gone.

Like instead of just helping people they really just go out of their way to be assholes and suddenly they can fix things for "mental health reason"

I already feel embarrassed that i can't go through and enjoy college like a normal person, especially after doing so well in High school. I don't want everyone to know that i fantasize about killing myself on the daily. Especially since i know I'll never actually do it because I'm too scared.
 
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In most of the world bureaucracies are expedited by bribery. I was told by a guy that worked in the shipping business that ship's captains had microwaves and mini refrigerators as well as cash so that they could get their ships docked at ports all over the world except US ports because we didn't take bribes.

There are three ways to get someone to do something greed, fear, and logic. Logic is the least used because it is either within the bureaucrats purview, is consistent with a moral view, or requires courage or even simple effort. Greed is usually satisfied by bribery, however, that is not as common in the US as other countries, that leaves fear. Fear is tricky to use. The bureaucrat does not want to get into trouble and can be motivated by fear of their boss, publicity, or legal action. However, fearful people can react irrationally and applying a threat can make them unpredictable.

In the movie the "Maltese Falcon" Humphrey Bogart is telling his captors that their attempts to get information from him are futile because he will always make it a matter of having to kill him. To this Sidney Greenstreet cautions, "Let's be careful because in the heat of the moment men are liable to forget in which direction their best interest lies".

It is sometimes possible to apply pressure in a less direct way. For example, one could ask a bureaucrat if they had a copy of the rules regarding a particular situation because you have friend in law school you would like to have take a look at it. These sort of tactics are tricky because they can go wrong so easily. The mental health angle is probably the most effective. At least you are in the home stretch.
 
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hoppybunny

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In most of the world bureaucracies are expedited by bribery. I was told by a guy that worked in the shipping business that ship's captains had microwaves and mini refrigerators as well as cash so that they could get their ships docked at ports all over the world except US ports because we didn't take bribes.

There are three ways to get someone to do something greed, fear, and logic. Logic is the least used because it is either within the bureaucrats purview, is consistent with a moral view, or requires courage or even simple effort. Greed is usually satisfied by bribery, however, that is not as common in the US as other countries, that leaves fear. Fear is tricky to use. The bureaucrat does not want to get into trouble and can be motivated by fear of their boss, publicity, or legal action. However, fearful people can react irrationally and applying a threat can make them unpredictable.

In the movie the "Maltese Falcon" Humphrey Bogart is telling his captors that their attempts to get information from him are futile because he will always make it a matter of having to kill him. To this Sidney Greenstreet cautions, "Let's be careful because in the heat of the moment men are liable to forget in which direction their best interest lies".

It is sometimes possible to apply pressure in a less direct way. For example, one could ask a bureaucrat if they had a copy of the rules regarding a particular situation because you have friend in law school you would like to have take a look at it. These sort of tactics are tricky because they can go wrong so easily. The mental health angle is probably the most effective. At least you are in the home stretch.
Thank you. And i really hope this will be the last time i have to resort to "scaring" ppl to get them to help me.
 
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8leveloquenfrn4evr8

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the saddest part is that in some countries medical doctors are bureaucrats
 

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