NSFW was this appropriate on the first date?

[mittymittens]

this happened awhile ago but i lost a friend over this so it is on my mind every now and then

basically i met this guy in class, in hindsight he was lovebombing me very quickly on. i did tell him i had bad experiences and i woild like to take things slowly. he agreed to that.
our first date (and essentially it hadnt even been a week since we knew each other) at some point i was hugging him and he just randomly grabbed my neck twice . it was def in a sexual way not that he wws tryna kill me. i didnt rly like it bc we were in public but i was just silent and judt told him what if anyone saw or sth and moved on cus what else r u suppose to do

had an ex friend tell me that boys are just like toddlers and dint know any better and that i probably confused him but the thing is i told him i wwnted to take things slowly the day prior

 

[Zura]

well he was clearly rushing things even when you said that you wanted to take it slow thats not good and it also depends how he reacted when you showed you were not comfortable with that was he apologetic or regretful of his actions
at the end of the day you shouldnt be with someone you are not comfortable with regardless of what your ex friends says just because everyone is getting in relationships doesnt necessarily mean you gotta be in one too tho yea loneliness can get to one at times but whats the point if you are with someone you dont feel safe with
what do you think of this whole interaction do you think he can improve on this or stop being so pushy if he was apologetic at all or do you think he is someone you dont feel comfortable with at the end of the day its your call and you shouldnt let what your ex friends or current friends say influence you
to me personally it did look like he made you uncomfortable

 

[Dejected 55]

I can never tell. I've always wanted to take things slow in the beginning, because that's enjoyable for me and it just feels right. Back when I used to go on blind dates (the only dates I ever was able to have) I had a woman not want to see me again because I didn't try to grope her on the first date. That seemed odd to me for her to have that reaction. But what do I know.

 

[SASU-KE]

If you felt uncomfortable, it was definitely inappropriate, but he needs some leeway. As long as he doesn't keep doing things like that and course corrects , it's fine.Most Guys aren't geniuses when it comes to women

 

[dandelion_fluff]

this happened awhile ago but i lost a friend over this so it is on my mind every now and then

basically i met this guy in class, in hindsight he was lovebombing me very quickly on. i did tell him i had bad experiences and i woild like to take things slowly. he agreed to that.
our first date (and essentially it hadnt even been a week since we knew each other) at some point i was hugging him and he just randomly grabbed my neck twice . it was def in a sexual way not that he wws tryna kill me. i didnt rly like it bc we were in public but i was just silent and judt told him what if anyone saw or sth and moved on cus what else r u suppose to do

had an ex friend tell me that boys are just like toddlers and dint know any better and that i probably confused him but the thing is i told him i wwnted to take things slowly the day prior

Grabbed your neck like wrapping his hand around it? I guess that has become a sexualized thing, but to do it on a first date is kinda too much. Especially since you just barely met. I would keep a close eye on him, and if you didn't feel comfortable with that, there's no shame in ending the relationship. Or in this case, the beginnings of what could be a relationship.

 

[Cauliflour]

Yeah no that's creepy as hell. Save the sexual stuff for later on!