Discussion WARNING: Writing A Suicide Note

[OhWellDerp321]

I've seen a lot of threads on this forum about trouble deciding whether to write a note or not, or what to write in the note.

But I feel like everyone should be warned of the consequences of writing a suicide note.

You should approach it with the thought that "what if your attempt fails?"

That's the only thing that matters. If your attempt is successful, you have nothing to worry about. You won't be there to know who read your note or who didn't. You won't know who is sad or not.

But if you're attempt is unsuccessful and people read your note, then there might be consequences that you did not expect.
This is particularly if you wrote anything along the lines of "you (a close family member) is what caused me to suicide".
If you fail, can you imagine how awkward it will be if you have to deal with this person again?
You weren't expecting to deal with them again obviously. But now you have to.

There is an exception to this, which is that the reason you want to ctb is not related to anyone. Then you may want to just write a note to ease the pain for the ones close to you to provide some closure.

The other important thing is also make sure you include what to do about your possessions, Especially money and pets.
Who do you want to give those things to? Its always better to let people know because people don't really know what you want to do with those things if you're gone. Especially pets. Please leave someone to take care of them. Whether or not people honor your wishes is up to them, But at least you did your part.
Also, you may want to include where you want to be buried if you care.

So to summarize.
1) Approach writing notes with the mindset that your attempt might fail. If the attempt fails, will it make things awkward or unbearable if someone read your note? If yes, maybe its best not to write those things in the note.
2) The exception to point number 1 is that your reason to ctb is not related to anyone. In this case, if you want to write a note just to provide some relief to the ones close to you, then that's fine.
3) Include what you want to do with your possessions after you pass. Who do you want to give them do? Do you want to donate it to charity? Etc....
Also, you may want to include where you want to be buried if you care.

 

[FishRain3469]

I have often thought about those same things , hoping and praying to God that I am successful when my time comes.

Thanks for sharing this, I wish you Nothing but the Best.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Really, you need to have your desires about what to do with your possessions, money, pets, how/if you want to be buried, etc, memorialized in a will. Including those things in a suicide note is fine, but remember a suicide note bears no legal weight and, therefore, nothing in it must be followed.

 

[Tombs_in_your_eyes]

Really, you need to have your desires about what to do with your possessions, money, pets, how/if you want to be buried, etc, memorialized in a will. Including those things in a suicide note is fine, but remember a suicide note bears no legal weight and, therefore, nothing in it must be followed.

I agree - a will is ideal.

It will vary from country to country, but where I live, wills are surprisingly straightforward to make online. (Well, surprising to me as a naive 20 something, lol.) You can fill out an online form through a legal services company that takes maybe 10 minutes, they phone you to finalise the details, and then send you the finished will to sign. For me, it took all of two weeks from start to finish.

Some companies or charities may even let you write your will for free provided you do it at a particular time of year, or you leave some money for that charity in your will.

 

[OhWellDerp321]

I have often thought about those same things , hoping and praying to God that I am successful when my time comes.

Thanks for sharing this, I wish you Nothing but the Best.

Not planning to ctb yet. But close.

Really, you need to have your desires about what to do with your possessions, money, pets, how/if you want to be buried, etc, memorialized in a will. Including those things in a suicide note is fine, but remember a suicide note bears no legal weight and, therefore, nothing in it must be followed.

True. They don't have to follow it. But at least you said your part.

A will is much more risky if you are younger. Suspicions might arise. I believe you need at least a few witnesses to sign your will also. So it would raise eyebrows if all of the sudden you wanted to make a will.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Not planning to ctb yet. But close.

True. They don't have to follow it. But at least you said your part.

A will is much more risky if you are younger. Suspicions might arise. I believe you need at least a few witnesses to sign your will also. So it would raise eyebrows if all of the sudden you wanted to make a will.

I didn't have any witnesses except people who worked at the attorney's office. I just don't have anyone to be witnesses. I don't think it looks all that sus anymore in this day and age.

 

[Kali_Yuga13]

Really, you need to have your desires about what to do with your possessions, money, pets, how/if you want to be buried, etc, memorialized in a will. Including those things in a suicide note is fine, but remember a suicide note bears no legal weight and, therefore, nothing in it must be followed.

Also worth mentioning is that police often hold onto suicide notes during the course of their investigation. I've heard of it taking months to return to oved one's and sometimes never especially if it's written to non-family members.

I didn't have any witnesses except people who worked at the attorney's office. I just don't have anyone to be witnesses. I don't think it looks all that sus anymore in this day and age.

Not planning to ctb yet. But close.

True. They don't have to follow it. But at least you said your part.

A will is much more risky if you are younger. Suspicions might arise. I believe you need at least a few witnesses to sign your will also. So it would raise eyebrows if all of the sudden you wanted to make a will.

I've had a notary at a UPS store serve as a witness for legal documents. It's no big deal. If you're young and really feel like you're going to be pressed with questions you can just say you plan to travel internationally, go sky diving, join the army, have a medical diagnosis etc.

 

[hereornot]

Realmente, você precisa ter seus desejos sobre o que fazer com seus bens, dinheiro, animais de estimação, como/se você quer ser enterrado, etc., memorializados em um testamento. Incluir essas coisas em uma nota de suicídio é bom, mas lembre-se de que uma nota de suicídio não tem peso legal e, portanto, nada nela deve ser seguido

In Brazil, only 50% can be allocated via will. The rest goes to the descending or ascending family.

Which is bad in my case, because my brother is a thief who steals even what my deceased father left, and my mother, who is still alive, is a BPD who has done very bad things to me my entire life, since I was a child.

If I could choose between setting fire to what I will leave or giving it to them, I would set it on fire.

In fact, my brother is the reason I am CTB. If there were real punishment for inciting suicide, he would be arrested. But Brazil, here nothing works as it should.

 

[OhWellDerp321]

I didn't have any witnesses except people who worked at the attorney's office. I just don't have anyone to be witnesses. I don't think it looks all that sus anymore in this day and age.

they just signed it for you? Thats lucky. I thought they need someone else to sign it.

 

[suicidal_tendencies]

What is important I think (I'm not as experienced as other people) is a note for the person who finds you. I think it makes it a lot easier when the police and the person who finds you, knows who you are and who your family is.

 

[grapevoid]

What is important I think (I'm not as experienced as other people) is a note for the person who finds you. I think it makes it a lot easier when the police and the person who finds you, knows who you are and who your family is.

This. I have wrote personal notes which I will put away so the police won't take them, but also a vague note letting whoever finds me know what I've done, who I am, my emergency contact and a brief apology for the trauma of having to find me

 

[kimcoffee_]

Like good points but also if you are really serious about it and do some planing you should have a 99.8 success rate.

 

[J&L383]

Not planning to ctb yet. But close.

True. They don't have to follow it. But at least you said your part.

A will is much more risky if you are younger. Suspicions might arise. I believe you need at least a few witnesses to sign your will also. So it would raise eyebrows if all of the sudden you wanted to make a will.

Perhaps, but arguments could be made that you're never too young to make a will - it's just a prudent thing to do if you have any assets of value whatsoever. At the very least I think you can make a holographic will, in the United states, by writing it handwritten, "cursive". (Do they even teach handwriting in school anymore?) But this is becoming quite uncommon and perhaps only in some states, and would be difficult to and enforce, but better than nothing.

 

[Earl E. Demise]

I'm planning to make a short physical note and then schedule a longer email to send a few days after the fact. The email will have all the stuff I don't want to say if I'm still alive. Hopefully if I survive, I can cancel the email before it sends.

 

[OhWellDerp321]

I'm planning to make a short physical note and then schedule a longer email to send a few days after the fact. The email will have all the stuff I don't want to say if I'm still alive. Hopefully if I survive, I can cancel the email before it sends.

Thats not very smart. You do know that they can lock you in a psych ward. Theb you wont be able to cancel it.

This is exactly what I meant by dont write anything you dont want to deal with the consequences for.

 

[MathConspiracy]

My suicide notes are on a USB stick I'll leave next to my body. So it's not immediately obvious. The stick contains all my greatest achievements, artworks, pictures and messages to my friends. If you have an empty flash drive, I recommend setting this up.

 

[pixi]

i don't have anyone i particularly want to call out in a note if i were to leave one, but i imagine if i did, i would send that out as a delayed text. maybe a week out from when i actually committed. that gives recovery and possible psych ward stay time to cancel it from being sent if i were to survive. i just can't imagine having to tone down what id choose my final words to be. i'd like the opportunity to let it all out

 

[OhWellDerp321]

i don't have anyone i particularly want to call out in a note if i were to leave one, but i imagine if i did, i would send that out as a delayed text. maybe a week out from when i actually committed. that gives recovery and possible psych ward stay time to cancel it from being sent if i were to survive. i just can't imagine having to tone down what id choose my final words to be. i'd like the opportunity to let it all out

It should be 3 months at least. I mean. But, whats the point? Why risk it?

Again, you have to be very careful. If you don't succeed you might turn into a vegetable depending on the method. Or what if you end up in a coma, but wake up one day?

Yeh it feels great to let it all out. But tbh in the end it doesn't matter. You won't know who read your note or who didn't if you're gone.

Its more of awkward if people that you will have to interact with again have read any harsh words you have written towards them.

 

[username12345]

I've seen a lot of threads on this forum about trouble deciding whether to write a note or not, or what to write in the note.

But I feel like everyone should be warned of the consequences of writing a suicide note.

You should approach it with the thought that "what if your attempt fails?"

That's the only thing that matters. If your attempt is successful, you have nothing to worry about. You won't be there to know who read your note or who didn't. You won't know who is sad or not.

But if you're attempt is unsuccessful and people read your note, then there might be consequences that you did not expect.
This is particularly if you wrote anything along the lines of "you (a close family member) is what caused me to suicide".
If you fail, can you imagine how awkward it will be if you have to deal with this person again?
You weren't expecting to deal with them again obviously. But now you have to.

There is an exception to this, which is that the reason you want to ctb is not related to anyone. Then you may want to just write a note to ease the pain for the ones close to you to provide some closure.

The other important thing is also make sure you include what to do about your possessions, Especially money and pets.
Who do you want to give those things to? Its always better to let people know because people don't really know what you want to do with those things if you're gone. Especially pets. Please leave someone to take care of them. Whether or not people honor your wishes is up to them, But at least you did your part.
Also, you may want to include where you want to be buried if you care.

So to summarize.
1) Approach writing notes with the mindset that your attempt might fail. If the attempt fails, will it make things awkward or unbearable if someone read your note? If yes, maybe its best not to write those things in the note.
2) The exception to point number 1 is that your reason to ctb is not related to anyone. In this case, if you want to write a note just to provide some relief to the ones close to you, then that's fine.
3) Include what you want to do with your possessions after you pass. Who do you want to give them do? Do you want to donate it to charity? Etc....
Also, you may want to include where you want to be buried if you care.

Tbh I think it is really strange for you to be so worried about « awkward » with something as serious as suicide, like we're well past awkward at this point.

 

[SecretDissociation]

Honestly, I've written too many suicide notes and hidden too many. My plan is to take my final note with me to when I die, if I die then it'll be left there and if I don't then I'll just discard of it as usual. But I also write two notes, one that's semi-honest and another thats completely honest but its hidden (kind-of) that way if you do end up in hospital, they probably won't be looking through your stuff.

 

[OhWellDerp321]

Tbh I think it is really strange for you to be so worried about « awkward » with something as serious as suicide, like we're well past awkward at this point.

? I don't mean suicide is awkward? I meant the consequences if you write anything bad about something close to you, then having to deal with them again if you did not intend to.

 

[username12345]

? I don't mean suicide is awkward? I meant the consequences if you write anything bad about something close to you, then having to deal with them again if you did not intend to.

Exactly, if people have hurt you that much to you committing suicide, you shouldn't even care if it's awkward. You didn't ask to be pushed to suicide, and they need to come to terms with that.

 

[Stan Swiftie]

I've seen a lot of threads on this forum about trouble deciding whether to write a note or not, or what to write in the note.

But I feel like everyone should be warned of the consequences of writing a suicide note.

You should approach it with the thought that "what if your attempt fails?"

That's the only thing that matters. If your attempt is successful, you have nothing to worry about. You won't be there to know who read your note or who didn't. You won't know who is sad or not.

But if you're attempt is unsuccessful and people read your note, then there might be consequences that you did not expect.
This is particularly if you wrote anything along the lines of "you (a close family member) is what caused me to suicide".
If you fail, can you imagine how awkward it will be if you have to deal with this person again?
You weren't expecting to deal with them again obviously. But now you have to.

There is an exception to this, which is that the reason you want to ctb is not related to anyone. Then you may want to just write a note to ease the pain for the ones close to you to provide some closure.

The other important thing is also make sure you include what to do about your possessions, Especially money and pets.
Who do you want to give those things to? Its always better to let people know because people don't really know what you want to do with those things if you're gone. Especially pets. Please leave someone to take care of them. Whether or not people honor your wishes is up to them, But at least you did your part.
Also, you may want to include where you want to be buried if you care.

So to summarize.
1) Approach writing notes with the mindset that your attempt might fail. If the attempt fails, will it make things awkward or unbearable if someone read your note? If yes, maybe its best not to write those things in the note.
2) The exception to point number 1 is that your reason to ctb is not related to anyone. In this case, if you want to write a note just to provide some relief to the ones close to you, then that's fine.
3) Include what you want to do with your possessions after you pass. Who do you want to give them do? Do you want to donate it to charity? Etc....
Also, you may want to include where you want to be buried if you care.

My will is to be made official tomorrow.
Everything goes to my parents, who are the only ones who love me.
If I write a note at all, it'll simply say what my ex-wife told me 22 1/2 years ago when she left me ..
Sometimes love's not enough

 

[Pale_Rider]

I'm prolly selfish for not wanting to leave a note. I hate to keep bringing up dissociative disorder, but it's my guidance. Why worry aboitva note when my parents delivered the pain for my disorder. I try to be catholic , and respect my mother , but writing sone stupid note apologizing is a bit much if my life has to be cut short due to the pain inflicted on me. May sound selfish, but at some point we have to be for ourselves.

 

[hang in there]

I've seen a lot of threads on this forum about trouble deciding whether to write a note or not, or what to write in the note.

But I feel like everyone should be warned of the consequences of writing a suicide note.

You should approach it with the thought that "what if your attempt fails?"

That's the only thing that matters. If your attempt is successful, you have nothing to worry about. You won't be there to know who read your note or who didn't. You won't know who is sad or not.

But if you're attempt is unsuccessful and people read your note, then there might be consequences that you did not expect.
This is particularly if you wrote anything along the lines of "you (a close family member) is what caused me to suicide".
If you fail, can you imagine how awkward it will be if you have to deal with this person again?
You weren't expecting to deal with them again obviously. But now you have to.

There is an exception to this, which is that the reason you want to ctb is not related to anyone. Then you may want to just write a note to ease the pain for the ones close to you to provide some closure.

The other important thing is also make sure you include what to do about your possessions, Especially money and pets.
Who do you want to give those things to? Its always better to let people know because people don't really know what you want to do with those things if you're gone. Especially pets. Please leave someone to take care of them. Whether or not people honor your wishes is up to them, But at least you did your part.
Also, you may want to include where you want to be buried if you care.

So to summarize.
1) Approach writing notes with the mindset that your attempt might fail. If the attempt fails, will it make things awkward or unbearable if someone read your note? If yes, maybe its best not to write those things in the note.
2) The exception to point number 1 is that your reason to ctb is not related to anyone. In this case, if you want to write a note just to provide some relief to the ones close to you, then that's fine.
3) Include what you want to do with your possessions after you pass. Who do you want to give them do? Do you want to donate it to charity? Etc....
Also, you may want to include where you want to be buried if you care.

I wrote a note and left it in a drawer in my room, for later use
Then embarrassingly enough I got alcohol poisoning and got weewoo'd to the hospital
While I was there for detox my mom was digging around my room, found my note and kicked me out while I was still in the hospital so I could never go back
If you're going to write a note in advance, keep it on your locked computer, not a piece of paper...

 

[OhWellDerp321]

Exactly, if people have hurt you that much to you committing suicide, you shouldn't even care if it's awkward. You didn't ask to be pushed to suicide, and they need to come to terms with that.

Right. And that's fine. If it is successful, who cares about "feeling awkward". But if it is not, then whoever "they" are may not "come to terms" as you intended.

I know what you mean. If that person pushed you to want to ctb, you would want to write it all out and hope they read it and feel bad or "come to terms".

But if the attempt isn't successful, and you would have to deal with them again after they read your note (especially if it is a relative), don't expect them to always understand and "come to terms". They may treat you differently or worse than before.

If you don't ever have to deal with them either way, then it doesn't matter.

I wrote a note and left it in a drawer in my room, for later use
Then embarrassingly enough I got alcohol poisoning and got weewoo'd to the hospital
While I was there for detox my mom was digging around my room, found my note and kicked me out while I was still in the hospital so I could never go back
If you're going to write a note in advance, keep it on your locked computer, not a piece of paper...

And that's exactly what I mean....

I assumed you wrote something about her being part of the reason you wanted to ctb? That's why she kicked you out?

And that's what I mean. That unintended consequence.

 

[soonnotkoei]

i already have a draft of my note, its pretty solid. if i attempt, my note handles my stuff when i die (or atleast instructs a person to handle my stuff like money and belongings). and if i don't die, the notes pretty safe i would say.

 

[bankai]

I wrote my note on WhatsApp. I knew my mother switches off her phone at night. So I was pretty confident in knowing that if my attempt failed, I could just delete the text. That's exactly what happened. The terror of putting the noose around my neck was overwhelming.i removed the noose,deleted the text and here i am amongst you degenerates once again

 

[Zyntkalla]

I was thinking of writing an email to a friend at work about my situation. It's one friend is specialized in stuff like this. And leave an email for the doctor. Both emails will be timed, maybe a week or two. I should definitely be gone. At this point I am planning to go into a forest to ctb. Both emails and note will explain the reasons for my ctb. I was thinking the one to the freind will have my struggles in life, and reasons for ctb and the time and date I am going to leave this world behind. The one for the doctor, might have some struggles, and my reason for going. The for my parents will explain my reasons for leaving. All my stuff will go to my parents. I don't think thay will ever get around to it. They are really organized that way.

I probably stick the note somewhere hidden. I was thinking between a drawer you open and close but where you can see it. But you really have to look. And am going to putting the date of when I did the note so they know how long I have been gone for.

 

[22yearsbroken]

Ive not techniclly wrote a note.. but cos my illness will get me or ill ctb before it gets bad.. ive had time to prep... ive been journalling and have wrote several letters to people who had an impact in my life thise that left a mark and i guess i wrote to said people because they mean something to me .. ive done it all cool on old style paper with a wax seal..
But ive also made it fun when i pass there is instucrions left in my safe .. that will lead them on a kinda treasure hunt to find all the letters and also my will is in their its buried in a kinda pirate looking chest .. i want to be a pain in the arse one last time .. plus i hope it will be a funny memory ..