Venting Very difficult day - brother arrested

[WildAtHeart]

I need to vent this somewhere, by brother is so stupid. He got arrested on Friday for underage, unlicensed driving while while under influence of weed. He's just turned 16 and literally just came off bail for possession with intent to supply weed and nitrous oxide with a referral to the "youth offending team" like 6 days ago and just a few days after fucks it with this driving charge, they took his phone for a second time which I imagine is to check for drug dealing, it's just all fucked now. I mean at minimum I think will be 6 points in license and maybe temp driving ban, but rest of family thinks they will throw book at him. He's quite known for causing trouble, very abusive kid to everyone, family included. He's angry very fucking angry, and he's obviously depressed as well. Wouldn't be surprised if this pushes him over the edge. It certainly is for me. It's pathetic Ik but I cannot deal with the stress. Family is fucked beyond saving, for so many reasons.

 

[fadedghost]

I need to vent this somewhere, by brother is so stupid. He got arrested on Friday for underage, unlicensed driving while while under influence of weed. He's just turned 16 and literally just came off bail for possession with intent to supply weed and nitrous oxide with a referral to the "youth offending team" like 6 days ago and just a few days after fucks it with this driving charge, they took his phone for a second time which I imagine is to check for drug dealing, it's just all fucked now. I mean at minimum I think will be 6 points in license and maybe temp driving ban, but rest of family thinks they will throw book at him. He's quite known for causing trouble, very abusive kid to everyone, family included. He's angry very fucking angry, and he's obviously depressed as well. Wouldn't be surprised if this pushes him over the edge. It certainly is for me. It's pathetic Ik but I cannot deal with the stress. Family is fucked beyond saving, for so many reasons.

You're on a forum for people who are suicidal. You need to take care of yourself and let the system hopefully help him. I know this sucks, and it's hard, but take care of you because clearly, you're not doing great, right?

You can help him by being ready to send books, sending letters, and help him afford food while in juvenile hall if you can afford it.

For someone who is literally already in the criminal justice system, and being closely watched, and continuing to commit crime, there is nothing that can be done, that family member is on a mission to ignore consequences. It sucks, but you can't do anything, you can't force people to understand the laws of physics or basic societal rules or basic estimates of risk. It's not possible. There's nothing you could have done.