Help unable ask to see a psychatrist/psychologist.

[ScaredCutter]

ive been researching things relating to bpd but, im on the fence about if i do or dont have it. i dont qant to self diagnois because it feels wrong to me but, i also struggle with getting help from a professional.

i want to go through the whole process but im unsure of how to ask. im afraid of asling my mum because, i dont want to be asked about my reasoning and to explain my own thoughts. i know ill be most likely dismissed and be told something like "its only passed down from genetics" or that "u dont exhibit anything relating to it" either saying its my autism instead or im just a bitch.

i cant book anything or buy anything since im broke and rely on my parents. ive only told my twacher more of my reasoning and that i REALLY want to see a psychologist/psychairtrist. i dont know what she can say to my mum because eventually ill be bombared with "how are u going to tell them this and that". does everyone see me as hopeless?

its feels a bit silly im focusing on this instead of doing resumes and studying but, i just have no motivation. im more focused on this because id be forced to go to sessions lol.

i want to ask my mum about it but, i have no way of approaching it. i forgot to add that

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

Definitely don't be afraid to self diagnose after doing extensive research if that DOES help you (source: I self dxed my BPD and NPD before officially getting them confirmed), but other than that, I have to ask... does your mother have any sort of legal power over you? Legal guardianship/caretaker role, anything signed to where she can view your medical records, etc?

 

[ScaredCutter]

Definitely don't be afraid to self diagnose after doing extensive research if that DOES help you (source: I self dxed my BPD and NPD before officially getting them confirmed), but other than that, I have to ask... does your mother have any sort of legal power over you? Legal guardianship/caretaker role, anything signed to where she can view your medical records, etc?

i see. ive usually seen online mixed opinions on self diagnosing.

I only use my mum to help me with communicating to professionals and booking things. she has control over medicare and some other thing im on (i cant access it yet) but, the thing i cant name cuz i always forget that its called NDIS, she does all the calling for them when it comes to having me needing support. NDIS is a pain in the ass, calls take forever, they have stricter requiremenst for funding usage due to people abusing it. i dont know if she views any medical records but, i only know she has stuff for when i got diagonsed with autism and having a speech inpediament. she keeps a lot of documents and papers too. so i dont know what she gets to see or whats documented.

idk the full process of how NDIS works, i know medicare just covers costs and probs other things that i dont have good knowledge on

i apologise, i dont really know what kind of power she has. i only know she keeps documents and has control of my NDIS funding until i gain access.

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

i see. ive usually seen online mixed opinions on self diagnosing.

I only use my mum to help me with communicating to professionals and booking things. she has control over medicare and some other thing im on (i cant access it yet) but, the thing i cant name cuz i always forget that its called NDIS, she does all the calling for them when it comes to having me needing support. NDIS is a pain in the ass, calls take forever, they have stricter requiremenst for funding usage due to people abusing it. i dont know if she views any medical records but, i only know she has stuff for when i got diagonsed with autism and having a speech inpediament. she keeps a lot of documents and papers too. so i dont know what she gets to see or whats documented.

idk the full process of how NDIS works, i know medicare just covers costs and probs other things that i dont have good knowledge on

i apologise, i dont really know what kind of power she has. i only know she keeps documents and has control of my NDIS funding until i gain access.

Gotcha, so that means you're on legal disability. Since your disability might be listed as autism, there's a good chance your mom has psych records. I asked because if you could convince a teacher or support worker to say you'd benefit from medication for "mood swings," you could go to a psych and tell them that you have severe symptoms of BPD so you want to get checked.

Some psychs give referrals, or they may be able to prescribe an off-label mood stabilizer under the assumption of BPD (I've had psychs give me meds for self dx when I explained in detail the symptoms I was experiencing that led to the conclusion). Mood stabalizers are useful for bipolar, depressive disorders, BPD, CPTSD, and more. For some autistic people thry can help too. So even if the psych cannot say "okay, BPD" they might still be able to work with you to alleviate symptoms.

Unfortunately, your mom will certainly know, but... no way around that. As long as she isn't physically abusive, the best course of action may be to stand your ground on getting help.

 

[neurotic]

Maybe asking your mom about just wanting to start therapy and not getting into specifically why too much. Maybe you've had friends talk about really good experiences!

 

[Redacted24]

Sometimes school counselors are resources as well (or can make referrals).
And higher schools sometimes have mental health staff in the school clinic too.
But, I basically agree that researching on your own can be helpful.
"The first step to wisdom is calling things by their right names" after all.
Good luck and there are lots of smart, kind, experienced people in this sites community.
They've helped me rather a lot.