Top Five Regrets Of The Dying Book

[A.A]

Has anyone read this book. I'm nearly done with it. It's about a carer who listed the most common regrets of her dying patients in a blog post that got so popular she released a book. It talks about her care work and patients but also her own life where she almost commits suicide. Although it can feel like it has a bit of toxic positivity in it I'm still finding it a valuable read, was wondering what other people at varying points in their ctb/recovery journey thought of the book.

 

[R. A.]

Looking it up, seems like pretty standard stuff. I've seen basically the same list elsewhere.
As you say, the "toxic" part is obvious. I imagine this person lives in the states and afaik not everyone has access to palliative; as she says this is also an older generation so there's almost certainly some class/race/generational inapplicability.
I'd like to know the regrets of people dying on the street cause of systemic gov't bullshit that put and kept them there.

Regrets of the Dying – Bronnie Ware

bronnieware.com

For anyone who can't be assed to open a link:

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[A.A]

The author is from Australia and is homeless for most of the book there is some younger and I think middle age people that she cares for that she mentions. She also spends sometime in nursing homes. I think the underlying values some of the 'regrets' represent don't necessarily change based on background like having social connections and expressing oneself these are important whether you're street homeless or very wealthy. Sometimes I notice that in posts here people are down about things that they seem to have taken on from social expectations and I wondered if a book like this would be helpful to them.

On the other hand it is also a kind of self-help book and the self-help industry can be a menace, it often has no relevance to the reality of the average persons life and seems to exist as a money making self-congratulatory club. I think there are traces of this in the book like the toxic positivity I mentioned and I was skeptical at first however I am ultimately satisfied that I read it in the end.

If you're ever interested in books about dying outside of palliative care you might like How We Die Now by Sherwin Nuland a doctor, I haven't finished that one yet but it's definitely much more grim then this one is.