to be found or not

[MISERYinlife]

OK so going to do it just been debating on if i should try to not be found and just leave notes for everyone,I hate to have money spent on a funeral when it could go to better use for my kids and fiance,what do you guys think about this?

 

[Cookiedough8956]

For me personally, I'd like to be found.

Whatever you think is best- go with that though. Everyone's situation is differen.t

 

[TiredHorse]

I considered going over the side of one of the local ferries with weights on. 600+ feet of water in mid-Sound, so they wouldn't have found my body, and there are points on the ferries where it's possible to go over the side without anyone noticing (especially at night). I eventually decided otherwise for a number of reasons, but prominent among them was the awareness both that the inevitable search for me would be an expensive waste of resources and that there would be no closure for my family, just a never ending question of wondering whether I was or wasn't dead. I didn't want to leave everyone with a final tease of hope that I might someday reappear. Even with notes left behind, it didn't feel kind to my mother and sister; they wouldn't want to believe the notes, so they would always doubt them.

Just my own experience and thoughts, in case they're of any use to your own decision making process.

 

[TheRiverStyz]

Having your body found will provide closure to your family, at least. A missing person situation can be more psychologically taxing because you don't know what happened.

For me personally, I'm going to take SN in the bathtub, in our bathroom. So I'll be putting a notice to call emergency hotline on the front door and a notice on the bathroom door for the paramedics. In my personal situation, that's the best way I could make sure that my loved ones wouldn't find my body.

 

[wanttodie]

Have my body found will provide closure to my family