Therapist Blackmail

[Sad_Autistic_boy_101]

So I'm very honest in therapy, my therapist knows a lot about me - especially being suicidal. I often talk about the methods or how I plan to go for example.

To me, being honest about your reality doesn't mean you're less likely to not go ahead with it. In my personal experience people directly tell you their plan, their pain and then they CTB.

So I have conversations with my therapist about how I'm feeling and she blackmails me by saying that I'll make her lose her job because she would feel useless or that she'd be investigated as she is meant to prevent my death.

How do I deal with this?

I don't understand why therapists are so afraid of talking about suicide when surely it's their profession to be direct about it?

 

[CFLoser]

uh, i think you are dealing with it bro.

She just sounds like a shit therapist. Potentially change it if you think thats best. But that doesn't come off to me like therapist blackmail and more like a therapist being shit at their job, which is very common.

 

[Buffy5120]

So I'm very honest in therapy, my therapist knows a lot about me - especially being suicidal. I often talk about the methods or how I plan to go for example.

To me, being honest about your reality doesn't mean you're less likely to not go ahead with it. In my personal experience people directly tell you their plan, their pain and then they CTB.

So I have conversations with my therapist about how I'm feeling and she blackmails me by saying that I'll make her lose her job because she would feel useless or that she'd be investigated as she is meant to prevent my death.

How do I deal with this?

I don't understand why therapists are so afraid of talking about suicide when surely it's their profession to be direct about it?

They sign a contract government controls them. Phamrcieutical company is obsessed with sick people especially us, because that is how they make their money. Without mentally/physically ill & disabled people America would sink. Main reason why AS will never be legalized as well. Disabled and sick people are Americas main income. But yeah you should find a new therapist, I never told my therapist I would ctb even when she asked bc my father kept telling her. Unfortunately you really cant get too personal with them. Part of the fucked up system. Im sorry your going through such shit

 

[nerve]

I'm so sorry you've been let down.

The families of people who died by suicide don't typically file charges against a health provider. It's not a therapist or doctor's job to keep somebody alive so there's not much of a case unless malpractice can be proven. Your therapist may be questioned by authorities, especially if a psychological autopsy is going on, but as mandated reporter, dealing with that sort of thing is part of the job description.

It's not your responsibility to make a therapist feel good or useful. That seems like an incredibly self-centered way for her to think. If anything, it's supposed to be the other way around.

Like you said, a lot of these people are incredibly uncomfortable with the idea of suicide and end up as bumbling and clueless as the layman whenever it's brought up. Most of them go through college with zero formal training on dealing with suicide or suicidal patients.

If at all possible, I'd look for another therapist and ask them directly during the first session how they handle the topic of suicide. Maybe bring up to your current therapist how you're feeling about the overall dynamic of your relationship. Consider it a last chance for her to prove herself as a mental health professional.

 

[kappa]

Probably afraid of being sued if you did go through with it.

Sometimes you can't be 100% honest. I think they get nervous when you have a method or plan in place. Wouldn't hurt to try and find a new therapist to see if they are any better.

 

[everydayiloveyou]

Get a new therapist asap. That's really inappropriate for a therapist to do. The focus should be on what is bringing you to want to ctb, and what *you* are feeling. That's her job. Not to guilt trip you, cure you, or prevent you from doing anything.

You can find someone better who handles the topic more delicately. Though I would really recommend not telling the details of your plan if the time horizon is in the near future (less than 2 years) because during intake, that can be a huge red flag to a therapist who knows nothing about you, especially if you have previous suicide attempts in your medical records.

nerve made a great suggestion to ask a new therapist how they handle suicide. Most therapists will immediately out themselves as sectioning-happy or intolerant as soon as it comes up. Others are very understanding and only remind you that they are mandated reporters because patients have the right to know that.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Still seeing the rapists in 2021 . Not hating tho, looks like I'm not done with all of that shit either since my boomers need me to attent this sort of retardation to not get a divorce or sum lmfao.

 

[hʚll]

i'm sorry she blackmailed you. you can never trust therapists. or doctors in general. i hate them

peace

 

[CTB-London]

So I'm very honest in therapy, my therapist knows a lot about me - especially being suicidal. I often talk about the methods or how I plan to go for example.

To me, being honest about your reality doesn't mean you're less likely to not go ahead with it. In my personal experience people directly tell you their plan, their pain and then they CTB.

So I have conversations with my therapist about how I'm feeling and she blackmails me by saying that I'll make her lose her job because she would feel useless or that she'd be investigated as she is meant to prevent my death.

How do I deal with this?

I don't understand why therapists are so afraid of talking about suicide when surely it's their profession to be direct about it?

My understanding is that therapists are supposed to talk about the source of your emotional turmoil and handle it within your life. In many countries it is illegal to encourage suicide - and double unethical for therapists. I don't see the point of therapy if your intention is to commit suicide anyway.