Discussion The theory of suicide notes

[killerquinn]

Would you be more distraught to figure out a death on your own, or having a personal letter written?

A personal letter would give the recipient a sense of 'why' you CTB. However, I question if it could also inhibit feelings of guilt, or cause unnecessary emotional pain to the recipient. I imagine them receiving a letter, but they are unprepared for the context. That could cause quite some distress. I do know there is distress either way.

And so I ask, What are your thoughts on this?

 

[Lost Magic]

If you have a family and/or people you love behind then a simple note would be best. I wouldn't complicate it with too much reasons of the whys. I would just let them know that you loved them, this is what you wanted and there is nothing that they could have done otherwise. Simple is better.

 

[Doombox]

I agree it's going to be bad either way. However I have been thinking that it's better for people left behind to not be left asking why. I think it's possible to give an explanation but word it carefully. I think a personal letter can help the person left behind have some sense of closure rather than to be left always wondering why.
There have been some good threads on this subject that might give you more ideas. Here are two. I am struggling with these same issues.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...-you-think-it-will-finally-be-finished.95211/

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/suicide-note.89396/

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that personally, I would choose to write a letter. I think that it's better than leaving nothing. If the people left behind had some understanding as to why the person decided to ctb it may mean that they are not left with unanswered questions.

 

[chronicallybroken]

Emotions aside, I think humans tend to like explanations for things, having closure etc.

Many people will have loved ones who will know they were struggling and it may not be a big surprise, but others hide it very well. In the former case, the loved ones may not know how MUCH the person was suffering.

I think I would prefer some kind of note, even if I knew someone wasn't doing great