Should you let other people dictate your fate

[Bruces]

I mean that if I'm miserable and absolutely despise life should I stay alive just for other people's sake?

 

[Wisdom3_1-9]

Haven't other people already dictated your fate? Isn't your desire to ctb rooted in societal rejection of who you are as a person in some way? If others treated us with respect, love, acceptance, compassion... would we actually want to ctb still?

 

[Bruces]

I want to die but I don't if that makes sense

 

[BPD Barbie]

I mean that if I'm miserable and absolutely despise life should I stay alive just for other people's sake?

At some point I had to put myself first and think of my own needs before anyone else's. I lived for other people for years and it never got easier.

 

[Lupgevif]

No. Not in life, nor in death.

 

[ImpairedLowlife]

If you can't decide what you want to do in your life yourself you can always ask people for advice and guide. Maybe you will actually enjoy doing something they tell you to do.

But if you truly want to end everything, just do what your heart tells yo to do. No one can stop you from taking your own life.

 

[jameslb72]

Its easy to give advice but first of all id get to the root of why you are so miserable and why you dont want to live. We arent born that way, but things happen that make us that way. Suicide is a selfish act because it obviouslyleavees a trail of devastation. HOwever when you are desperate you dont consider that
and as for how poeple treat you, you cannot take things at face value,. |People may appear to love you and be kind and in actual fact they are helping you create your own prison. IM nearly 50 i have experienced a lot and i think i know what im talking about. I live in a house which is mine- my name is on the title deeds. However i have a mother and so called stepfather who control everything because i am relieant on them finanically. They carried out renovation work in my house that i did not want but at the time i was so ill i couldnt stand up to them. Now my house is smaller by two rooms and its only a two bedroom one level anyway. My answer is passive agressio. I am alloowing my house to become squalid, and i am ensuring my mother ( who is a master of looking the other way and avoiding cognitive dissonance) sees this happen. If i have to descend into hell i am deermined to take her with me. Can you imagine getting to a stage where you have to call your own parent by their first name because you cant bear to refer to them as a parent. What brings you to that? If it were merely a matter of everyone being kind all the time then life would be a million times simpler. It just isnt like that