Should I write a suicide note?

[Suicide]

I'm wondering how leaving one would effect the grieving process for my family. If I don't leave one they will always wonder why I did it, but if I leave one they will have the "if only I knew" or the "I could have stopped this" thoughts.

 

[WFJ74]

I've written my notes. I get your conundrum but in my view it's better for them in the long run to at least know and not have to wonder why you chose CTB. Especially if it's going to be an unexpected departure.

 

[return2dreamland]

i find that for me, the purpose of the note is to give closure. not to explain shit to people, just as a memoir or something. i also feel like the note could be anything, some unfinished writing, a love letter, or a poem. my note is just a collection of words ive gathered from vents in my various note apps. and it works for me, since i feel calmer knowing that i could show my raw emotions on a piece of paper i'm leaving behind. but that's just my thoughts.
trust your gut on this decision.
wishing you the best.

 

[Scars-And-Ink]

I personally just finished writing one note. I feel that my past speaks for itself and that writing multiple notes, in my situation, is pointless. I feel that, for some people, writing multiple notes, a few notes, one notes, or none are a personal decision. Maybe all you want to do is write a quick note for the first responders so that there's no confusion - that you were of sound mind, etc. Or maybe you wish to explain to people - your loved ones for example - why. Or write F-you letters like I almost did before deciding on my singular note. I think notes both are and are not helpful but it's really a personal decision as there's no right or wrong answers. I hope you come to a decision that you are at peace with.

 

[SadJessu]

I would recommend it, it will help your family with closure.

 

[Seiba]

iirc in studies not leaving a note is one of the most emotionally harmful things you can do, but I didn't personally save any since I don't think I'll bother with a note myself. There was an old ashspace webpage that gave information with studies and other suggestions on how to write a suicide note, but I think it's dead by now.

 

[insanedoomer]

lol , i wont leave any *hit for this *hitty world . sooner i'll be ready to go on impulsife suicide and leave that Hell .

 

[logan]

I think it is very important to leave a message when you have a family.
They should know that they are not to blame and that they should not blame themselves.
It will be difficult enough for them to deal with this event.

I also think that blaming doesn't help.
You should at least make peace with everyone and everything in the end.

 

[deepinlimbo]

I think either way is a painful experience for anyone having to read it and initially it may not be read with clarity and understanding but in time that person say a mother or a father (and so on) may look back at it and at least understand the reasons even if they may not want too or would rather that it had not of happened.
a note won't be perfect no matter how well written as there is no conversation you can engage in anymore when you are gone. but it can answer some questions that perhaps were never asked or just easier to answer on paper and to help clear peoples guilt and perhaps suffering in the long term.

As to the contents and what goes within is really about the individual and unique to them and their situation. I've seen the most basic and the most complex and extensive making the bible look like a short shopping list on one of those sticky notepads. I think whatever gets the point across and whatever you feel should be included should be included.

some people don't leave notes too, sometimes they can't find the words or choose not too for whatever reason. It's really a personal choice but I know I will leave a note as I think what I will do is bad enough anyway without at least being decent enough to say why. (Don't let that guilt you, again it's personal choice, I just know I couldn't is all)

 

[chicken neck]

I'm pretty sure everyone I am in close contact with know why I will kill myself, so it would be a bit redundant, but leaving one last "fuck you" is pretty appealing. I had one written up a couple years ago before I discovered N, did research into how to obtain it and stumbled across this website last year, but my perspective, reasoning, and ability to express why I want to do it has become so much more refined that I would need to write a new one and this will take a fair bit of effort; the little free time I have is just not worth using to write something most people I know already pretty much are aware of from hearing me bitch about it for years.

 

[FuneralCry]

I will personally. It gives some closure I guess. I plan to write one to my family. Mine will say 'there is nothing you could have done' and 'now I am at peace' and it would explain why I guess. It would probably help the grieving process a little bit knowing those things.

 

[Lilmeowssi]

I wanted to write one but I changed my mind. By ctb I can't be 100% sure that I am actually going to succeed.
Just thinking about my relatives reading my note when there's a possibility that I could be still alive after an attempt and will have to look them into their face just seems so awkward to me.

 

[Secrets1]

Here is a study that looks into it, only thing of substance i could find relating to topic. Most of the focus is on suiciders not impact of a note on those left behind.

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