Religion and mourning

[BaconCheeseburger]

So I don't identify with any religion but my family is Jewish, so I think I need to look into how the funeral and grieving process will be for them.

I don't want a Jewish funeral. I went to one once for a relative I'd never met; it was cold, dark... Maybe I just didn't feel anything because I didn't know him.

But I went to my other friend's funeral (Christian) in August, and as sad as it was the atmosphere was warmer - the room was light, there were pictures of her and it just felt.. More comfortable? There was some music too and speeches. I'd prefer something like that but ultimately it's not my choice, I'm not the one paying for it.

I don't really know much about grieving in Judaism apart from the fact that things like mirrors are covered up and there's a week where my house is open to mourners. I know my mum wouldn't appreciate just any old stranger turning up for a chat (!) so maybe we could arrange for people to let my family know they're coming first.

I know sometimes with Judaism with sad occasions you can't celebrate things or listen to music, but I don't want my family to be miserable. I want them to be able to continue as they are, and surround themselves in positivity rather than this forced dark grieving.

Sigh, guess this is yet another topic I need to do my research on!

 

[Throwaway563078]

Maybe you could leave a note stating your wishes on how you want your funeral etc to be? Hopefully they'll fulfill your wishes over their traditions and Religious rituals

 

[Nofaith]

You want a jazz funeral?