relationship issues

[ilovenoodles]

hii guys, ive been meaning to ctb for a while but my final straw I guess was finding out my boyfriend of nearly 2 years pretty much lost feelings for me. Ive already taken a shit ton of pills but idk is it pathetic to kill yourself because of a guy? I've loved him for basically 3 years and I can't imagine a life without him :( idk it feels pathetic

 

[failureofahuman]

No, if you're concerned about being perceived as pathetic you can leave a note saying it was just the final straw and not your primary reason. Relationship issues (as a pattern, not any specific guy) are a big reason for me too, I just don't care too much about being judged for it after I die.

 

[bankai]

Follow your gut instinct. I'm really happy that you asked this question. I've seen many threads about people wanting to end their lives because someone cheated on them or doesn't want to be in their life anymore. And I'll never understand it. Yes, I think it's a terrible decision. People will choose not to have a relationship with you anymore because of the silliest, stupidest reasons. They'll want to find themselves. They'll want to relocate. Go somewhere else. Or the most obvious one, they found someone else? It could be one of several reasons, but yeah, they'll want to break up with you. That couldn't possibly be a reason for anyone to want to end their life. I mean, come on. That's just how things are. People will always leave. I mean, you could both love each other tremendously and They could just die/pass on?

So yeah. Long story short. Don't.

 

[ilovenoodles]

No, if you're concerned about being perceived as pathetic you can leave a note saying it was just the final straw and not your primary reason. Relationship issues (as a pattern, not any specific guy) are a big reason for me too, I just don't care too much about being judged for it after I die.

Yeahhh I guess you're righttt, it won't really matter after it's just my thought process rn makes me feel stupid for having a guy be my last straw yk

Follow your gut instinct. I'm really happy that you asked this question. I've seen many threads about people wanting to end their lives because someone cheated on them or doesn't want to be in their life anymore. And I'll never understand it. Yes, I think it's a terrible decision. People will choose not to have a relationship with you anymore because of the silliest, stupidest reasons. They'll want to find themselves. They'll want to relocate. Go somewhere else. Or the most obvious one, they found someone else? It could be one of several reasons, but yeah, they'll want to break up with you. That couldn't possibly be a reason for anyone to want to end their life. I mean, come on. That's just how things are. People will always leave. I mean, you could both love each other tremendously and They could just die/pass on?

So yeah. Long story short. Don't.

I knowwww it's so upsetting to see all the the other threads about this and I've just been reading them all, knowing someone can leave you so easily and their lives just carry on whilst urs just falls apart :( but thank you for thissss it just feels like a waste since I'm still so young and have my whole life ahead of me

 

[WhiteRabbit]

hii guys, ive been meaning to ctb for a while but my final straw I guess was finding out my boyfriend of nearly 2 years pretty much lost feelings for me. Ive already taken a shit ton of pills but idk is it pathetic to kill yourself because of a guy? I've loved him for basically 3 years and I can't imagine a life without him :( idk it feels pathetic

I don't think it's pathetic, but I wouldn't. Most people eventually get over breakups, especially young people.

It hurts like hell when someone loses feelings, though.

 

[ilovenoodles]

I don't think it's pathetic, but I wouldn't. Most people eventually get over breakups, especially young people.

It hurts like hell when someone loses feelings, though.

I don't think I'll ever get over it though that's the thing, I genuinely believed this guy was the one and I was extra in love these past few days, imagining our future together only to find out he's lost feelings for me completely my life was pretty much centred around him and he was the only thing I had left after everything else in my life fell apart but yeah idk I'm sorry for letting this out onto ur comment. Thank you for the advice tho

 

[SomewhereAlongThe]

I had the same thing happen to me, my ex lost feelings for me while I was gone and struggling with mental health. When I came back he said he just wanted to be friends and that he was focusing on himself. Yet he said he would always love me and wait for me no matter how long I took. So he broke my heart once and for all, and I realized I couldn't love that type of person anymore. So I fell out of love with him. We're still friends and I don't have feelings for him anymore, but it's just a cruddy thing that he did to me and never even apologized for it. I wouldn't want to kill myself because I don't want him to reign over my life. If I die I'm doing because it's my choice not because of him.

 

[ilovenoodles]

I had the same thing happen to me, my ex lost feelings for me while I was gone and struggling with mental health. When I came back he said he just wanted to be friends and that he was focusing on himself. Yet he said he would always love me and wait for me no matter how long I took. So he broke my heart once and for all, and I realized I couldn't love that type of person anymore. So I fell out of love with him. We're still friends and I don't have feelings for him anymore, but it's just a cruddy thing that he did to me and never even apologized for it. I wouldn't want to kill myself because I don't want him to reign over my life. If I die I'm doing because it's my choice not because of him.

Awwww :( I'm glad you came to that realisation tho and fell out of love, you're really strong for that and I hope all goes well for you. But yeah I get what you mean and I'll keep that in mind