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noname223

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Aug 18, 2020
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Hiatus day was pretty pretty fine thus far.
I stopped using dating apps because I got literally 0 likes the last weeks. But it seems like the following also happened in the past to me. After a lot of swiping when you reduce it to zero and then you travel to a different region your profile is shown more often. I feel like it is like a pity like. For people as desperate as me to give them some hope so that they keep engaged.
Actually, I am now texting with two women since today. It is very stressful and I use AI feedback in order to avoid becoming paranoid. When I texted I experienced a lot of paranoia without getting feedback. And my friends were overburdended when asked them too often. But I have to say chatGPT really keeps me on track. And personally it works for me far better than Claude. I think chatGPT is better trained to deal with low key always paranoid users like me.

There is one woman with whom I text where I am quite sure we don't fit. The second woman is preyy interesting though. But the distance between us quite large. Not sure how to describe that on here. But she often travels to my region. I think the distance between us could kill it. When the vibe was very good I asked her for a date (sort of or meet-up) and I think she appreciated that a lot. She agreed and complimented me.
I tend to think people on here like "the Duck" (@Angst Filled Fuck Up) who recommended me less texting more real life Meeting were right. And I think this advice is Gold. Otherwise you are perceived as someone who is only into texting without becoming serious.

She hates status oriented people. And feels more comfortable being around people like me. She gäbe me some compliments we also already teased each other a bit. Honestly, all of this is not really indicative whether this connection will last long. It is good for my self-confidence. Even though my friends teased me for always having my phone as my highest priority.

I am somewhat anxious I could become paranoid when texting her. I try to postpone getting paranoid as long as possible. ChatGPT is pretty good in preventing me to become too paranoid. I stay over night at the house of my friend. This will usually make my sleep worse. But I try to remain relaxed.

I try not get my hopes too high up. The chemistry in writing and humor is (very) good. But will it be enough to bridge the geographical distance?
 
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noname223

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Aug 18, 2020
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Texting with her basically the whole day. It makes me wonder whether she is neurodivergent too. It gets personal. We have fun. But I have not explained my college or mental health issues thus far. But I also didn't lie about it. And I probably won't lie. But I try to be careful when talking about it. I think she knows I am neurodivergent. AI chatbots help me not to become paranoid.

I will keep it short on here for today. When I fuck it I will crash so hard. And this happens eventually in like almost all cases. Okay honestly I think this is emotional reasoning. Often we just didn't fit. And we realized that. This I fucked it up shit is a commom thinking fallacy of mine. Sometimes it was true. But not even in the majority of cases. This usually goes through my mind though. ChatGPt helped me to realize that.
 
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Texting with her basically the whole day. It makes me wonder whether she is neurodivergent too. It gets personal. We have fun. But I have not explained my college or mental health issues thus far. But I also didn't lie about it. And I probably won't lie. But I try to be careful when talking about it. I think she knows I am neurodivergent. AI chatbots help me not to become paranoid.

I will keep it short on here for today. When I fuck it I will crash so hard. And this happens eventually in like almost all cases. Okay honestly I think this is emotional reasoning. Often we just didn't fit. And we realized that. This I fucked it up shit is a commom thinking fallacy of mine. Sometimes it was true. But not even in the majority of cases. This usually goes through my mind though. ChatGPt helped me to realize that.
You have a lot going for you, noname; you are a very thoughtful person and there are certainly people in this world who will deeply love and appreciate the way you think and engage with life đź«‚.

Sometimes two people just decide to part ways, and that doesn't mean either of them "messed up"—sometimes both of them do things right, and sometimes external disruptors get in the way between them. There are endless explanations besides one person's actions 🤗.
 
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noname223

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You have a lot going for you, noname; you are a very thoughtful person and there are certainly people in this world who will deeply love and appreciate the way you think and engage with life đź«‚.

Sometimes two people just decide to part ways, and that doesn't mean either of them "messed up"—sometimes both of them do things right, and sometimes external disruptors get in the way between them. There are endless explanations besides one person's actions 🤗.
So extremely kind and compassionate. Thank you so much!

Sending hugs and a lot of love.
You are one of those members who make this community so valuabe and special for loney souls like me.
 
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noname223

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It seems like she ghosts me. Not sure why. Lol. It was after we exchanged pictures. This is not the first time this happens shortly after changing to a messenger. My friends doubt it is my outer appearance. And honestly I also doubt it. Women in the past who I dated told me I looked really good. I think I am above average. My friends told me I am slightly more attractive than her considering social normative standards. She also looks pretty good but also a bit chubby. ChatGPT told me it is close to a draw our attractivenes of our outer appearance. 55:45 slightly in favor of her. But chatGPT suggested the reason is my photos are not perfect. It think it is unlikely my outer appearance is the reason.
I am not sure how insecure this episode should make me. Honestly, I think I am more insecure (rightful) about a lot of stuff that is going on in my life. But my outer appearance is not my main concern.

Okay she just texted me. After a 12 hour break. Not a good sign.
I am a mess.

Whatever I am phoning with a friend myriads of hours. Main topic our friend who moves to a different country.