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FieCher

FieCher

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Nov 19, 2023
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.. I'm not gonna make it that far?

I never had goals or real ambition in life.
Could it be because I believe that, even if it's not suicide but illness, I won't be here for long? Does anyone feel the same?
 
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Seven Threads

Seven Threads

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Mar 5, 2023
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Not exactly the same, but I've experienced something kind of similar. For the vast majority of my life, I never really had goals or ambitions either, but I think it was because anything that felt worth doing felt too big for me. Like, I'm just an ordinary person. I can't be, like, a big damn hero from out of the games I played when I was a kid. Anything worth aspiring towards just seems like it belongs to the realm of...well, folks who aren't just some kid growing up in a trailer park.

And then it's like, if there's nothing for me to do that I can access, why bother?

If I can ask, is there anything you think you'd want to do if you had no limits? Like, if you were suddenly a genie or something and could make absolutely anything happen that you wanted, is there anything you could imagine yourself doing with that?
 
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Still here

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Feb 11, 2025
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The same here..No goals or anything and I am kinda used to it... The only thing I care about is food and rent.PERIOD....
 
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Forever Sleep

Earned it we have...
May 4, 2022
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I used to have such huge ambition. I wanted to climb as high as I could in a creative career. I realised that I didn't have the talent for it. Also that I maybe wasn't willing to sacrifice all that I would need to or, be ruthlessly exploited. I twigged that a 16 hour work day likely wouldn't make me all that happy ultimately!

So, maybe it's that my goals or ambitions shifted. They are still somewhat focussed on my creative job. I know I'm so much more depressed when I have to wage slave. But, I kind of resigned myself to treading water at some stage and even realised that was probably the happier option for me.

In a way though, I think having no goals is a kind of goal in a way. A determination not to comply to societal pressure to conform, get a career etc. I've seen that attitude both help people who wanted out of the rat race but also, crush people who feel lost and guilty that they aren't conforming/ contributing.
 
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MathConspiracy

MathConspiracy

Trapped in a (prison) cell of organic molecules
Mar 25, 2025
245
100% relate. I used to believe that "I can be anything". But didn't work out for me. I'm a lazy ass person, I'm fucking lazy. Now I've given up on my dreams because they no longer resonate with me. I just want to die.
 
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Praestat_Mori

Mori praestat, quam haec pati!
May 21, 2023
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We can break it down to: If we never try we will never know.

Idk how old you are but I had many goals throughout my life - ultimately I failed when I was so close reaching the top and that broke me - ultimately I ended up here in my mid 40s.

So, I can understand having no goals, too. But in my case it#s a matter of age and the realistic chances to reach those goals among other fatcors like being exhausted, having no hope and so on.
 
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NoPoint2Life

Why is this so hard?
Aug 31, 2024
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I've never had goals or ambitions. My brain just isn't wired right and I'm lazy.
 
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