Story Nice people never heal : DID personality perspective of what I’ve seen and know

[idelttoilfsadness21]

Okay, this is gonna be a very weird discussion and venture into someone's life, but I am my other person's other personalities!

Unlike her, I am more confident, strong, defensive, calmer, and curious, and I was created from her traumas.

She has DID.

She doesn't know what I know, but she has been robbed of happiness and respect since her entire life.

I have seen and been around a few people she associated during my time whenever we switched and seen the disrespect they got but equally what she has gotten.

People associate and assume that nice people are nice for the shake of being so, but it's also from trauma, as nice people very much wishes to be cautious but they sometimes can't either in harsh times, and most times, they never truly heal either from going through or always feeling like they are alone, especially when they have to feel disrespected countless times and subjected to every awful situation that has occurred to them and I truly wonder why people don't take action to recognize this?

Kind, nice people never heal because the world doesn't show them that reason too…

And if you want them to heal, show them respect and consideration and allow them to feel like they can be themselves without always nitpicking at everything they do and allow their confidence to be up, without always telling them what they should do to stop themselves from being broken, like that effing does anything!!!

Please for the love of god stop telling a wrench to pick itself up and be the handyman that actually comes in to be a contractor and vessel for it to use it's talents the right way without making it break because you allowed it to.

I'm talking about the perspective of if you ever been in the receiving end of being told you have to fix yourself or giving bad advice that doesn't do anything but makes things more harder…

 

[timf]

Up until 100 years ago most people lived and died in the village in which they were born. They knew everyone and everyone knew them.

Today we are required to encounter 100s of more people that we did not even know. This can require that we are able to respond in different ways to whatever surprises people can throw at us. For example, if someone is hurt and they need a shoulder to cry on, one can provide sympathy. If one is attacked, one can raise a shield, and if one is intrigued, one can explore an exchange of information.

However, not everyone develops a full spectrum skill set. For the "nice" person who is unable to "give as well as they get", learning how to hide and avoid can be a useful set of skills.

For the person who has fragmented themselves to deal with "the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune", it might be helpful to slowly work to communicate between identities such that a path toward integration might be built.