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[kittymeow:3]

Hi, earlier this week I asked for friends..

I met this one guy on here and everything seemed all good and well.

Until earlier this morning He asked me if I had the chance to be able to painlessly and quickly ctb would I take the opportunity.

I said no, I told him I didn't think I would just because I wanted to make sure my family was financially secure beforehand. (My mom is a single mother and we are lower middle class) i personally don't want to ctb and leave my mom with financial worries.

I decided to stop answering his messages cause i was busy at work and didn't want to get into an argument.

He texted me later saying that he didn't think I would ctb, and I simply told him that I didn't want to continue talking to him because I felt as I wasn't being taken seriously and my feelings were being diminished.

Because I said that he threw a tantrum and proceeded to say
"you're literally impossible to take seriously, I mean just take a good look at yourself and your history and tell me I'm wrong. btw the only reason your bf is still willing to put up with you is bc you're a woman. Reverse the sexes and you'd have nothing. And you're most likely going to become a prostitute within the next 10 years lol"

I feel kinda bad because he's obviously suffering like the rest of us, and I feel bad about blocking him because I probably only made it worse for him.. but in all honesty I didn't want to put up with an incel who only thinks single minded like that. Am I in the wrong?

 

[Dot]

Rport rport rport

 

[SASU-KE]

Some of the best people I have met have been on this site.

Cease contact with the ones who cause you grief. There are good people here too,talk to them.

 

[never mind me]

What a bastard. Just ignore this stupid incel.

 

[Pluto]

 

[VanillaCake]

I'm sorry you went through that... What a way to put someone down even more down.

I'm unsure whether his insensitive answer came from a place of pain or of hatred but the result's the same nonetheless for you. Reporting sounds fair.

I definitely relate to wanting to make sure you secure some money for your family before ctb-ing (it's very kind of you to care about them). It doesn't make your pain and struggles any less important.

Like @SASU-KE mentioned, there are great people on here. I hope you'll be able to connect with some of them, if you still have it in your heart to try

 

[thefirstluminary]

Hi, earlier this week I asked for friends..

I met this one guy on here and everything seemed all good and well.

Until earlier this morning He asked me if I had the chance to be able to painlessly and quickly ctb would I take the opportunity.

I said no, I told him I didn't think I would just because I wanted to make sure my family was financially secure beforehand. (My mom is a single mother and we are lower middle class) i personally don't want to ctb and leave my mom with financial worries.

I decided to stop answering his messages cause i was busy at work and didn't want to get into an argument.

He texted me later saying that he didn't think I would ctb, and I simply told him that I didn't want to continue talking to him because I felt as I wasn't being taken seriously and my feelings were being diminished.

Because I said that he threw a tantrum and proceeded to say
"you're literally impossible to take seriously, I mean just take a good look at yourself and your history and tell me I'm wrong. btw the only reason your bf is still willing to put up with you is bc you're a woman. Reverse the sexes and you'd have nothing. And you're most likely going to become a prostitute within the next 10 years lol"

I feel kinda bad because he's obviously suffering like the rest of us, and I feel bad about blocking him because I probably only made it worse for him.. but in all honesty I didn't want to put up with an incel who only thinks single minded like that. Am I in the wrong?

it's really a hit or miss at this point most are just gonna ghost, some are cool, some are weird, for your sanity sake don't bother adding anyone off of here I heard stories similar to yours and you are not alone on this

 

[SighCry]

Hi, earlier this week I asked for friends..

I met this one guy on here and everything seemed all good and well.

Until earlier this morning He asked me if I had the chance to be able to painlessly and quickly ctb would I take the opportunity.

I said no, I told him I didn't think I would just because I wanted to make sure my family was financially secure beforehand. (My mom is a single mother and we are lower middle class) i personally don't want to ctb and leave my mom with financial worries.

I decided to stop answering his messages cause i was busy at work and didn't want to get into an argument.

He texted me later saying that he didn't think I would ctb, and I simply told him that I didn't want to continue talking to him because I felt as I wasn't being taken seriously and my feelings were being diminished.

Because I said that he threw a tantrum and proceeded to say
"you're literally impossible to take seriously, I mean just take a good look at yourself and your history and tell me I'm wrong. btw the only reason your bf is still willing to put up with you is bc you're a woman. Reverse the sexes and you'd have nothing. And you're most likely going to become a prostitute within the next 10 years lol"

I feel kinda bad because he's obviously suffering like the rest of us, and I feel bad about blocking him because I probably only made it worse for him.. but in all honesty I didn't want to put up with an incel who only thinks single minded like that. Am I in the wrong?

Sorry this happened to you. Take care on here, don't share any personal information about yourself with anyone. There are safer ways to make friends IDK if Bumble still has this option but there used to be a Bumble BFF section you could make friends on.

 

[LongJacks]

Hi, earlier this week I asked for friends..

I met this one guy on here and everything seemed all good and well.

Until earlier this morning He asked me if I had the chance to be able to painlessly and quickly ctb would I take the opportunity.

I said no, I told him I didn't think I would just because I wanted to make sure my family was financially secure beforehand. (My mom is a single mother and we are lower middle class) i personally don't want to ctb and leave my mom with financial worries.

I decided to stop answering his messages cause i was busy at work and didn't want to get into an argument.

He texted me later saying that he didn't think I would ctb, and I simply told him that I didn't want to continue talking to him because I felt as I wasn't being taken seriously and my feelings were being diminished.

Because I said that he threw a tantrum and proceeded to say
"you're literally impossible to take seriously, I mean just take a good look at yourself and your history and tell me I'm wrong. btw the only reason your bf is still willing to put up with you is bc you're a woman. Reverse the sexes and you'd have nothing. And you're most likely going to become a prostitute within the next 10 years lol"

I feel kinda bad because he's obviously suffering like the rest of us, and I feel bad about blocking him because I probably only made it worse for him.. but in all honesty I didn't want to put up with an incel who only thinks single minded like that. Am I in the wrong?

Be careful and don't let anyone tell you when or how to CTB, it's your life and your choice you know your strengths and weaknesses and what you've gone through no one else does

 

[Aflame5926]

to be honest. everybody here is in some way fucked. in math 2 times a negative numbers makes it positive.

it only works in math and not with other stuff.
i know there are some people that have life time friendship here. but dont forget. we all mentally fucked here

 

[Fadenself00_]

Rport rport rport

 

[bl33ding_heart]

I think most people on this site aren't like this at all, and are lovely to be friends with. Don't let the rare few ruin the rest. Just instantly block and don't deal with people like this.

 

[thefirstluminary]

I think most people on this site aren't like this at all, and are lovely to be friends with. Don't let the rare few ruin the rest. Just instantly block and don't deal with people like this.

 

[bl33ding_heart]

I was simply just stating that not everyone here is terrible.

 

[judestfrancis]

Use block liberally and without second thoughts. Honestly, youre going through a lot as is, dont let some dickwad make you feel worse because theyre in the same boat.
Don't ever bow to someones demands, especially not online. Just because someones hurting doesnt give them free reign to take it out on others

 

[Alreadylate]

Hi, earlier this week I asked for friends..

I met this one guy on here and everything seemed all good and well.

Until earlier this morning He asked me if I had the chance to be able to painlessly and quickly ctb would I take the opportunity.

I said no, I told him I didn't think I would just because I wanted to make sure my family was financially secure beforehand. (My mom is a single mother and we are lower middle class) i personally don't want to ctb and leave my mom with financial worries.

I decided to stop answering his messages cause i was busy at work and didn't want to get into an argument.

He texted me later saying that he didn't think I would ctb, and I simply told him that I didn't want to continue talking to him because I felt as I wasn't being taken seriously and my feelings were being diminished.

Because I said that he threw a tantrum and proceeded to say
"you're literally impossible to take seriously, I mean just take a good look at yourself and your history and tell me I'm wrong. btw the only reason your bf is still willing to put up with you is bc you're a woman. Reverse the sexes and you'd have nothing. And you're most likely going to become a prostitute within the next 10 years lol"

I feel kinda bad because he's obviously suffering like the rest of us, and I feel bad about blocking him because I probably only made it worse for him.. but in all honesty I didn't want to put up with an incel who only thinks single minded like that. Am I in the wrong?

Not everybody is like that... I'm here to talk if you want to, I'm crazy but nice at the same time.

 

[Passenger4224]

Sorry this happened to you. Take care on here, don't share any personal information about yourself with anyone. There are safer ways to make friends IDK if Bumble still has this option but there used to be a Bumble BFF section you could make friends on.

Ppl just use Bumble BFF for dating iirc. Best to meet friends irl.

 

[peacebenow]

It looks like you just very recently joined the website. Fortunately this was a new and brief friendship. Sorry to hear it turned out so poorly.

 

[Oiled Sandwich]

I've never understood the point of internet friends, anyway. Do I have a shared understanding with others here? Yes. Would I consider anyone here a friend? I... don't actually know anyone here.

Harsh view, but, like I said, I never understood the concept of internet friends. When I think of a friend, I think of someone I can actually be around in the flesh and blood. Still like the forum though.

 

[Phobia_DLW]

That's a shit experience, sorry, it would be a pity to let it influence any future (pleasant?) experiences, especially if you are looking for friends.

It seems like he wasn't really looking for a "friend," given the gendered nature of the insults he resorted to.

Well, I'd say blocking was the best solution there. Regardless of who's suffering or by how much, if they want to turn you into a punching bag as a result, it's just gonna cause more suffering for both of you.

 

[Enyan]

I feel kinda bad because he's obviously suffering like the rest of us, and I feel bad about blocking him because I probably only made it worse for him.. but in all honesty I didn't want to put up with an incel who only thinks single minded like that. Am I in the wrong?

I wouldn't feel bad about blocking him AT ALL if I were you. It's really nice of you to consider his feelings and state of mind, but he obviously didn't put the same thought into it when he interacted with you, otherwise he wouldn't have sent a message like that. It's extremely inappropriate and uncalled for.

There's plenty of super nice people on here, though, dw. ♡

 

[StupiderJuniper]

thats really fucked, don't hesitate to block him. don't give someone like that a single bit of energy or thought, he sounds cruel and toxic af from just this bit alone.

 

[eggsausagerice]

Until earlier this morning He asked me if I had the chance to be able to painlessly and quickly ctb would I take the opportunity.

I said no, I told him I didn't think I would just because I wanted to make sure my family was financially secure beforehand. (My mom is a single mother and we are lower middle class) i personally don't want to ctb and leave my mom with financial worries.

I decided to stop answering his messages cause i was busy at work and didn't want to get into an argument.

He texted me later saying that he didn't think I would ctb, and I simply told him that I didn't want to continue talking to him because I felt as I wasn't being taken seriously and my feelings were being diminished.

these kinds of questions are so baity to me honestly. people obviously have to have familial/financial/academic obligations that they need to handle before they die, because it would be unfair and irresponsible to die just because you can. i see posts like that on sasu and it's either "yes, i would die immediately" or "no, i have things to do", but i've always thought that talking about a hypothetical where you could die painlessly and instantly is pointless. it's cringy that he would text misogynistic things at you just so that he might get a rise out of you and pay more attention to him. the incel userbase is disgusting to me.

i recommend screenshotting your conversation and sending his account info to mods. men that post on sasu don't really get that women or queer people need a safe space and that women are almost always being discriminated against online publicly or privately. i still think that people can make great friends on sasu, but i don't really like doing it because i know that i or the person i'm talking to is going to die, so i avoid making friends because it makes me more depressed and lonely than i was at the start. i usually cut off friends on sasu to avoid forcing myself to be friends with someone for their sake. most of my friendships on this forum haven't lasted longer than a few weeks. it seems like too much effort for me now if i'll just get ghosted again.

 

[Passenger4224]

incels that personally attack others should not be allowed on the forum, period

 

[bodys_prisoner]

I don't understand why his question upset you so much? He didn't say you should take that opportunity right now.

 

[coolcow1289]

I love how incels can't even be suicidal in peace. They're put down by everyone due to their (lack of) sexual value until their last breath. Even on here.

 

[tonicer]

"you're literally impossible to take seriously, I mean just take a good look at yourself and your history and tell me I'm wrong. btw the only reason your bf is still willing to put up with you is bc you're a woman. Reverse the sexes and you'd have nothing. And you're most likely going to become a prostitute within the next 10 years lol"

That last part made me say "What the fuck" out loud.

I feel kinda bad because he's obviously suffering like the rest of us, and I feel bad about blocking him because I probably only made it worse for him.. but in all honesty I didn't want to put up with an incel who only thinks single minded like that. Am I in the wrong?

Don't feel bad for such an asshole.

I think it is a woman thing to feel bad for guys who don't deserve sympathy.
He is as red of a flag as a guy can be.

You are not even in the slightest wrong blocking him.
Fuck that guy.

 

[ih34rty0u]

most people are cruel, even in suicidal spaces. im sorry it happened to you, hating on someone on a site like this is crazy.

 

[CatLvr]

I love how incels can't even be suicidal in peace. They're put down by everyone due to their (lack of) sexual value until their last breath. Even on here.

He said:

"you're literally impossible to take seriously, I mean just take a good look at yourself and your history and tell me I'm wrong. btw the only reason your bf is still willing to put up with you is bc you're a woman. Reverse the sexes and you'd have nothing. And you're most likely going to become a prostitute within the next 10 years lol"

I dunno, man -- it kinda feels like he earned the whole collective "wtf is wrong with you, dude??" Being suicidal doesn't automatically exempt you from not being a piece of shit to the people around you.

 

[kittymeow:3]

I don't understand why his question upset you so much? He didn't say you should take that opportunity right now.

Hello, I wanted to reply to this. The question itself didn't upset me, it was a good conversation starter and a good question in general.

What upset me is the fact that my answer didn't satisfy him no matter what I told him. I was hoping he'd be understanding but he was very close minded about everything.

He said things like " The fact that you even still have people around you is disqualifying enough " and " You have too much anchoring yourself to life "

And it didn't help at all that once I told him I didn't feel my feelings weren't being taken seriously and that I didn't want to continue talking to him. he started saying really rude things to me for no reason.

I hope this makes a little more sense.