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deep_end

How've you been?
Sep 9, 2023
36
I attempted to end my life this past weekend, cops were called, nothing really happened. After that, I overheard my ex (I guess I'll call him K) talking to my two friends (Friend M and Friend D) over the phone about holding an intervention for me. I still live with K, and K and M have been talking behind my back for a while now. Supposedly they're talking about the details tomorrow, and they don't know I know everything.

I don't see this going well since it's going to feel like so many people ganging up on me. I know I'm going to feel defensive and probably get angry. They're not going to hear me out or try to understand any of the points that make me feel depressed. I've tried talking with them about the topics that have been eating at me for a while now and they are just not helping the situation. How should I approach this?
 
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FrozenSummer

Dummy for exit bags
Oct 30, 2024
7
That's a tough situation. Wish I'd read this yesterday though I don't know what I'd do in that situation, it would definitely be uncomfortable and outright infuriating.

Invalidating someone's struggles and dismissing their problems generally isn't the way to get someone to do anything more than a reluctant/forced head nod to make people stfu and go away. Sorry your going through this. 😰


Has it started yet?
If so, how did it go? 🫥
 
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deep_end

How've you been?
Sep 9, 2023
36
Nothing happened yet, I might've been misinformed. I know they're definitely planning an intervention but just haven't held it yet.

I also feel really guilty knowing all of this and keeping it a secret from them.
 
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Greasyhair

Member
Oct 18, 2025
11
I am so sorry this is my nightmare.

Since you asked I will try my best to answer, but please dont take this as gospel. I would either in your shoes do one of two things.
  1. Surrender to the current, and go to treatment they might suggest. I would try to stay as passive as possible, and afterwards making sure not to talk to them about these issues.
  2. Deflect. "It was momentary weakness" I dont like lying to my close ones as part me dies, but generally speaking normal people cannot comprehend thus truly empathize with your situation (though they may care) and so ended up causing more pain for you and them. Making avoiding it moral

    And please whatever happens, and whatever you do, try to be little easier on yourself. You deserve it.
 

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