Help my bad communicstion anf selective mutism is preventing me from moving forwatd.

[ScaredCutter]

ive talked ab this b4 but, recently school as started again in my country. 2 days ago my mum told me that i couldnt start the cpurse due to my communication, that i might have to do another course or smth. i cant get a helper to asisst me or anything.

ikd whay to do, im scared of group things. im scared of what others think of me, i hate it when my voice feels loud. i remember when ud say "here" to show ur rhere for school, id hesitate because i didnt want to sound bad. my voice feels bad, unfitting for me. it feels like ill never regain thw ability to speak at a level where i can be heard better.

ive been off for long but, nothings changed. i oeep being glued to smth and it makes me feel like my day has no room for anhthing lol.

 

[idfwlnh]

Yeah right, school just sucks, working in group without a good leader is bad as well, I mean, wouldnt it great if they know what kind of person you are and give you part of the work suits you best? Encouragements at times is not enough...Hope things go smoothly for you though, idk what else to say

 

[ScaredCutter]

Yeah right, school just sucks, working in group without a good leader is bad as well, I mean, wouldnt it great if they know what kind of person you are and give you part of the work suits you best? Encouragements at times is not enough...Hope things go smoothly for you though, idk what else to say

haha sorry, i mean like those griup sessions to help with abxiety and such, group therapy or whatever. ive turned them down a lot because of my own worries, i dont feel like id fit in those places or anything.

speaking of group work, ive never rlly did much chiming in because i didnt feel knowledgable on anything and it felt like i wasnt doing enough work. but, im not doing any or anything since i havent begun tafe.

 

[idfwlnh]

haha sorry, i mean like those griup sessions to help with abxiety and such, group therapy or whatever. ive turned them down a lot because of my own worries, i dont feel like id fit in those places or anything.

speaking of group work, ive never rlly did much chiming in because i didnt feel knowledgable on anything and it felt like i wasnt doing enough work. but, im not doing any or anything since i havent begun tafe.

haha well I see, I have no experience in group therapy b4, and I just don't enjoy and even resist any kinds of therapy lol

sadly the university system here in my country have plenty of teamwork, and if u don't contribute enough to the group, if the other team members say so to the teacher, then you're gonna have really hard time passing the course

 

[3spiral]

hi, idk what to say, i struggle a lot with communication too. just wanted to let yk you're not alone i guess. i dont know how big is your struggle but i know the feeling of not being able to speak very well. it fucking sucks and i'm sorry you're going through this:/
i usually just try to remind myself about how people don't care as much as my brain makes it seem like they do but ik its also not always that simple lol. you got every right to take your time to recover from situations like these... its very scary but u got this<3 i believe in u

 

[RoseQuarts]

Hi, you're not alone on this. Many other people feel insecure about their voice. I know that I feel insecure about the depth of my voice, and I will intentionally talk more 'feminine.' For this reason, I never spoke in class until highschool/college. There's a great rule of thumb when it comes to peoples' perception of you: 30% of people are going to not like you, 30% will like you, and 30% will just not care. The funniest part about people not liking you is that they tend to not like themselves either. As someone who used to work on one-on-one with children on English, you have to let yourself mess up. If you're smart enough to find this site, you're smart enough to overcome any problem.