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I think I'm in this camp. There was something I made huge improvements with and I'm really proud of myself for it. But I also have physical chronic illness and it makes the thing I wanted most, financial independence, difficult. I'm genuinely too physically and emotionally tired to push at it. I feel happy knowing I spent the last year of my life in a much better place and doing things I enjoy. I still want to go.
Agreed 100%. Though, to me (maybe us), those born the correct ASAB have "it all", or at least what we desire.
I feel that.
I don't know lol Depends if you need more than the ASAB to be correct, like better living situation. For me, I'll take a rough living situation while the correct ASAB to satisfy me with life. I'd try to adapt. At least I wouldn't have self hatred weighing me down like I do nowmaybe?
I agree. When you're young, you have your peak years in front of you. I wouldn't want to get my life functioning at a late age. My glory years would have been missed :/
Assigned Sex at Birth. This is a different issue than being born the wrong AGAB (Assigned Gender at Birth), because I am the cis gender of my assigned sex. I just wish I was the complete opposite on both. My gender isn't different than my assigned sex is what I am trying to say.
I'd be ecstatic to have a corrected asab along with a rough living situation. Who says we would have a rough living situation? We mighte be in a better living situation in that regard. You know, since actually happy?
assigned sex at birth
Why's that? What is troubling you?
I meant upbringing. Basically what I am saying is, I'd trade my current situation to be born the correct ASAB without knowing the variables that come with it. Like you said, to feel whole.
because life is a game you can't win. What is the point of suffering so much to achieve goals that will be lost in a few decades or maybe days or years, because nothing guarantees that I will live tomorrow.
Some people might say so, but for me it is a self diagnosis. I don't think they have ASAB as a trans term. It's just AGAB that is. Like I said, I don't think someone who's gender matching their assigned sex but wants to be the opposite in both ways is in the books.
True. It seems we just live to die. We are forced to work just earn money, then give some of that money to the Government, only to die later on. Government is basically profiting off our labor.
I can't fully wrap my mind around this.
Dysphoria really sucks lol It is the sole reason why I'm waiting to buy a bus ticket lol
We do call it "drag" now. However, there are people who identify themselves as women even with the male anatomy, because their gender is "female". I never understood it myself, but to each their own.
It's really not that complicated. Sex is what you're assigned at birth based on your characteristics. no one can know what is in your brain (or wherever you "feel" who you are). Transgender people "feel" that they are the opposite sex of that assigned to them. There is a mismatch between their sex and their gender identity. For those of the religious ilk, which is not me, I guess I would characterize it as the soul feels it doesn't belong in the body where it resides. Orientation is completely unrelated to gender identity, as I'm sure you understand. I'm not sure what to say about preferences. And in some cases, even transitioning successfully to the opposite gender will not "fix", and I hate that word, the mismatch, because, well, it is simply not enough. The outside may be fixed, and part of the inside (think a male having vaginoplasty), but the "rest" of the insides are not, and cannot be. In these cases the only thing that would, could be acceptable is being a cis-female, an actual female from birth, and we know that this is not possible. Hence the dysphoria. There is no "fix" for having these feelings.
If the right person came along, loved you for who you are right now, would that make you happy?
If you asked me like a year ago, I'd say it might. Wouldn't change how I felt about myself nor would I "love" myself, but it would sustain me I suppose. Now since my dysphoria festered last May, I don't even know if that would prevent me from CTB at this point. We won't know, though since I doubt any woman will take interest in me, given that I've let myself go and I am 300 LBS and I have no motivation to change that (due to not liking the male body as one of the reasons for my dysphoria).
Usually someone who is dysphoria would transition, but it's a 5+ year process and since my body is already riddled with the "T" (testosterone), I don't think I'd pass to society or even myself 100% of the time as female, and I don't have it in me to wait 5 years to find out. Much prefer catching the bus. This 100% ^
That indeed sucks. As you basically said, you can't take a soul out of a boys body and put it in a girls OR totally transform a boy body into a girl's.
Just goes to show that dysfunction isn't limited to the hetero bunch. LOL
No. No you can't. That would require a new birth, which is not possible. I guess we're basically talking about the "essence" of who one feels they are.
