Males,do you feel like a predator approaching females?

[iwanttodie019]

#TrueOffMyChest

 

[dragonofenvy]

Can't be a predator if I don't go outside

 

[Always-in-trouble]

I feel like that even not talking to people

 

[zombierabbit]

I feel like an used car salesman trying to scam them off

 

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[like-spoiledmilk]

A guy whispered "groovy baby" to me yesterday at the corner store, so don't do that and you're probably fine

 

[Lamentice]

Women can be predatory as much as men. I am a homosexual and every woman I've been with has been using me for sex to quickly discard; I'm not interesting, I'm not to be known, and often this expectation comes right-off-the-bat on the first interaction. The sex wars are absurd, all humans are the same, seriously there's marginal difference. Women act different around men & men act different around women, but ya'll are the same lol, you've created and perpetuated your own issues with each other. I hear what straight women complain about and I have a lot of similar complaints about dating women, but I can't tell the straight women that if I can't even tell the other homosexual women because they want to defend their own.

People have really been deluded by social media and their own tribalism. Humans are all the same to each other. Straight people make it difficult for each other cause you guys demand each other to act a certain way to the other sex and play games; not that gay people don't play games (oh, they absolutely do), but they have no motivation to behave differently based on someone being the opposite sex, those roles and expectations are lost.

 

[Always-in-trouble]

Women can be predatory as much as men. I am a homosexual and every woman I've been with has been using me for sex to quickly discard; I'm not interesting, I'm not to be known, and often this expectation comes right-off-the-bat on the first interaction. The sex wars are absurd, all humans are the same, seriously there's marginal difference. Women act different around men & men act different around women, but ya'll are the same lol, you've created and perpetuated your own issues with each other. I hear what straight women complain about and I have a lot of similar complaints about dating women, but I can't tell the straight women that if I can't even tell the other homosexual women because they want to defend their own.

People have really been deluded by social media and their own tribalism. Humans are all the same to each other. Straight people make it difficult for each other cause you guys demand each other to act a certain way to the other sex and play games; not that gay people don't play games (oh, they absolutely do), but they have no motivation to behave differently based on someone being the opposite sex, those roles and expectations are lost.

Maybe because of defined gender roles is that one groups activity seems higher and more highlighted then the other?

 

[Lamentice]

Maybe because of defined gender roles is that one groups activity seems higher and more highlighted then the other?

Yes exactly. I think it's extremely worthy to note that men are not more sexually motivated than women, being homosexual I have yet to find a woman who is not motivated by sex/physical attraction in her interest in me. I've been in a relationship with a woman who had 0 interest in my personhood at all, but asked for an exclusive relationship on the 2nd date because ultimately she wanted to have sexual posession, but cared zilch for intimacy beyond that, it's why I broke up with her, I felt extremely objectified and straight-up disliked. I've been with a woman who was so damn avoidant she would complain about texting everyday just to say hi and then when I was talking about potentially being on the asexual spectrum she later blocked me after explaining how sex was very significant for her, we were dating for 6 months, girl just wanted to hook-up but didn't want to be the one to say it. Women complain all the time about this discrepancy in physicality and it all seems like cognitively dissonant performance to me: humans are VERY sexually motivated as the baseline, it's just not true that men persue women for sex and women are more inclined toward emotional intimacy, it's literally just not true. I believe women and men are raised with this different idea of themselves, but then you get into sexual dynamics that are same-sex and it reveals a different truth. However, I do believe most people are largely unaware of themselves and they believe the performances they put on and the echo chambers they engage with. No one ever learns how full of shit they are about themselves and "the other".

In the queer community casual sex, sex with friends, hook-ups, promiscuity; it's all super normalized and very common.

My ex-best friend (also lesbian) is in a relationship with a woman in her 60s.. who knows her family and made a move as soon as she was legal, they seem happy and committed, I felt iffy about it when it was happening but was pursuing a woman 15 years older than me at the same time of being just an adult, so I shut my mouth cause my friend also didn't want to hear it. Large age-gap relationships are not uncommon for gay people in general. I bring it up because it's usually men who are framed as this older predator going for barely legal girls, not to say there aren't lots of predators just like that, but amongst queer people where the dynamic becomes same-sex it's suddenly not something people care about as much and it becomes a lot more gray.

Are girls and women much more likely to be victims of sexual violence, assault, and predatory behvaior from men specifically? Yes. Is this because that's the way people are, or is it because that's how everything is set up to be? I think it's set up to be this way.

I think humans are largely the same, but they're tribalistic and it always results in infinite narratives of "us vs them" bullshit. Humans are also very hierarchical and power-motivated, whoever controls the "us vs them" narration gains the most.

 

[Always-in-trouble]

Yes exactly. I think it's extremely worthy to note that men are not more sexually motivated than women, being homosexual I have yet to find a woman who is not motivated by sex/physical attraction in her interest in me. I've been in a relationship with a woman who had 0 interest in my personhood at all, but asked for an exclusive relationship on the 2nd date because ultimately she wanted to have sexual posession, but cared zilch for intimacy beyond that, it's why I broke up with her, I felt extremely objectified and straight-up disliked. I've been with a woman who was so damn avoidant she would complain about texting everyday just to say hi and then when I was talking about potentially being on the asexual spectrum she later blocked me after explaining how sex was very significant for her, we were dating for 6 months, girl just wanted to hook-up but didn't want to be the one to say it. Women complain all the time about this discrepancy in physicality and it all seems like cognitively dissonant performance to me: humans are VERY sexually motivated as the baseline, it's just not true that men persue women for sex and women are more inclined toward emotional intimacy, it's literally just not true. I believe women and men are raised with this different idea of themselves, but then you get into sexual dynamics that are same-sex and it reveals a different truth. However, I do believe most people are largely unaware of themselves and they believe the performances they put on and the echo chambers they engage with. No one ever learns how full of shit they are about themselves and "the other".

In the queer community casual sex, sex with friends, hook-ups, promiscuity; it's all super normalized and very common.

My ex-best friend (also lesbian) is in a relationship with a woman in her 60s.. who knows her family and made a move as soon as she was legal, they seem happy and committed, I felt iffy about it when it was happening but was pursuing a woman 15 years older than me at the same time of being just an adult, so I shut my mouth cause my friend also didn't want to hear it. Large age-gap relationships are not uncommon for gay people in general. I bring it up because it's usually men who are framed as this older predator going for barely legal girls, not to say there aren't lots of predators just like that, but amongst queer people where the dynamic becomes same-sex it's suddenly not something people care about as much and it becomes a lot more gray.

Are girls and women much more likely to be victims of sexual violence, assault, and predatory behvaior from men specifically? Yes. Is this because that's the way people are, or is it because that's how everything is set up to be? I think it's set up to be this way.

I think humans are largely the same, but they're tribalistic and it always results in infinite narratives of "us vs them" bullshit. Humans are also very hierarchical and power-motivated, whoever controls the "us vs them" narration gains the most.

It does sound pretty weird that the notion of women not wanting good physical sex but emotional imitacy is prevalent when I see people posting otherwise (and when it's the literal purpose, to have orgasms from feeling pleasure).

I think what is this is rooted in really is denying lived experiences as individuals, becauase the social aspect is always emphasised more based on its impact... especially as expectations from an individual of certain group puts a barrier to more fulfilling relationships (maybe worse now with social media having echo chambers being accessible to everyone, rather than it being more circumstantal based on what enviroment you were in at the time).

 

[passthisnote]

no bc i never approach them in the first place because i already know it will end in rejection

 

[coolcow1289]

It's not the 80s lol. You don't "approach" women in public with romantic gestures. Your options are dating apps, clubs/hobbies, or meeting through friends. No, the cashier doesn't want your number.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

It feels like I've internalized it the fear that I'm sure women must feel about me. It's like being scared of my own shadow except way more cowardly because at least shadows are rooted in darkness or something. I once got genuinely terrified while I was walking down the street a few yards behind a woman at night on my college campus. I wasn't just terrified that she'd think I was a predator stalking her, nor was I just afraid of the consequences of being seen as a predator. More pathetically, I actually got scared of the image of myself as I must have appeared to anyone watching me walk at night. It was no different than imagining a horror movie monster was about to jump out at any second. I'm such a loser in this aspect. I had to leave my previous job because of the panic attacks I felt over a female coworker. Knowing I was such a cruel predator her so much for having feelings for her fills me with dread just thinking about it.

 

[LastNite]

I don't like approaching anyone to begin with. Women or men. I can't hold a conversation. I also don't like to be approached. I remember someone coming up to me a while ago. It was so awkward it's engraved into my memory. Told me he liked my hair and asked me something. Had no clue what to say so I stuttered and said tank you. The U.N disapproves. I hope it's forgotten on his end.

 

[SASU-KE]

No, the cashier doesn't want your number.

Nor the waitress. They're nice to you 'cause they're in the service industry.

 

[Canto XIII]

I don't even know whether I'm male anymore...

But rather than predatory, I feel like I'm simply unworthy of love.

 

[50/50]

Yes, thats why i dont do it

 

[SASU-KE]

Yes, I hear David Attenborough's narration begin whenever I approach one.