Making a list of Who gets What after I die

[Bikishii]

I know that not all of my possessions mean much to other people (I like sentimental things) but the majority of what I have (books, physical media, art, etc.) can be appreciated by anyone. Maybe some of my possessions are going to be sentimental to a friend or family member when I'm gone. I want to decide who gets what, though.

Financially speaking it's not like I have too much stuff great in financial value, but I just want to make sure the appropriate people get what they deserve. It hurts a lot making that list though, "this section of books will go to xxxx, this set of vintage art for yyyy, my laserdiscs for zzzz" and so on. These things won't make up for my absence in their life and they could either really appreciate that they'll forever have a part of me with them forever, or they could see it as something too painful that reminds them of my passing and so they get rid of it. That would probably hurt my feelings, but I'd already be long dead and so literally couldn't care about it.

It's bittersweet whenever I start the list and have to stop after a few allocations. I know that nothing in the world will ever bring me back and nothing can make up for that, but I just want to leave some kind of apology when I leave this world that's more than just an apology in a suicide note. I'm sorry, I know this post is a little all over the place and I'm probably not doing a good job putting into words what I'm thinking and feeling, I just wanted to get this off my chest, that even in wanting to do something good, I still hurt. Maybe it's a good kind of hurt since it pushes me away from suicidality (even if the thoughts are still there).

 

[Aflame5926]

I know that not all of my possessions mean much to other people (I like sentimental things) but the majority of what I have (books, physical media, art, etc.) can be appreciated by anyone. Maybe some of my possessions are going to be sentimental to a friend or family member when I'm gone. I want to decide who gets what, though.

Financially speaking it's not like I have too much stuff great in financial value, but I just want to make sure the appropriate people get what they deserve. It hurts a lot making that list though, "this section of books will go to xxxx, this set of vintage art for yyyy, my laserdiscs for zzzz" and so on. These things won't make up for my absence in their life and they could either really appreciate that they'll forever have a part of me with them forever, or they could see it as something too painful that reminds them of my passing and so they get rid of it. That would probably hurt my feelings, but I'd already be long dead and so literally couldn't care about it.

It's bittersweet whenever I start the list and have to stop after a few allocations. I know that nothing in the world will ever bring me back and nothing can make up for that, but I just want to leave some kind of apology when I leave this world that's more than just an apology in a suicide note. I'm sorry, I know this post is a little all over the place and I'm probably not doing a good job putting into words what I'm thinking and feeling, I just wanted to get this off my chest, that even in wanting to do something good, I still hurt. Maybe it's a good kind of hurt since it pushes me away from suicidality (even if the thoughts are still there).

well what you want to do is clear.

but materiaal things doesnt replace you. i remember a movie where a person send after death messages on certain dates to their loved one. im not sure about materiaal but i think that idea is more lovely to be honest. i mean both help but having answers for them to move one is 100% more important then just materiaal items

EDIT: just my 2 cent opinion

 

[MrBigSad]

You can always ask someone to sell your non sentimental stuff and give the money to a charity :) But i see your point. Dividing up things that mean the world to you but might not mean anything to someone else is hard. I know you may think some people wouldn't like some possessions at it'll remind them of your passing but it'll more likely remind them of the happier times they spent with you.

 

[Bikishii]

well what you want to do is clear.

but materiaal things doesnt replace you. i remember a movie where a person send after death messages on certain dates to their loved one. im not sure about materiaal but i think that idea is more lovely to be honest. i mean both help but having answers for them to move one is 100% more important then just materiaal items

EDIT: just my 2 cent opinion

I mean you're not wrong, and honestly I planned on writing a few suicide notes to specific people so they'll have something truly personal to hold onto forever, in addition to unofficially/informally bequeathing them physical items. I'd just want them to have some piece of me since I don't want to be cremated or buried in a coffin or anything like that. I've thought about doing the "scheduled death message" thing too now that iOS lets you schedule messages in advance to be sent later, but I don't know. I like physical letters (even happy ones too, not just suicide notes! lol) and the like, so maybe I'll write letters and just wait for the postal service to take care of it for me.

 

[F@#$]

I don't care who takes what when I'm dead. I ain't got much shit worth keeping anyway.

 

[Aflame5926]

I mean you're not wrong, and honestly I planned on writing a few suicide notes to specific people so they'll have something truly personal to hold onto forever, in addition to unofficially/informally bequeathing them physical items. I'd just want them to have some piece of me since I don't want to be cremated or buried in a coffin or anything like that. I've thought about doing the "scheduled death message" thing too now that iOS lets you schedule messages in advance to be sent later, but I don't know. I like physical letters (even happy ones too, not just suicide notes! lol) and the like, so maybe I'll write letters and just wait for the postal service to take care of it for me.

its actually sounds nice. the problem is people letters takes phycisal adress while internet pretty much say the same. people will not move from an email adress. but i actually love the idea tho

 

[Bikishii]

You can always ask someone to sell your non sentimental stuff and give the money to a charity :) But i see your point. Dividing up things that mean the world to you but might not mean anything to someone else is hard. I know you may think some people wouldn't like some possessions at it'll remind them of your passing but it'll more likely remind them of the happier times they spent with you.

That's an excellent point, I never thought of that! The ones who'd have power over my remains, I don't entirely trust that they would do that or that they would bother even looking into what these things may be worth, either sentimentally or financially; I have one book that's normally pretty inexpensive, I got it on eBay for $20, but it's autographed by Alexander Shulgin so it could easily pull $1,000 at least. But they don't care to notice those details even within themselves, so I doubt they'd even be smart enough to sell my stuff to get their own quick buck. And yeah... I mean I have my dog's urn and when I look at it I miss her, but I remember playing with her and walking her and her stupid adorable little face, I don't think about her hellish last day.

I'm really unhappy with some of the people in my life. A lot of them, actually. But I don't want to kill myself out of spite (that's so stupid, I wouldn't even be able to revel in the "joy" of hurting people) and I'd want to leave them with good memories. I think of the album that Sewerslvt made after her girlfriend CTB, titled "we had good times together, don't forget that." I'd want people to remember the good times. Some of the bad times were/are unforgivable, some on my part and some on theirs, but all will be said and done once I'm gone, and even if I don't leave on a good note, I at least want to leave them with good times and good memories.

 

[MrBigSad]

That's an excellent point, I never thought of that! The ones who'd have power over my remains, I don't entirely trust that they would do that or that they would bother even looking into what these things may be worth, either sentimentally or financially; I have one book that's normally pretty inexpensive, I got it on eBay for $20, but it's autographed by Alexander Shulgin so it could easily pull $1,000 at least. But they don't care to notice those details even within themselves, so I doubt they'd even be smart enough to sell my stuff to get their own quick buck. And yeah... I mean I have my dog's urn and when I look at it I miss her, but I remember playing with her and walking her and her stupid adorable little face, I don't think about her hellish last day.

I'm really unhappy with some of the people in my life. A lot of them, actually. But I don't want to kill myself out of spite (that's so stupid, I wouldn't even be able to revel in the "joy" of hurting people) and I'd want to leave them with good memories. I think of the album that Sewerslvt made after her girlfriend CTB, titled "we had good times together, don't forget that." I'd want people to remember the good times. Some of the bad times were/are unforgivable, some on my part and some on theirs, but all will be said and done once I'm gone, and even if I don't leave on a good note, I at least want to leave them with good times and good memories.

Oh i've heard of Sewerslvt. I wanna listen to them again now. I'm glad to see if you do end it you'll do it for a better reason other than spite. I can relate with the unhappiness of people in your life but you know, that just means maybe you'll find some better people. Life is pretty long either way.