Long Lost Unrequited Love

[Ligottian]

Does anyone still pine over someone from long ago? I'm not just talking about "exes", but perhaps one or more person you just very casually knew or perhaps never knew or even spoke a word to. I'm one of the old timers here and , yeah...

 

[tilsleepcomes]

Absolutely. My missed opportunities for deep connections, or even just the fun of new romances, weigh on me. I've had some really insanely wonderful people look my way, and I stupidly passed up or put off the chance for something.

 

[hellispink]

The person I have loved the most in this world was someone I couldn't be with. He was the most kind, hilarious, empathetic and sweet guy I have ever met. I still love him deeply even though it has been more than 5 years since I last saw him. I sometimes see his social media and I am happy he is doing okay. I have never been able to forget him. There is people that are unforgettable because they made us feel so much with so little. I have never feel the same towards anyone else. I would give the world to see him one last time.

 

[I need peace]

I have this person that I've had a thing with for literally a week years ago and I don't think I'll ever forget them, I truly feel like I love them and will never be with them

 

[Ligottian]

For full disclosure, none of my unrequited loves are not even the most remotely possible to connect with now. Although I think of one in particular daily.

 

[joeythinks]

My unrequited love isn't from long ago, but I thought I'd post all the same.
An old friend turned best friend, she helped me get through the covid lockdowns with my (relative) sanity intact. So many stories; so many inside jokes; so many adventures.
I told her how I felt last year and while she loved me, she was not in love with me. I'm just not her type, and that's fine.
We spent the next year hanging out as usual, but a few months ago I told her that continuing to hang out, with me pretending I don't see her as more than a friend, wasn't fair to either of us. I needed a clean break and to move on for my own sake.
It's been a rough few months since I cut off contact. I have thought about her daily.
This thread, however, is very timely. She reached out to me earlier today. She said she hoped it was ok to message and asked how I've been doing. We caught up a little.
Now we have plans to hang out on Saturday...
I'm thrilled I'll be seeing her, but I know it's probably a bad idea for me long-term. While I haven't stopped thinking about her since cutting our friendship off, I had made some progress.
Oh well. I love her and just-friends or not, I can't wait to spend time with her.
Here's to hoping we all find someone to love us the same way we love them. We may not always feel like it, but we do deserve it.

 

[rainwillneverstop]

this is one of the few things i feel.

la douleur exquise.

fucking life

 

[almaranthine]

oh yeah, I was haunted for years by an unrequited love. he moved overseas a few years ago, so I know I'll never see him again, even as a friend. all I had left was an email he used and sadly, even if I wrote him, I know he would never reply again. the most recent still haunts me, as it was someone I worked closely with. I actually quit that job because I was overwhelmed by my own feelings; it was a very stupid decision. while he acted nice to me while we worked together, I realized instantly that it was all a work-facade and the moment I quit he had my number blocked and even though he gave me his email, he wouldn't respond to me. when we worked together he had offered to look over my resume and give me some tips/edits, so the emails weren't crazy or anything, just inquiring about that. I'm still not over it. It hurts so much more knowing that essentially our every interaction that I felt was so positive was genuinely all a lie and he basically hated me.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I've only ever experienced unrequited love. Quite a few times too (3 times- you think I would have learned my lesson...)

They were pretty unhealthy enfatuations/obsessions to be honest. Only fairly recently came across the term 'limerance'. I think all of them were this! They were terribly painful at the time but now that I know I'm prone to feeling like this, I'm better at keeping myself in check when I start to have a crush on someone.

 

[nosurpries]

i think about even very small, trival things even years ago. the few rare acts of kindness i've experienced from strangers, small conversations that made me feel a little more human instead of so cold, the men who would stare and flirt with me at my old job. don't even get me started on the hours i spend thinking about the 4 year on and off relationship that i single handedly blew to fucking pieces. i think about middle school boys who liked me. i think i've rehashed every single remotely romantic interaction i've ever had about 1 million times.

 

[Ligottian]

I think some people, such as myself, were just never meant to find a mate. No matter how hard we tried.

 

[The Best Vacuum]

Not so long ago I suppose. I broke it off with her because she is better off without me. I miss her every day, but I sincerely hope shes doing better without me in her life now.

 

[DesperateStruggler]

It's been years yet I still think about her everyday even though she did not even acknowledge my existence as a person, I guess I was not worthy even as a friend, and I don't blame her, I hate myself as well, who would want to be near an underachiever quiet ugly autist such as myself anyway?

I was so hurt yet I could not find it in me to resent her, I could not move on no matter how much i tried and that's just how it is, I'll always love her...maybe in a next life if that exists

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Love can be very dangerous… I fell in love with somebody and it was mutual for a while I guess… It became the only thing I was really living for and I let the rest of my life deteriorate… Some form of romantic self-destruction… So when she ditched me I was left with ruins…

 

[OpheliasFlowers]

i think about even very small, trival things even years ago. the few rare acts of kindness i've experienced from strangers, small conversations that made me feel a little more human instead of so cold, the men who would stare and flirt with me at my old job. don't even get me started on the hours i spend thinking about the 4 year on and off relationship that i single handedly blew to fucking pieces. i think about middle school boys who liked me. i think i've rehashed every single remotely romantic interaction i've ever had about 1 million times.

Just wanted you to know, for what it's worth, I do this too. It sometimes feels like masochistic behavior and I don't know what I'm hoping to figure out or understand or accomplish by ruminating on these long-ago (some VERY long ago) situations and people, but yet my mind goes there. I think I'm probably simply mourning the loss of opportunity and sometimes hoping to, at least a little bit, feel how I felt in those situations or b/c of those people....it's more about me than them, and I realize that.

However, there are actually a couple people that I regret very very very much ever getting to know better or seeing where things might have gone with them had I given things/them a chance. Those are the situations that aren't totally about me but also about sadness for missing the chance/s to better know or even love (a) wonderful person(s). It's the "what if" factor with them...

 

[whiteflag]

God yes, its impossible now as he died. I didn't get a chance for anything and all these years later I still linger on these feelings. I feel myself mourning on him and the what if's. It's hard when we weren't even together. I can't move on and I even find myself planning my death date around his. I wish I could just summon him to life and he saves me. But it's pointless in the end to even yearn for that.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Does anyone still pine over someone from long ago? I'm not just talking about "exes", but perhaps one or more person you just very casually knew or perhaps never knew or even spoke a word to. I'm one of the old timers here and , yeah...

There are people I love from a distance. I don't think of them much anymore, the only person I really think about nowadays is myself sadly

 

[OnlyTheWind]

Story of my life and the primary reason why it must end. The girl I liked in high school knew that I liked her but we never spoke to each other. She found out anyway. If anything she was waiting on me to make the first move, but that wasn't going to happen with my self-esteem. All of this was my fault.

 

[Pedronte]

I was never able to find love. I regret trying to avoid people all my life. Due to this behavior, I lost all the experiences socialization could give me.
I avoided it all. I didn't do anything because of my fear. This leads me to the conclusion that people have always been the antagonist in my life.
At least I think this doesn't matter in the end, does it? We are all here, after all.

 

[Euthanza]

Losing few of my closest best friends really breaks my heart, we were so close for years and even decade. I miss them a lot and sometime I stalk from a far knowingly time could never turn back, but I'm glad they're living their best life, successfully, off my sight.