Lonely people of SS, how long do you go without having a real life interaction with another human being?

[natali4]

I don't have anyone in my life. The few friends and family members I have are miles away and I can only talk to them on phone. I probably see them once a year, if I'm lucky. The pandemic made my situation worse. I have gone a week or more without talking to another human being in real life. I was wondering if there are others who are in a similar situation? How has this impacted you?

 

[TheBroken]

Double-edged sword. I go weeks without saying anything more than a few words to someone behind the counter of a business. It's both starkly lonely - like the feel of damp, cold, immovable steel on my heart - and also satisfying, safe, and comforting. Only way to describe the feelings even though the two edges of this sword won't likely make any sense to other people. I withdraw from everything more every day and in almost every way. I feel like a dog in the pack who's sick and separates off to die alone, which is coming in June.

 

[Efilismislife]

I have no one all my life since a child when ive taken away by psychopath toxic abusive family who ruin me until i have to ctb, does social life evenn matter when you want to ctb

 

[WonderingSoul]

For me, nowadays I go a few weeks without talking to anyone until, I'll have to occasionally talk to someone. Other than that, I just text on whatever social media site, everyday.

 

[downndone2]

I'm very lonely but have daily interaction as my son is here for the summer and I have a roommate that is here.
My heart and soul are broken.
I have gone weeks without interaction with others though. I have agorophobia and literally never leave the house.

 

[Ldog9]

Yes, outside of like ordering food or a sentence or two with a cashier, I've definitely gone weeks without having an in person conversation with people. As weird as it sounds, I noticed after long periods of without talking, I've had trouble having a conversation/speaking, sorta stumbling over my words and difficulty articulating myself. Like theres some sort of disconnect between my brain and my mouth. I also have very minor speech impediment, that I feel gets worse if I go without speaking for awhile. It fortunately usually corrects itself after a bit of continually talking, but it makes it makes me even more anxious about social situations. As much as posting here, or things like discord, reddit, texting, etc can help a bit with the loneliness, its not the same to real interaction.

 

[yeh it's all gucci]

As I'm off work atm for an injury I only really talk to people when I go to the shops, even then I usually use self check out. But I have a couple of online friends I chat to on discord regularly, they keep me going.

 

[Nlis2244]

The only interactions I have are with people at school, and that will end soon too. The last real, honestly friendly interaction that I had was more than two years ago, and I remember it because it was in february 2020, the last day of school before it was closed for Covid. Me and some "friends" ( more like acquaintances, but it was the most I had and it felt good) went out. At the end i said farewell to my friend before going home. I enjoyed the quarantine because I didn't have to interact with anyone. But while I did that, the others did interact and deepen their relationships and bonds. When we returned to school they found new friends and I was left out. It's been so long since I have had a real conversation with these people that it's hard to believe I've ever had any.

 

[Sister of the Moon]

I often withdraw and go into hermit mode, but I keep in touch with family and friends at least every other day by text or phone, and see them regularly.
At the moment severe anxiety has made me afraid to go outside but I'm forced to because I have a son to take care of, get him to and from school, go food shopping, take him to activities etc.
I'm happy in my garden surrounded by birds, guinea pigs, hedgehogs, bats and cats.

 

[Conker]

Being an antisocial hermit doesn't bother me, its the poverty and no access to clean housing which..

No wonder so many resort to crime when there's not a lot of decent areas in the world to settle in.
And then the pedophile elite just make things 11x worse by suppressing abundance.
Draconian laws that only apply to the peasants and not them.

 

[Darth Ruin]

My only real life interactions are supermarket cashiers and people at Meet up groups. I started going to meet ups once a week a few months ago but it makes me realize how shallow social interactions really are so I don't even go once a week now. There is someone I videocall every week but I am pretty sure she puts far less importance on that than I do. At least I feel good in those moments.

 

[710]

I usually go weeks or even months without interacting with anyone. And when I do speak with someone, it's usually a cashier or someone like that. On most days, the only thing I interact with is my cat.

 

[MatthewV3]

I have 0 friends in real life. The only people I'm talking to are the members of my family, mostly my mom. I have a brother but he is 12 and I'm 22 so that's a different world. I only have one online friend and we texting sometimes, but no one irl. It has been 7 years since I've last talked with someone alse than my family members, doctors and therapists.

 

[its-about-time]

When I'm actively in Hermit Mode I go up to maybe 10 days without seeing another human before I need to go restock on cigarettes and whatnot. More frequently I go 2-3 days at a time without any interaction. I text with people though. I feel excited at the end of the day if I've managed to not really say anything out loud at all or see anyone, though I generally chat with my dog and cat.

 

[αmber]

My longest time with no real social interaction was 2 years, during the pandemics.

 

[luci4]

2 years

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I live with my mom and two sisters but I do not consider this enough to ease my loneliness. Even with my friends who I rarely see nowadays, I feel like I'm always trapped in a solitary confinement that uses other human beings as walls because I can't truly relate to anyone about every single thing that's affecting me. Often other people feel so alien to me or maybe I'm the alien, or at least a mutant subspecies.

 

[MellowAvenue]

Until very recently I basically would go months at a time not interacting with anyone outside work. It definitely wasn't helpful as I became a kinda clingy work friend due to a yearning for human interaction, which in turn would make them think I'm weird and try to distance themselves from me. I also did have a friend who would try to call me but I'd come up with excuses to not talk to them and keep the exchange text based like my head would explode if I actually spoke to them or something.

I don't know, there was a comfort to the silence that I didn't want to get away from yet I still wanted other people to share it with.

 

[outrider567]

I don't have anyone in my life. The few friends and family members I have are miles away and I can only talk to them on phone. I probably see them once a year, if I'm lucky. The pandemic made my situation worse. I have gone a week or more without talking to another human being in real life. I was wondering if there are others who are in a similar situation? How has this impacted you?

Yes, the few who I call, or call me, are anywhere from 500 to 3000 miles away--only human interaction for me is at the checkout counter at the supermarket when I buy food

 

[Ligottian]

It's weird that I have no anxiety talking to retail workers or people standing in line. The few people I could have
a long, serious conversation with have died. None by suicide. If I CTB today at home, it might be a month before my body was found.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

I go long periods of time in between social interactions, Sometimes weeks or longer at a time! I go out to the chemist once a week to collect my weekly pickup and every 6 week's l spend 30-mins with my shared care worker(BDP) The rest of the time l entertain myself painting Airfix 1.32-1.44 + 1.72 scale model's, Mainly WW11 Willy's Jeep/Sherman Tanks, Cromwell Tank's and Churchill Tank's, LFTs, Lee Grant Tank's , Huey Helicopters, also Hurricanes and Spitfires/Supermarine Spitfires! Anything to Take my Tiny mind away from my issues'! And if that fails then I drink myself into a stupor and pass out in a drunken heap!!!

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I probably talk to somebody at least once a day… But I'm basically a hermit

 

[Nightmare Painting]

I barely speak at all and it's mostly surface level conversations with my brother when he visits. I avoid speaking with my parents as much as possible because they're toxic narcissists who are a constant trigger for me. I've been alone pretty much my entire life and I've never had anyone real to talk with. I've only ever openly talked with people online in any meaningful way and it was never anywhere near enough to make up for decades of loneliness. My sweet dog was the only good interaction I had in my entire life and since he's been gone I've gotten far worse. Not interacting with others makes me both more numb at times while more agitated & agoraphobic at other times. I'd rather be alone than be around my so called "family" but I do wish I had one good person in my life; although seeing as it's very close to my time to go it shouldn't really matter anymore.

 

[ornitier199]

Forever. Interaction is not needed when I'm dead.

 

[whatevs]

This why I studied and got a job basically. I had to force myself to interact in IRL or I would have to kill myself, which I don't want to. But I'm not integrating myself well in society, as expected.

 

[WhatDoesTheFoxSay?]

During the last 4-5 years, most of the interactions I've had were brief, superficial and out of necessity—numerous medical professionals including specialty doctors and alternative medicine practitioners, grocery store cashiers and market stall owners, waiters and waitresses at dining establishments, and my coworkers, having been on and off work.

Despite the age gap, I was quite fond of my Tai Chi group as they were the closest I got to real friends, but unfortunately the pandemic put an end to one of the few activities that I actually enjoyed. Other than that, I never got to know anyone on a personal level. I didn't, and still don't, identify with any particular group or community. Right now, I feel so distant from everyone that if I were to try to integrate back into society, it would be as difficult as rehabilitating a captive animal that has lost its natural instincts.

 

[lokimotion]

I actually have quite a lot of interaction as I have a GF - which makes contemplating CTB even worse. I have friends but they're growing distant. I was never really good in social situations but I'm still in touch with them. I can feel these interactions slowly slipping away though - have been in deep depression for a while and have made any excuse possible to avoid meeting up with people. My GF is my only crutch right now and even that's getting strained. If she leaves then I'm gonna go downhill pretty rapidly...

 

[NotSureToEndure]

I actually wish I had more alone time. I have a partner who I love but I relish my alone time. My work is quite intense and nearly always am in busy environments with lots of people.

When I get my alone time I feel very zen (mostly). I wouldn't want to be alone permanently as sometimes I can get abit lost in a negative spiral. I do enjoy human interaction to a point, and I think I often come away feeling better for it.

However there's bad sides to every situation, and sometimes I feel socially exhausted.

If I could pick one super power it would be to pause time whenever I wanted. I think I can make it through any situation if I get a chance to mentally recharge. Unfortunately it's hard to find that chance most the time.

 

[Fish Face]

I speak to nobody anymore except the useless CBT therapist and I know she will suggest I socialise. But that is when I feel lonely, not when I am alone, but flailing about and just being Billy-no-mates. It seems that since COVID being with other people is the panacea for everything. It is not. I could have all the friends in the world but still the same trauma and I just had enough of being told that to socialise is the answer to everything when they have caused me so much pain. The fact is is that is very cheap to put you in a group and fingers crossed it will work out. They don't have the resources to do anything else.

 

[Lullaby]

It's not comparable to being completely alone since I live at home with two people, but if I moved out and lived on my own, it wouldn't be much different. Some days me and my mother don't even interact, it can feel like living with a stranger. I could stay in my room all day and no one would check on me.

I've pretty much cut out and lost anyone at this point who genuinely cared about me, so I don't have a partner or anymore friends.

I was volunteering once a week but I've stopped since my depression got worse. My only interaction is with my therapist over Zoom and talking to my dad on the phone every few days.

It's definitely made me more socially awkward by being alone, sometimes I don't know what to say to people or I just get completely drained having a conversation. I try to cope by coming online, but then I remember the internet is super toxic or I don't even fit in online spaces either.

It's kinda pathetic, but I just settle for reading to help with loneliness. I feel a lot better by jumping into another world.