Leaving Gifts Behind for Loved Ones

[PerpetualPain]

What do you all think of the idea of leaving gifts behind for loved ones? Either posession's you currently have or buying a gift just for the purpose of given them something to remember you by. Say for example buying my 2 sisters a gold necklace or something like that? Does this seem selfish on my part to try to make myself feel somewhat better about leaving? Will it hurt them more considering that I am a suicide? "Oh he just bought me these things so he it could help him CTB with a clearer conscience". Plus that item would always remind them of my CTB. I want to buy them something but it's complicated due to the circumstances. My sisters know I wouldn't just randomly buy them something sentimental. Even for their birthdays. So it's out of character as well. Any advice?

 

[Wisdom3_1-9]

I've left several gifts behind. It's all detailed in an appendix to my will. I think leaving behind a gift that inspires a certain meaningful memory of your time together can be impactful. I think (and hope) that it leaves the recipient with the knowledge that you were thinking of them; that they meant something to you and made a positive impact on your life. That's the message I want to leave.

For example, I've collected art in every country I've visited, so I've left those pieces of art as gifts for special individuals with whom I went on those trips. I've also left LEGO for my goddaughters because we play with those all the time.

 

[Kristicide]

I'm giving whatevers left of my life savings to charity. Gonna change my beneficiaries, currently my parents, so they get nothing. Maybe it's not a nice gift for them but the charities deserve it more.

 

[1up]

It doesn't seem selfish to me. It seems like a great way for your sisters to have something to remember you by, and it also seems quite thoughtful.

I guess it's up for you to guage how your sisters reactions would be upon receiving those gifts. If it was me, I would not think that way.