Is it selfish to not clean up before CTB?

[byebyebyebyebye]

Currently live with my parents, my room is messy and the photos on my laptop are unorganized. I vowed to clean up as much as can so it's one less thing for them to worry about, but I'm having trouble even doing basic tasks recently. I doubt I'm getting anything done anytime soon, so should I give up anyways?

 

[Brave_heart]

Currently live with my parents, my room is messy and the photos on my laptop are unorganized. I vowed to clean up as much as can so it's one less thing for them to worry about, but I'm having trouble even doing basic tasks recently. I doubt I'm getting anything done anytime soon, so should I give up anyways?

I assure you, your parents will not care about your dirty room. They'll be devastated from losing you. Your room won't matter to them, because their world will never be the same without you in it. I'm sorry you're depressed and not feeling great right now. :( *Hugs*

 

[logan]

I think it's good to clean up - also for yourself. Maybe then other things will also get in order within you.

 

[FuneralCry]

I am in a similar situation, ideally I plan to get rid of my stuff as I want my existence to be basically erased. I understand that it takes up a lot of energy.

 

[Brave_heart]

I think it's good to clean up - also for yourself. Maybe then other things will also get in order within you.

I agree with this. My mood changes when I have a clean home.

 

[Vault of Memories]

I have the same thoughts racing through my head. I have a tendency to always have a messy room and car, due to my depression, and it takes a lot out of my just to get the drive to even start to clean them up. Little by little, they end up getting messy again. My room is currently in that state and I'd love to be able to clean it for my parent's sake, but I just can't see it happening.

 

[It'sNotLookingGood]

If you're gonna kys, the least you can do is leave a clean room for your parents. Imo.

Regardless, messy room = messy mind. So, for yourself, clean it now.

 

[Anonymous 4]

I assure you, your parents will not care about your dirty room. They'll be devastated from losing you. Your room won't matter to them, because their world will never be the same without you in it. I'm sorry you're depressed and not feeling great right now. :( *Hugs*

Yeah, a messy room will be nothing, the heartache of loss will be all that matters to them

 

[It'sNotLookingGood]

Yeah, a messy room will be nothing, the heartache of loss will be all that matters to them

I assure you, your parents will not care about your dirty room. They'll be devastated from losing you. Your room won't matter to them, because their world will never be the same without you in it. I'm sorry you're depressed and not feeling great right now. :( *Hugs*

Yeah, obviously they won't care about his messy room. They'll be too busy being devastated ofc.

But they're still gonna have to be the ones to clean it...

having to clean out your dead child's room would fucking suck. that would be fucking horrible. So if we're gonna put them through that experience, let's try and make it as quick and easy (as painless) as possible for them.


@byebyebyebyebye go clean your room right now.

I get that it's fucking hard. Sometimes it is fucking impossible. But is it impossible right now, or is it just really fucking hard?

You asked:

so should I give up anyways?

and the answer is: obviously not.

Obviously leaving a clean room is better than leaving a messy room. So strive for what is better. Try and be better...

Clean your room. you don't even have to do it for yourself (a clean room will help you). in this case, you can literally just do it for your parents.

 

[Foogs]

I think it's part of "dying well", if that matters to you

 

[hahabye]

I am having a similar conundrum regarding my apartment.

I feel better this week, enough energy to clean it up a little bit.

On the other hand, I saw a post from a person who told that going through someone's stuff have actually helped parents to deal with the grief in a way.

So I'm not sure either if I should throw everything away or leave some of the stuff.

 

[Seiba]

Yeah, obviously they won't care about his messy room. They'll be too busy being devastated ofc.

But they're still gonna have to be the ones to clean it...

having to clean out your dead child's room would fucking suck. that would be fucking horrible. So if we're gonna put them through that experience, let's try and make it as quick and easy (as painless) as possible for them.


@byebyebyebyebye go clean your room right now.

I get that it's fucking hard. Sometimes it is fucking impossible. But is it impossible right now, or is it just really fucking hard?

You asked:

and the answer is: obviously not.

Obviously leaving a clean room is better than leaving a messy room. So strive for what is better. Try and be better...

Clean your room. you don't even have to do it for yourself (a clean room will help you). in this case, you can literally just do it for your parents.

I second this, even five minutes a day is a start.