Is anyone else concerned about the person who finds your body?

[M E O W]

I feel like the thing holding me back the most is the thought of however finds my dead body having to figure out what to do with it… I was thinking about going to the woods and attempting to disappear into the wilderness to ctb but I don't know how well that will work out… thoughts…?

 

[woxihuanni]

That is the most pleasant part for me. I asked them if they would like to see smurfs. Hope they remember that when they find me all blue and feel sick to their stomach.

 

[erehbus]

My first option was car crash into a wall, bridge or structure because then there would be no evidence of suicide. Less pain for them, no one to find the body. I am slowly going away from that, but the plan at the moment is to wait until I move to London with my job(2021) and suicide after one or two months there - just so there is no one to find the body.

 

[JTG1972]

This is part of why I am considering doing it while my wife is with her family for holidays. After a few days of my not answering calls she will most likely call the police to do a welfare check (as she knows I am pretty low) and they will find me. Then by the time she flies back they can have dealt with me, and she won't have to beyond an identifying check or something.

 

[Astral316]

Not really. It'll be cops or someone who will notify the cops... they'll know exactly what to do.

 

[LonelyLight]

An old school friend of mine shot himself in the head last week with a shotgun, he did it upstairs in the bedroom while his sister was home, of course she ran up straight away, let's just say I don't think it's something she will ever get over, there was nothing left of him, well, of his head.... so to answer your question it would depend on the state of your body really, but then again to find a loved one that even died of natural causes would be a hard thing also. In terms of disappearing into the wilderness, me personally, I feel it would never give loved ones closure if they never knew what happened to you, does that make sense? But I don't know your family situation etc, but personally I wouldn't like to just disappear with no closure for my own family. Sorry my answers all over the place I'm not good at putting words together sometimes!!!

 

[Wolfjob_dayjob]

I'm ambivalent. Fuck you Ian this is what you get for never taking out the trash ever and letting me get cut on your beer bottles all the time I'm not your mom!! >:C

 

[Blackjack]

Yes my hub will be crushed. I just hope it's not my son.

 

[RedAlert]

That is the most pleasant part for me. I asked them if they would like to see smurfs. Hope they remember that when they find me all blue and feel sick to their stomach.

What if you turn Orange?

 

[woxihuanni]

What if you turn Orange?

Aha, now you set me thinking. I should probably wear all their favourite orange things and die in them. Hope I shit the bed after I die, as well.

 

[RedAlert]

Aha, now you set me thinking. I should probably wear all their favourite orange things and die in them. Hope I shit the bed after I die, as well.

lelz i can image them saying "Oh my god she shat' on my favourite Halloween pumpkin underwear!...why the hell is she wearing my pumpkin underwear for?"

 

[TAW122]

Not at all since what's most important is that I succeed when I attempt. The world sucks enough and if it wants to do everything it can to make suicide difficult (gathering the method, keeping quiet, mustering enough courage and overriding SI, and then succeeding the attempt) as well as denying us the right and choice to a dignified death, then it's not my problem that they are traumatized by my body. Mind you, I would still make an effort to go discreetly and remotely because I would not want anyone to interfere to stop me from achieving my peace, self-deliverance.

 

[Stan]

I feel like the thing holding me back the most is the thought of however finds my dead body having to figure out what to do with it… I was thinking about going to the woods and attempting to disappear into the wilderness to ctb but I don't know how well that will work out… thoughts…?

It's a really good question that crossed my mind a few times. Some people live with people, others don't. I can't deny finding someone you care for dead wouldn't be traumatic. I live alone with nobody close to me. Many people go to hotels to avoid that scenario.

Going to tell the authorities to get my ex-wife to identify me as a small token for her stealing my kids from me. Was thinking of shaving my head and having "This is all because of you bitch" tattooed on my forehead for the occasion

 

[Meppitech]

I wish I could make it look like an accident for my family. It won't be them who finds me though. It will either be the cops, who chose to see the worst of the worst, or a hotel worker. For the hotel people I think it happens fairly often anyway.

 

[Stan]

I wish I could make it look like an accident for my family. It won't be them who finds me though. It will either be the cops, who chose to see the worst of the worst, or a hotel worker. For the hotel people I think it happens fairly often anyway.

if doing it in a hotel, bathroom closed with a warning note on the outside of the door. No point traumatising a person just for doing their job

 

[Meppitech]

if doing it in a hotel, bathroom closed with a warning note on the outside of the door. No point traumatising a person just for doing their job

I would want to be laying in the bed. You would be so kind as to lay in the bathroom with a note on the door? Maybe I could rig a note in the entry way.

 

[Dubs]

Yes my hub will be crushed. I just hope it's not my son.

Go to a hotel?

 

[Stan]

Go to a hotel?

Not an option for Blackjack, she has assistive needs.

 

[Dubs]

Not an option for Blackjack, she has assistive needs.

Oh ok, a delayed message to police or friend could help then, depending on her specifics.

 

[fettuccinee]

I don't really know how to feel on this topic, I'm probably going to go on a trip beforehand.

 

[Dawn0071111]

Most likely for me it will first responders. Unfortuantly my only main concern is that my soon to be ex husband does nto find me.

 

[Heart of Ice]

I'll send a delayed email to my landlord to call the police to come and check on me. If the email sends, I'm dead. If I don't die, I'll have time to prevent its sending. At least a police officer is prepared (I think).

 

[falconeyes]

Yes, my old parents, that will be devastating to them. Thinking about the moment they find my body, strongly brakes me from doing it till now.

 

[Rachel74]

As N is my option I've also thought of this. I was hoping to just go to sleep in my bed and be found the next morning by my partner. Then I thought if my dogs are still around they'd be bouncing on top of me and I can see it now. Then Daisy and Poppy would try and wake me and it wouldn't happen. That's upset now.
Fuck.. maybe a hotel as I'd be found the next day if I didn't check out.

 

[a.h]

I feel like the thing holding me back the most is the thought of however finds my dead body having to figure out what to do with it… I was thinking about going to the woods and attempting to disappear into the wilderness to ctb but I don't know how well that will work out… thoughts…?

In many countries old and sick people are allowed to live at home and get food delivered to them, cleaning services weekly, help to go outside daily and nurse check ups weekly/daily. Nothing is a must for them of course. It's cheaper for government too since care homes are very expensive everywhere. So people die all the time in their home. Most live in 1-3 room apartments. Police usually just go there quickly and ambulance is called to carry the body away. Death is a normal thing.
But I think it's best that loved one's don't find deceased person unless they were prepared for them dieing.

 

[sammii]

Yeah that's definitely one of my concerns, it would be horrible to find s dead body, especially if u know the person. There's some woods near my house that a few people have died in, I've been considering doing it there but I wouldn't want a little kid to find me or something. That would scar someone for life. I know what it's like to be messed up ur whole life and i wouldn't wanna do that to someone else.

 

[clownangel]

Honestly this has had me postpone attempts before cuz it's always been at the top of my list of worries. Between the state of whatever's left & whoever would be most likely to find me it throws a wrench in shit. I've thought about the whole hotel thing (leaving a note etc, seems almost as lowkey as disappearing in the woods) but because I can't drive I know my family would be tipped off & intervene seeing I'd left.

 

[MeltingHeart]

if doing it in a hotel, bathroom closed with a warning note on the outside of the door. No point traumatising a person just for doing their job

good idea

I feel like the thing holding me back the most is the thought of however finds my dead body having to figure out what to do with it… I was thinking about going to the woods and attempting to disappear into the wilderness to ctb but I don't know how well that will work out… thoughts…?

well even in thethe woods=someone would have to find you, but i guess it is good to strongly minise number of people that would encounter you, (for some people that would be family members) and esp, children and as stan mentioned-innnocent people just doing their job-at least the authorities, police/ amulance are slightly more used to it. I did a similar post t'other day and someone had the fair point that people are found in bad states following other things-such as sudden illness or accidents etc, but either way it virtually impossible to not cause even minor upset or disruption, though i was advised to at the very least to find a remote cottage (in wales for some reason?!-hmm are welsh people known to cope with dead bodies better?!) or to go into the sea-not saying you should do that -thats just what i was told would cause the least offence

 

[Moon Flower]

Honestly that's pretty much the only reason I'm still here. I found my dad after his suicide so I know how traumatic it can be, and it'll almost certainly be my fiance to find me as things stand. It's harder because I know exactly what I'll be doing to him.

 

[Relief]

I can totally understand your debacle. For me as i live abroad (with no family and have made sure not to get any friends) it won't be a family member finding me. I convinced my parents (as i am still financially dependent (19)) to move to an apartment with a staircase where i will be tieing the rope. i'll leave the windows open. i'll do it at night where no one can see from the outside and by the morning someone will probably be able to spot my dead body.