involving your ex in your suicide (or just contacting them)

[Stargazer100]

Have you considerend contacting your ex? What did you think about doing or saying? What made you decide to do it or not do it?

More detailed answers are more appreciated

 

[weallneedtovent]

Considered quite a few times over the last couple of years. But every time I want to, all the hurt floods back.

My ex left me in an emotional and financial ruin, and never really recovered from it

 

[lostmyhope86]

the reason beacuase i want ctb is my ex. i doubt i will contact her because she will be happy that i want that. she are a psycopath and she like to see other people strugge on pain for her

 

[cantwaitbefree]

No for me, I had the best memories with her, I do not want her to feel guilty, just want her to be happy. She clearly moved on so I am pretty sure she wont know. Imo, unless you want revenge because your ex made you suffer, I dont really see why you would contact your ex

 

[Deleted member 8975]

There is no way that could ever realistically work because if the government found out, whatever country you're in, they could implicate that person in your death.

 

[luckrunsdry]

I only had to read this title before thinking "Nooooooopppeeeeee"

 

[Stargazer100]

It's a complicated emotion but an easy choice

 

[boc]

So I've thought about this one a lot. I would appreciate others' thoughts on my approach as well. I'm not trying to damage my ex in the process, but I know she will be a bit hurt.

I have always been suicidal, but earlier this year I had plans to move to another city with my now ex (then gf) and propose. When the time came to actually move, she backed out and said she didn't go. I offered to move back to the original city and even got job offers to do so, but it was a no from her end. The course of events has really been what will bring me the courage to get over my SI and CTB.

Now originally I was planning on not letting her know, and thinking I made out just fine. But I was thinking what I would want in that situation, and I would want to know if she CTB'ed. My approach is to write a letter explaining that I died, and it wasn't her fault, but that I still loved her.

Debating an "I love you" text after I take the N as a final goodbye, but not noting the CTB aspect. She wouldn't contact authorities over it, and probably would just think I'm being desperate. But part of me wants to be selfish and at least say those words as my last.

Open to suggestions and comments please!

 

[ChobaniFlipSmores]

I don't know if your ex is anything like mine, but when I told my ex I was suicidal she just said "Tell your family to invite me to your funeral." After that interaction with her I finally accepted that she was a narcissist and it was time to move on from her.

TLDR you probably won't get the reaction you are hoping for telling your ex you are suicidal. I can't personally see why it would be a good idea to do so. They are an ex for a reason...then again I told my ex...so I'm a hypocrite, but hindsight is 20/20.

 

[PlushieLover]

I told my ex that I was suicidal and she said that if I kill myself she would do it too. Probably she just said that so I don't commit suicide. I'm not sure if she cares that much about me but it does not matter, is way too late for me, that burning feeling that kept me alive faded a while ago.

We also have like a deal. If I don't kill myself she will not self-harm. I feel like trash because I can't keep that deal, but I just can't live anymore, is horrible.

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

no i want a peaceful death.

 

[Littlepaws]

Me and my ex are kinda close friends, so he'll probably be one of the last people I ever really talk to. I don't intend to tell him explicitly that I'm going to ctb.

Since I intend to leave him the vast majority of my assets, he'll know one way or the other once it has happened.