Impact of losing a child

[davidgeorge]

Have any other parents experienced losing a child? I think it's difficult to understand the impact unless you're a parent.

How have you recovered? I am finding life too difficult but also struggle to find the words to describe how I feel.

 

[StarryStarry]

I've lost a child and I've never recovered. I don't think I ever will.

 

[Sittichmutter]

Well, losing a child is really tough.
I Lost my dear 15 year old son, 14 months ago, by depression and suicide.
The pain was so agonizing, I just wanted to die too. But Life does not give you a break and continues pushing you. I have a daughter and a husband and they are my responsability.
So, here I am, in the beginning to understand and then to try helping these SS souls. The same souls that do not want my help. The same that want me to be a witness when they CTB using the same method as my kid's. It Just rips out my heart.
And I still stubborn to carry on. Wishing to alleviate people's pain, so they do not feel like dying anymore.
I am not here to judge or to complain. I am here to try. Again and again.

 

[timf]

There is a lot of pain. Most carry it silently. When you add in miscarriages and regretted abortions, the number of people in such pain increases dramatically The pain might seem to drop to a slightly lower level over time, but it never goes away. There can be waves of recurring pain upon anniversary dates..

In the past the loss from war, disease, and infant mortality was much more widespread. It was perhaps people's faith that made such pain more bearable.

 

[davidgeorge]

Parents who chose to carry on living after they've lost a child have my respect. I don't know how they do it.

 

[StarryStarry]

Parents who chose to carry on living after they've lost a child have my respect. I don't know how they do it.

I carry so much guilt with me for going on living, but I had a son who was very young and needed a mother. He is grown now and doesn't need me nor want me, so now my total focus is on my little girl who left way too early.

 

[davidgeorge]

@StarryStarry, it sounds like you're a lovely mother

 

[StarryStarry]

@StarryStarry, it sounds like you're a lovely mother

That is very kind of you to say, but I'm not. My daughter committed suicide and my son disowned me due to his wife not liking me six years ago. Now Sweet Pea is a different story.