i was raised to be too nice

[xXSufferingXx]

i appreciate how i was raised to a certain degree, but there's also bad aspects.
i was raised to be ultra nice.
and it has gotten me a lot of disrespect and people shitting all over me, taking my kindness for weakness.

but i can't shake this "niceness" habit.
i start feeling bad, i can almost feel it physically, when i do something i deem "rude".
which in todays society people don't consider rude at all, they just consider it normal.

like if someone trips over something in the street, i will look away and pretend i didn't notice it to make sure they don't get embarassed.
but i know the most normal thing among people today is to just laugh at him and not feel guilty about it at all.
like it's normal to be an asshole.

i mean that's kind of an extreme example...
but you get the idea.

so i get a lot of disrespect thrown in my face for having those "niceness" tendencies.
and i have to almost reprogramme myself, but that's very difficult.

it has ruined many things for me in life the whole "ultra nice guy" shit.

 

[SurrealCereal]

Don't become an ass like them. Don't stay forced nice. Find your middle ground that feels right just for you. The world surprisingly ain't black and white, i think.

 

[Macedonian1987]

Being nice in today's world is a recipe for being treated like crap, ridiculed and fail in most things in life.
I know it because I was raised in the same way. I have failed at life, but at least i preserved my good soul - I often comfort myself with that.

 

[thelostautistic]

I really relate to what you're saying. I was also raised to be too nice and to neglect my own needs. It's hard to navigate the world when you're raised this way because people really take advantage of people like us.

 

[xXSufferingXx]

Being nice in today's world is a recipe for being treated like crap, ridiculed and fail in most things in life.
I know it because I was raised in the same way. I have failed at life, but at least i preserved my good soul - I often comfort myself with that.

exactly right. and thats a great quote, i like that

I really relate to what you're saying. I was also raised to be too nice and to neglect my own needs. It's hard to navigate the world when you're raised this way because people really take advantage of people like us.

yes they do. i have tons of big time examples, as im sure you do, it sounds like