Venting I hate how expensive cosmetic surgery is

[Bunnymmm]

I want to be pretty enough to where I don't get constantly rejected by men. Hell, my friends get more attention than me when it comes to men. The quality of guys I get aren't good either tbh! Going to the gym isn't going to fix my skull and hip width.

 

[U. A.]

The quality of guys I get

Something tells me you'd be better off focusing on things about yourself other than what plastic surgery would change.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

I saved up money and got plastic surgery, but I can't honestly tell you whether it's worth it or not. I did it for myself, not for men, though I have always been bullied for my appearance ever since I was a little girl. Getting the surgery made me look a bit less sickly as it fixed a droop/facial asymmetry, so in that aspect it was very beneficial for my self esteem.

While I do look better, it didn't achieve the ideal aesthetic I wanted, and there are still many aspects of my appearance that are unappealing and unattractive, like having an underdeveloped jaw. If I had more money, I would probably get more enhancements. Once you start, it is hard to stop, imo, because there's only so much that can be done.

Though I will warn you if you have plastic surgery in most Asian countries, they aren't going to give you very much in terms of pain relief, and you might even be semi-conscious during the procedure unless you're having a rhinoplasty or jaw surgery. It was really scary for me.

I had a procedure that is not supposed to be that painful, but I still had a lot of pain and swelling for a long time because they barely prescribe pain medication there. So that's just something to be aware of if you're serious about cosmetic surgeries and procedures, it is pretty painful and it can often take months to see the final result and know if you're happy with it.

 

[Bunnymmm]

Something tells me you'd be better off focusing on things about yourself other than what plastic surgery would change.

Idk it doesn't yield the results I want

 

[itsgone2]

I understand how you feel. I'd suggest avoiding surgery. I had a procedure go wrong once and it's probably what ruined me.

 

[Alpacachino]

After seeing what's happened to many patients I wouldn't suggest any surgery . Too many botched surgeries by doctors,both for cosmetic and essential life saving surgeries.Don't want to spend the rest of your life in pain.

 

[violetforever]

my god there's a lot going on here

 

[Bunnymmm]

my god there's a lot going on here

Can you explain?

 

[violetforever]

Can you explain?

from the looks of it, you put all of your worth into whether or not men find you attractive. you need to fix your skull? and hip width? and be asian? none of those are just "regular" insecurities everybody has. they're very specific. almost like a specific person instilled those ideas (which are insane) into your mind. get the surgery if you want but you are never going to be fully satisfied if you only do it out of self hatred to win someone over. beauty standards change all the time anyway. being pretty isn't going to automatically solve everything in life either if that's what you believe.

i never thought i'd grow up into a reality where white people wished they were minorities. especially for the supposed reason that white men prefer them! do you know what fetishization is? because that's exactly what you are playing into. you only want to be asian so men desire you. think about how wrong that sounds. now you yourself are also basically only seeing asian women as sexual objects like the men you are around. your ignorance isn't excused just because you are insecure and also a woman. the desperation some women have for male validation is a detriment to all women in the end.

 

[Happy Cat]

cosmetic surgeries are for people that have been in traumatic accidents (for example being in a car crash and having your entire face destroyed) but now people are getting them just to look pretty

from the looks of it, you put all of your worth into whether or not men find you attractive. you need to fix your skull? and hip width? and be asian? none of those are just "regular" insecurities everybody has. they're very specific. almost like a specific person instilled those ideas (which are insane) into your mind. get the surgery if you want but you are never going to be fully satisfied if you only do it out of self hatred to win someone over. beauty standards change all the time anyway. being pretty isn't going to automatically solve everything in life either if that's what you believe.

i never thought i'd grow up into a reality where white people wished they were minorities. especially for the supposed reason that white men prefer them! do you know what fetishization is? because that's exactly what you are playing into. you only want to be asian so men desire you. think about how wrong that sounds. now you yourself are also basically only seeing asian women as sexual objects like the men you are around. your ignorance isn't excused just because you are insecure and also a woman. the desperation some women have for male validation is a detriment to all women in the end.

what... I thought they were all about equality here. Those types of people just want special treatment

 

[Not Today Satan]

cosmetic surgeries are for people that have been in traumatic accidents (for example being in a car crash and having your entire face destroyed) but now people are getting them just to look pretty

what... I thought they were all about equality here. Those types of people just want special treatment

Because god forbid that anyone do anything about their insecurities, right? There are people who think they're just better than others because they were born good looking. Are you one of those?

 

[Happy Cat]

Because god forbid that anyone do anything about their insecurities, right? There are people who think they're just better than others because they were born good looking. Are you one of those?

I am thinking of the rich influencers on instagram who really don't need it

 

[Not Today Satan]

I am thinking of the rich influencers on instagram who really don't need it

Ok, but think of it this way. If they don't get surgery then the plastic surgery industry becomes significantly less profitable. That means much less new methods, technology, etc. being developed. Those who need reconstructive surgery would suffer from the stagnation.

 

[Happy Cat]

Ok, but think of it this way. If they don't get surgery then the plastic surgery industry becomes significantly less profitable. That means much less new methods, technology, etc. being developed. Those who need reconstructive surgery would suffer from the stagnation.

Hey it's your money you're wasting. I personally wouldn't spend 10k for a nose job though especially cause it makes you look worse until it's fully healed, and thats if they do it right

 

[Not Today Satan]

Hey it's your money you're wasting. I personally wouldn't spend 10k for a nose job though especially cause it makes you look worse until it's fully healed, and thats if they do it right

I had a nose job 2 years ago and I have no regrets at all. However I also had a hole in my nose from drug use. Don't do drugs, kids.

 

[deadgirlwalking]

I think the last time a man was attracted to me was when I was 6 years old and i was raped as a child. I do have a partner but im always afraid they dont actually find me attractive like my ex did. A big part of my suicidality comes from the fact I look like a monster, literally i look deformed no hyperbole. Im pretty sure any time ive gotten attention or hit on it was a sick prank of some sort. Im scared my partner is only with me for pity, or on the opposite end they're actually waiting for the opportunity to break up with me and humiliate me. I feel bad for feeling this way because realistically they gave me no reason to believe that but I can't shake that feeling.

 

[U. A.]

god forbid that anyone do anything about their insecurities, right?

Uh, I suggest you follow the link that's in my earlier comment.

 

[JustBe]

One of the biggest mistake people do with cosmetic surgeries is starting with rhinoplasty. If the rhinoplasty is not enough, you're fucked.
The thing is, after a rhino you cannot fix anything else because any other big surgery (jaw, chin) will make your new nose crooked.

 

[Bungee_gum]

I think the last time a man was attracted to me was when I was 6 years old and i was raped as a child. I do have a partner but im always afraid they dont actually find me attractive like my ex did. A big part of my suicidality comes from the fact I look like a monster, literally i look deformed no hyperbole. Im pretty sure any time ive gotten attention or hit on it was a sick prank of some sort. Im scared my partner is only with me for pity, or on the opposite end they're actually waiting for the opportunity to break up with me and humiliate me. I feel bad for feeling this way because realistically they gave me no reason to believe that but I can't shake that feeling.

i'm sorry this happened to you when you were young, nobody should have to go through that. but honestly, from the way you talk about yourself in this message feels like you just have low self esteem, and that you don't actually look bad or at least dont look as bad as you say. i dont know if you've went to therapy, but if you havent you should go to therapy, as this low self esteem can leave you vulnerable to unhealthy relationships in the future where you may be treated badly or exploited in some way, there is no shortage of men who would want to take advantage a woman with low self esteem. on the topic of cosmetic surgery, it is your choice but improving your self esteem will help you determine whether you want to go through with it or not

 

[Sweet Tart]

Fwiw, being pretty doesn't guarantee that anyone will be interested. I was considered hot when I was in my 20s but the only men who showed interest were the ones who wanted to fuck me- like my friends boyfriends, a family member's boyfriend, random married guys, etc.

Most of the people who I liked were not interested. Maybe they thought I was out of their league? Idk, I never cared about looks. It felt really bad to know that people didn't want to get to know me as a person but wanted to use me because of how I looked. I used to say I felt like a side dish, never a main course.

 

[FoxSauce]

I really want a jaw surgery not like for authentic reasons but to fix thr bite and place some place some braces but I cant do any work before surgery cuz doctor explained is gonna get worse if I dont do the surgery but since its considered a plastic surgery then is more expensive.

Yeah I wish surgery for looks was more affordable.

Is not about just looks I really despise my smile

 

[Electrohero777]

Yeah I know what you mean... but they can fuck up and do a botch job as well. If it'll help you or make you feel better about yourself by all means I think you should do it...