How to write a good suicide note?

[blueclover_.]

Listen, i've tried writing down my thoughts... Can't help but cringe when i read them. I'm not a good story teller, so i made points of reasons. It just sounds cold, but idk how else to write it. Any ideas? Should i draw little butterflies or something?

 

[Bone]

Maybe can share here if you want feedback and don't include anything that would identify you personally. I think it's your note so whatever you want to say is fine-personally I'd try not to overanalyze it but I get why you're nervous about it.

 

[yive]

that's a problem for me too. i'll most likely write my thoughts honestly, without sugar-coating the content. however i like your idea with butterflies, haha
p. s. i have so many notes written down that it will be enough for a book, but i still don't know what to write in my final (handwritten) note

 

[Smart No More]

Multiple passes might be worth trying. So literally just scribble down everything on your mind first time. Give it a day or 2 before going back to read it. In that time decide what your aims are in writing your letter and maybe create some guidlines. This doesn't have to be complicated though. You can skio this step if you want but it's a good thing to have your intentions in mind for the second read. So come back to it a day or so after first pass and read and critique. Amemd and edit or start a new pass. Rinse and repeat until you find yourself with a complete note.

Avoid putting any thoughts out there that could plant seeds of despair in the heads of the readers. Bare in mind they can't reply to your letter once you're gone so things to avoid and leave people feeling whole would be things like "please forgive me" "it's not your fault" etc. They may or may not feel this way and if they don't you're planting it in their minds and they may have prolonged grief and guilt because they can't answer or correct you. It will play on their minds. If you feel the need to say those types of things you can find and alternative way to do it. So for example, "I feel some guilt about leaving this way but as my loved ones I know and appreciate that you'll understand that I don't take this action lightly. I am so lucky to have your understanding and I pass with warmth in my heart knowing this". "I don't feel anybody is to blame for this, it's just an unfortunate roll of the dice for me and this is something that happens to some people." "please be happy that my suffering is over and celebrate me rather than mourning me" "it would make me happy to be remembered with a smile rather than a tear. Maybe you can shed a couple but that's your lot. I loved and love you as I write this".

I don't know if that's perfect but hopefully you can adapt the jist of it to suit your situation.
But try to keep your personality in there so it reads like you and is therefore more personal and treasured by your loved ones.

I'm thinking of getting a few gifts to leave to be open at milestones in life so that I'll still sort of be there. I like the idea but am still struggling with whether it's the right move and how best to do it.

 

[Itsallover123]

Listen, i've tried writing down my thoughts... Can't help but cringe when i read them. I'm not a good story teller, so i made points of reasons. It just sounds cold, but idk how else to write it. Any ideas? Should i draw little butterflies or something?

I've thought about it and what I would do is send messages to the 8-9 people in my life that I care about telling them how much I love them and how they've impacted me, I wouldn't worry about the bad things/reasons for ctb. The only issue is I'm a fucking pussy and I can't trust my SI so I'm worried that I'll back out after sending the messages.

 

[Smart No More]

You can put a timer on mail to send at a later date but you can also just turn the internet off on your phone, write the letters and press send. They won't send until the internet is turned on so basically turn your phone off and leave it in your pocket. When you're found they will find and turn on you phone restating the Internet connection and the mail will be sent then.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think for me, my suicide note will act as closure for those left behind and will mean that they are not left with unanswered questions. I will focus on a few main points in my note, saying things like 'now I am at peace, free of suffering' and 'there is nothing you could have done'. I am also trying to make them understand why I have chosen to do this. I wish you the best.

 

[DarkDg21]

My suicide note will be short and simple.
Something like : "It's my fault, don't blame yourselves. Thank you for everything you've done for me but I can't stand this pain no more".

 

[Musketeer]

I won't be writing a note, i will be trying to discard my identity before i go out no one will know who i am

 

[blueclover_.]

I won't be writing a note, i will be trying to discard my identity before i go out no one will know who i am

Dude, i'm thinking of making it look like an accident. There is so much stigma around suicide where i live, and my parents would likely feel ashamed that their kid has committed such a big sin. I'm going to try to make it look like I'm trying to cure meat with SN. I wish you luck with your plan!