How to deal with my mom

[mentalhealthfighter]

So basically my mom says she will kill herself too if I kms. I also live with her. What to do? She also said she may be willing to work with me and help me kms. Look man. Idk what to do anymore but I really want to die.

 

[eternalflame]

Interesting. So it's like double suicide?

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

Interesting. So it's like double suicide?

yes. but at the same time shes trying to stop me so hard because SHE wants to stay alive.

 

[eternalflame]

And why do you want to die? Didn't your voices stop? Depression, post stress disorder?

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

And why do you want to die? Didn't your voices stop? Depression, post stress disorder?

yes, im still depressed, mixed with some anxiety

 

[eternalflame]

I see, but maybe you can go on like this?

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

I see, but maybe you can go on like this?

Not really, I feel awful

 

[eternalflame]

Is your mom your only close family?

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

Is your mom your only close family?

Yes

 

[eternalflame]

Ok, i will read your posts so i will get a general idea of your situation. Also i ve read of a woman who tried to die by train but she survived and found Jesus, yet she still has to live with pain of losing legs. I wouldn't recommend this option. Take care.

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

Ok, i will read your posts so i will get a general idea of your situation. Also i ve read of a woman who tried to die by train but she survived and found Jesus, yet she still has to live with pain of losing legs. I wouldn't recommend this option. Take care.

Thank you. I won't do it.

 

[Lily (Osako)]

Do you think you could talk with her about it and let her know in a gentle way that saying she'll kill herself if you do is manipulative and emotional blackmail?
I'm not sure how to soften those words, but that's what it is.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this on top of the sadness you're suffering with.

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

Do you think you could talk with her about it and let her know in a gentle way that saying she'll kill herself if you do is manipulative and emotional blackmail?
I'm not sure how to soften those words, but that's what it is.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this on top of the sadness you're suffering with.

Thank you. I will let her know next time.

 

[Euthanza]

You need to make sure both of you talk with honesty in the right time at the right place. Give sometime and repeat asking her if she really means it. If she doesn't then one of you must take the pain of living

 

[akana]

My mum does this too, emotional blackmail not realising it actually makes the situation worse. its literally abusive. god forbid if I did what the above poster said. its so tiring bc I could address but I also don't have the energy for hassle. she freaks out if I leave the house when I just want peace and quiet

 

[FuneralCry]

That sounds like a difficult situation to be in. Only you know what is best for yourself, I believe that nobody should be guilt tripped and forced to live against their wishes, suicide is a personal decision and we all have the right to exit at a time of our own choosing. Best wishes.

 

[theboy]

A mother gives her life for her children, so while it is true that it is emotional blackmail... well... she is the one who gave you life, come on.
Now, answering your question, you could deal with her by not talking back, getting defensive, or contradicting her at all. I don't know if it's good or bad advice, but I recommend you empathize with her, no matter how unfair her emotional blackmail is.

 

[freedompass]

A mother gives her life for her children, so while it is true that it is emotional blackmail... well... she is the one who gave you life, come on.
Now, answering your question, you could deal with her by not talking back, getting defensive, or contradicting her at all. I don't know if it's good or bad advice, but I recommend you empathize with her, no matter how unfair her emotional blackmail is.

With respect. A 'mother' has sex and produces offspring. Is that really 'giving her life'? Also a lot of us would prefer to *not* have been 'given' life. Just sayin.

 

[Onw9]

With respect. A 'mother' has sex and produces offspring. Is that really 'giving her life'? Also a lot of us would prefer to *not* have been 'given' life. Just sayin.

Fr didn't ask for this shit and forcing to stay here is beyond absurd

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

OK so my mom came back with something new. I have to try all kinds of therapies and if it doesn't get better, I get to kill myself