How to accept my fate

[TheHatedOne]

Since I pretty much I'm destined to see how everyone else gets along with each other while I'm just shunned away and there's nothing else to do about it since I tried pretty much everything already (even be the opposite of myself) how do I suck it up and accept it? I've tried many times in my life to accept my fate and even was okay with it sometimes but at the end of the day I'm part of this shitty species whose whole existence revolves around socializing and belonging somewhere. If I go too long trying to accept this I get to have awful breakdowns and I get even more hurt after. My whole life I've only wanted to have a reliable, trustworthy and empathetic fellow with me but I just received heartbreak. Thinking of it rn makes my blood boil. But nevermind.

So how do I accept this? How do I cope knowing that I'm to be hurt and shunned away from everywhere and when I say everywhere I mean everywhere irl and online, even on this forum i dont feel accepted. How to cope knowing that I have no one while everyone else has at least 1 person in their life that they can count on? I can't think of anything else than alcohol and honestly I think my life got fucked up beyond return because of alcohol. But who tf cares, I know that one day I'll have to suicide whether I'll still be coward at that time or not. I need to learn to be okay with my fate before that so I wont breakdown non stop.

 

[odradek]

I'm sorry you feel like this, it's a rough position to be in. I'm not sure either how one can accept such a fate tbh. It's difficult, I don't think there's a silver bullet solution for something so complicated sadly.

I'm curious though, why don't you feel accept here? What would it take for you to feel accepted here? I'm not a very prominent user here but I always feel accepted. Even by people who have differing world views to me, we all share the common trait of the desire to exit this world. Again I'm sorry you're in such despair, I relate to it if that helps.

 

[Manaaja]

I know how it feels. Like being a total outsider. Never finding the kind of people you want. 6 or was it 7 billion people, yet every one feels like a total stranger.

I don't know. I feel the same. It's really hard to accept bad things. All kinds of "why me" etc. run through the head.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think in many cases, people can learn to accept their fate as they get used to the way that things are, it becomes normal to them. However, I see it as impossible to accept a situation where you are constantly hurt and upset. In my case, I know I have to ctb as I cannot get used to my suffering and hopeless situation and I just want to escape it. I'm sorry you are going through this. People can be so cruel. I hope you find peace.

 

[eternalmelancholy]

I think in many cases, people can learn to accept their fate as they get used to the way that things are, it becomes normal to them. However, I see it as impossible to accept a situation where you are constantly hurt and upset. In my case, I know I have to ctb as I cannot get used to my suffering and hopeless situation and I just want to escape it. I'm sorry you are going through this. People can be so cruel. I hope you find peace.

This is so true. After a certain point you kind of admit defeat and learn to live with your fate. At least until you can muster the courage to CTB. But that is no guarantee either.

I don't have hard statistics or data and this is just a wild guess but I think most people who are suicidal never end up going through with it. Just waiting around for decades in pain and misery.

 

[Painless_end]

I sincerely hope that things are not over for you and that you are only being negative.

Because biologically we are not hardwired to be accepting of everything unless someone has a really depressed personality since childhood in which case risk of suicide is higher.

I hope you find the strength to withstand. Don't give up. Keep fighting until the end.

If suicide is written in your or my destiny, then we are going to do it either way.

But unless you plan to CTB right away, try and live for today using every drop of mental strength you possess.