How many will attend your funeral

[instormdrains]

How many people attend a funeral on average. I have a lot of friends but im not going to tell any of them when I do it. I think ill just have some familly members show up because its inevitable for them to find out. Besides that I think itll be kinda empty. Im tryna have people forgett about me instead of mourn me. Its easier to be a college friend who lost contact with people then for someone who jumped off a building. How many people do you think will show up to your funeral?

 

[PanaxMan]

How many people attend a funeral on average. I have a lot of friends but im not going to tell any of them when I do it. I think ill just have some familly members show up because its inevitable for them to find out. Besides that I think itll be kinda empty. Im tryna have people forgett about me instead of mourn me. Its easier to be a college friend who lost contact with people then for someone who jumped off a building. How many people do you think will show up to your funeral?

Most likely none imo my guess is a small group below 100 but depends on that person connections and social life

 

[LilGhost]

Feel you bro. I would say if you are still in college and go for summer term, they will eventually find out cause youd be absent on lectures. Also, jumping off a building would often lead to traumatizing passerby and might end up your college publishing a public statement about your death (Because lots of people might see that and it could end up on news (like my college had published some public statement recently, because 2 college students were shot in the bar or they also had sent us all emails when a girl from our college went missing/run away i dont rlly remember. Basically colleges would often publish a statement about death of their student if it is loud enough i think))
(Also they might find out, especially if they care cause apparently your gaze changes when the date come (thats at least what my friend noticed, might be not your case))

Anyway.... Answering your question: 3 people. My father out of obligations, my sister and my sibling out of obligation as well. Tho my sister is pregnant so she might miss half of the funerals to avoid stress. My mother is to depressed too leave the house and she wouldnt just want to engage in such a boring activity. I dont think any of my friends could attend even if they wanted to because I bet my father and mother would want me to be burried in my home country (and we are in the war... so I doubt my friends will get visa approval so quickly)

Anyway.... I can still suggest you to talk to your most trusted friends about your plans. It is scary.... But I know one of my friends will never forgive himself if he was missing all the cues and it would be more devastated for him to find me dead one day our of blue instead of being mentally prepared "Yep. that was expected". I would also feel like id haunt my friends if theyd dare to say "there were never any signs" cause btch there were. So like.... its like "let them make their own choices" type shi. Donno your situation but its on them to choose if they want to help you


Ill finish it with very cheesee "take care". I know how annoying cheesee statements are and it would be two faced coming from me, but I geniually hope youll be able to find help. Kms is hella painful, trust me, i failed 3 times. If you feel like there are other resorts you didnt try- if you have those who care, i can suggest you ask them to help trying those (saying that cause like if you are thinking of leaving foreva you probably dont have any powers in you to get help yourself and i promise im not tryina undermine your pain/brain capabilities, just like in my personal situation, i need someone to push me to even book a doctors appointment)
Sorry for any tmi, im hella sleepy and autistic so I might have overexplained some shit. Also not tryina force any ideology upon you, thats just smth I would answer to myself if I was the author of your post

 

[instormdrains]

Sorry for any tmi, im hella sleepy and autistic so I might have overexplained some shit. Also not tryina force any ideology upon you, thats just smth I would answer to myself if I was the author of your post

Nah dw bro your reply was really kind so thank you. Not too much positivity here so it stands out more. (I know its a suicide form so obviously) At least for me I speak to a lot of people in my college and try to be social. From volleyball to just striking up conversations with strangers. The way I see it if any of these people died id have no idea about it so how could I expect other to know about me unless I explicitly tell them before I go. It makes sense for acquaintances but it also applies to close friends. It'll just appear like I ghosted them and that'll be it. Some people that i was really locked in with If they died id just wonder if they ghosted me and eventually move on. People come and go in uni especially with changing schedules. Especially for my friends from highschool that I dont see in person anymore. If I die and they are in a whole different town unless someone tells them they won't know. In my experience in highschool they try and keep suicide hush hush the staff mentioned it for a day and then forgot about it. I hope you also make it out safe too bro this suicide stuff is no joke I've attempted a bunch too but im glad ur still here :)

 

[GQ_CTB]

Have a ton of friends. A lot of people I know due to my work but other than my sister no one will come to mine.. My sister and I survived a horrible dysfunctional family have suffered daily and she will be the only one when I go who will feel sadness... I know that well and hence here... We all know that, I think

 

[sweetdecadance77]

nobody besides the family i live with because i dont have anyone else that i interact with besides 1 online friend who wouldnt realize until much later.

 

[HopeIess]

maybe only my family... the reason I haven't CBTed yet is because I don't want a funeral. i just want to disappear and never be found, no funeral or anything, just for everyone who knew me to pretend I never existed in the first place.

 

[JoeProf]

How many people attend a funeral on average. I have a lot of friends but im not going to tell any of them when I do it. I think ill just have some familly members show up because its inevitable for them to find out. Besides that I think itll be kinda empty. Im tryna have people forgett about me instead of mourn me. Its easier to be a college friend who lost contact with people then for someone who jumped off a building. How many people do you think will show up to your funeral?

10 if I am lucky. Minimum 2

 

[Katam]

I will beg my family in my letter to make it as quick and insignificant as possible with the least people possible so I dont cast too much of an unecessary financial burden (Also I will beg to be cremated and have my ashes discarded in a lake)

 

[android]

I will be cremated. My guess is there'll be 10 people. It would bring my parents a lot of shame, so I'm not sure if they'd invite other, more distant relatives.

 

[Echo]

Likely just family, which is small so around 16 people. Embarrassing really. I only have 2 friends but we're not that close, one would probably never find out I died and the other might.
Thought of not many people attending the funeral puts me off a bit of having one. Maybe direct cremation is best.

 

[Hollowman]

There won't be a funeral

 

[cme-dme]

Probably about a dozen people. Most of my family is already gone sadly and I have one IRL friend.

 

[InversedShadow]

I want to be creamted too, but my estimate is.. at least 1!
Which is already a bit for me, but more will be certainly appreciated and welcome
It will be probably around 5, but one can't really tell right now!

 

[thinvy]

I hope I don't have one. I think I've made it rather clear that I think they're a waste of money that could be better used elsewhere in my own case. It would only likely be my immediate family and aunt/Uncle and their kids maybe (if in my home state) or maybe like twenty of my coworkers if that (if not and someone else paid for there to be one where I live now). I don't want to be embalmed because it's bad for the environment and frankly unnecessary. I don't want a coffin, even. No funeral, no wake. Id prefer aquamation or terramation but I'll settle for cremation since the others aren't super feasible or affordable options here or back home. That's all I want. If anyone insists on holding some sort of get together to remember me, i'd rather it be in like... the Mexican restaurant back home that I used to like, or at my mom's house. I doubt anyone will, though. I'm okay with this. I've spent the last few years of my life trying to minimize the hurt and slowly remove myself from people's lives for this exact reason. I'd be okay being an urn that got donated to goodwill, tbh.

 

[LilGhost]

Nah dw bro your reply was really kind so thank you. Not too much positivity here so it stands out more. (I know its a suicide form so obviously) At least for me I speak to a lot of people in my college and try to be social. From volleyball to just striking up conversations with strangers. The way I see it if any of these people died id have no idea about it so how could I expect other to know about me unless I explicitly tell them before I go. It makes sense for acquaintances but it also applies to close friends. It'll just appear like I ghosted them and that'll be it. Some people that i was really locked in with If they died id just wonder if they ghosted me and eventually move on. People come and go in uni especially with changing schedules. Especially for my friends from highschool that I dont see in person anymore. If I die and they are in a whole different town unless someone tells them they won't know. In my experience in highschool they try and keep suicide hush hush the staff mentioned it for a day and then forgot about it. I hope you also make it out safe too bro this suicide stuff is no joke I've attempted a bunch too but im glad ur still here :)

Oh, i study in college and we dont rlly have much of a schedule variants or its the evilest man ever who eats his students hamsters on breakfast and force you to code an algorithm for his hamster eating not explaining shit VS chill and funny dude and we have like.... 30-40 ig? students in my semester so far so I do believe they will notice. Also could be countries differences (I study in Canada rn) Moreover, Im honestly selfish, so I will let my closest people know by sending them letters (like... I would actually twitch tf out and become a vengefull spirit if a my ex-best-friend who was part of my chosen family, but betrayed me recently would delulu herself into thinking she didnt do anything wrong and act like shes the victim here especially if she'll think i just "abounded" her and cutoff my ties without letting her know)

But anyway, glad my comment wasnt overbearing:). Im trying to find any support i could (without breaking a bank), but my hands are pretty tied due to various reasons. I rlly feel your pain dude, I hope smth will work to ease it

 

[outrider567]

My CTB note explicitly says No Funeral of any kind

Probably about a dozen people. Most of my family is already gone sadly and I have one IRL friend.

Almost all of my family is gone too, just my 83 year old stepmother left--some nieces and nephews but they're 1000 miles away

 

[chaotic_crow]

Probably won't even do a funeral for me honestly. I think I prefer it that way, I don't like when people pretend they cared after someone died. Or realizing they should've done better by someone after they're gone. Rubs me the wrong way