Help How does one vent on YouTube without becoming a lolcow?

[Acidic_Fries]

Hi, my psychotherapist adviced me to try and become a YouTuber to vent my frustrations in English.

That's as response to me telling her that for a long time my dream was to be a let's play YouTuber similar to PewDiePie, Markiplier etc...

I told her that it's not profitable as the YouTubers economy is too oversaturated. and that I'm afraid of becoming a lolcow.

I told her that I'm really envious of YouTubers such as jett franzen also known as a 'larptuber' who talk freely to the camera about whatever bothers them and uploads it to YouTube.

She told me to try that as well. Even if it's not profitable in my eyes. Because in her view it might be something I would enjoy doing.

My problem is that I think it's a bad idea. One time on Facebook when I posted a post in which I asked people to adopt my cat, people we're relentless in their criticism of me.

People's criticism was that I'm 'abandoning' him. And all kinds of nasty comments. The dogpilling and the fact that alot of people were criticizing me made me feel really sad.

I think as a result I'm not fit for venting my frustrations on YouTube like jett franzen does.

(I know jett franzen is considered a larptuber but he is the only example I have off my head of a YouTuber that vents about his life in front of a camera.)

I just feel really lonely and I thought maybe just venting to the camera just like I already talk out loud to myself will make my life abit easier. I don't care about becoming a viral sensation.

I don't care about the number of views. However I'm afraid that I will be an easy prey to bullies and trolls from 'kiwi farms'. Due to my one time of not taking criticism well on a Facebook cat adoption post I made;

I lashed out at people online which In Hindsight I thought would have made me a lolcow but I was smart enough to delete my Facebook cat adoption post so nobody online would have the time to make me a lolcow.

What are your opinions? Do you think that venting your thoughts on YouTube is more trouble than it's worth?

 

[Hvergelmir]

Do you think that venting your thoughts on YouTube is more trouble than it's worth?

That's completely subjective. It will surely be worth it for some.

With sufficient viewers there will be bad actors, and just plain strange people. If you're unlucky that could even be your very first viewer.
It's something you'll just have to accept.

If I were to do something similar I'd stay anonymous. It's pretty common with virtual avatars nowadays, or some completely unrelated footage. It's a cheap insurance, at least while testing the waters.
You can just shut the channel down and fade into obscurity, if you draw the wrong crowd.

 

[Quietist]

People's criticism was that I'm 'abandoning' him. And all kinds of nasty comments

These kinds of responses are typical of "pet nutters".

They think that pet owners should make the ultimate sacrifices for animals even at the expense of the animal itself.

There are a lot of smaller YT channels where people are just sitting and sharing their candid thoughts/feelings.

Suzanne Chang is one such channel I like - she talks about nonduality and awakening, but also shares commentary on her own past/trauma, and often rests in long pauses and taking her time. She comes off as very self-possessed in her approach without being a try-hard because she had a kind of ego death and doesn't care about judgment.

I think what works best is maintaining composure and not allowing oneself to become unhinged or anything on screen.

Also, just saying, the people on Kiwi Farms are like the scum of the fucking earth. Their opinions or criticisms hold zero value.

 

[CoureDAmour]

youtube is a difficult and cruel market, and i think people generally like to look for any reason to be entertained. unfortunately, people tend to get entertained by other people seemingly making fools out of themselves, regardless of they actually are in reality or not. the kiwi farm trolls are absolutely evil and represent the worst of that behavior, but i've seen it in places like the comment sections of instagram reels. it's why i never post anything, let alone anything genuine or thoughtful online publicly

my advice? write all of your vents down. create short stories, or (if you know one) get with a writer who you think can. narrate them. they don't have to be pulitzer prize worthy or have a high production value. it can be radio style if you want it to be. turn your general feelings into entertainment that will make people subconsciously disassociate your vents with you if that's the fear. you may even get a bit of an audience that finds your work compelling, which would let you monetize it

i mean all things considered, you deserve a place to vent and i totally understand the need to. people here (myself included) are always willing to and i hope you are able to find a good place to do so

 

[iguazo falls]

i think it is more trouble than it is worth. for example; DBDR got doxxed, and his family found out about his channel (which led to him being homeless). an alternative would be to create your own website and type or upload videos to that. its less findable, you can toggle how easy things are to access if you learn enough about css/html/javascript. you can make it as esoteric or as boring as you'd like and you'd have full control unlike on youtube where you can be moderated against. i'd write privately first and let it sit for a few days before posting if you intend on garnering an audience.

 

[judestfrancis]

you could always post the videos and unlist them. the thing about lolcows is that they are regularly baited into being more and more inflammatory for gain. They tend to impulsively respond to criticism. I think as long as you dont do that, youll be fine.

I also think popular youtubers get away with talking about their feelings because theyve built trust with their fanbase. they have a relationship where theres trust and understanding. lolcows often dont have that trust and understanding

 

[king_yaroglek]

Lolcows become that way because they feed the trolls, if you don´t lash out and maintain your privacy, you should be fine.
I would be careful revealing certain information and I would probably not show my face, maybe put gaming footage or an image in the background.
Personally, youtube has helped me, at least, pass the time.

i think it is more trouble than it is worth. for example; DBDR got doxxed, and his family found out about his channel (which led to him being homeless). an alternative would be to create your own website and type or upload videos to that. its less findable, you can toggle how easy things are to access if you learn enough about css/html/javascript. you can make it as esoteric or as boring as you'd like and you'd have full control unlike on youtube where you can be moderated against. i'd write privately first and let it sit for a few days before posting if you intend on garnering an audience.

How did he get doxxed?

 

[darn]

youtube is a difficult and cruel market, and i think people generally like to look for any reason to be entertained. unfortunately, people tend to get entertained by other people seemingly making fools out of themselves, regardless of they actually are in reality or not. the kiwi farm trolls are absolutely evil and represent the worst of that behavior, but i've seen it in places like the comment sections of instagram reels. it's why i never post anything, let alone anything genuine or thoughtful online publicly

my advice? write all of your vents down. create short stories, or (if you know one) get with a writer who you think can. narrate them. they don't have to be pulitzer prize worthy or have a high production value. it can be radio style if you want it to be. turn your general feelings into entertainment that will make people subconsciously disassociate your vents with you if that's the fear. you may even get a bit of an audience that finds your work compelling, which would let you monetize it

i mean all things considered, you deserve a place to vent and i totally understand the need to. people here (myself included) are always willing to and i hope you are able to find a good place to do so

If not sharing
anything genuine or thoughtful online publicly, do you find other safe spaces for genuine thoughts?

 

[CoureDAmour]

If not sharing
anything genuine or thoughtful online publicly, do you find other safe spaces for genuine thoughts?

privately among friends. im a dm guy first and foremost

 

[wood water]

If you do decide to do youtube my advice is to not tie it to your real name and face.

If you don't want to do youtube you could try just recording audio and uploading to soundcloud instead, but that would not have nearly as big of an audience as youtube probably

 

[EmptyBottle]

If you do decide to do youtube my advice is to not tie it to your real name and face.

If you don't want to do youtube you could try just recording audio and uploading to soundcloud instead, but that would not have nearly as big of an audience as youtube probably

mm, I have a small channel and haven't put my face on there, let alone first+last name... I found a youtuber with first and last name, I'm slightly concerned someone would search their name on a people finding site and get their address or smth.

also, welcome to SaSu

 

[DonLockwood]

Why not post on your profile here on SaSu? You can keep it private and knowing this community, they'd be understanding and wont dogpile on you like people generally do on the internet.

 

[hoppybunny]

Hi, my psychotherapist adviced me to try and become a YouTuber to vent my frustrations in English.

That's as response to me telling her that for a long time my dream was to be a let's play YouTuber similar to PewDiePie, Markiplier etc...

I told her that it's not profitable as the YouTubers economy is too oversaturated. and that I'm afraid of becoming a lolcow.

I told her that I'm really envious of YouTubers such as jett franzen also known as a 'larptuber' who talk freely to the camera about whatever bothers them and uploads it to YouTube.

She told me to try that as well. Even if it's not profitable in my eyes. Because in her view it might be something I would enjoy doing.

My problem is that I think it's a bad idea. One time on Facebook when I posted a post in which I asked people to adopt my cat, people we're relentless in their criticism of me.

People's criticism was that I'm 'abandoning' him. And all kinds of nasty comments. The dogpilling and the fact that alot of people were criticizing me made me feel really sad.

I think as a result I'm not fit for venting my frustrations on YouTube like jett franzen does.

(I know jett franzen is considered a larptuber but he is the only example I have off my head of a YouTuber that vents about his life in front of a camera.)

I just feel really lonely and I thought maybe just venting to the camera just like I already talk out loud to myself will make my life abit easier. I don't care about becoming a viral sensation.

I don't care about the number of views. However I'm afraid that I will be an easy prey to bullies and trolls from 'kiwi farms'. Due to my one time of not taking criticism well on a Facebook cat adoption post I made;

I lashed out at people online which In Hindsight I thought would have made me a lolcow but I was smart enough to delete my Facebook cat adoption post so nobody online would have the time to make me a lolcow.

What are your opinions? Do you think that venting your thoughts on YouTube is more trouble than it's worth?

I think if you're very sensitive to online critique it's not a good idea at all.

The ppl who become lolcows are mainly ppl that engage with hate comments frequently and are usually disabled and/or are not conventionally attractive.

I've found that ppl who vent alot and post youtube videos in general usually just ignore hate comments and they don't become a meme online

you'll always get hate comments as long as they're spiteful losers online with nothing better to do. There's really nothing u can do but ignore it or heavily moderate ur comments.

but never engage with them.

As for the facebook post. Ppl on there are just spiteful and hateful people, ur not wrong for wanting to have yohr cat adopted if you feel you can no longer take care of it.

They just want to feel morally superior. But their behaviour is exactky why people choose to just abandon their pets in the street or kill them because ppl are so judgy when u try to find a better home for them.

 

[Bitter Almonds]

Vtubing, if you want an avatar. PNGtubing if you want an avatar and also very little effort with it.

Don't show your face. Don't use your real name, address, etc. Always use a VPN. If you don't care about view count, keep comments disabled, which will limit your algorithm's reach.

Don't use any names associated with your usual online presentation. For instance, I am trying to keep my SaSu identity separate from my real online identity - I don't normally go by bitter almonds.

Practice as much safety and distancing as you can.