How do you want to be remembered if at all?

[home]

I can't decide whether or not I want my loved ones to remember me. I dont want them to feel sad or miss me, Im scared of them forgetting me because if they forget me it feels like they don't love me anymore. But at the same time, like I said I dont want them to feel sad either. Plus if they remember me, I dont know whether itll be a good memory or a bad one. Will they remember the me from the good times, or will it be the me at the end who haunts them, sick and despairing? I know it wont matter since I'm dead, but its kind of the same as people worrying about the state of their body when theyre found. I guess its true, it would be better to have never existed at all. What about you guys?

 

[FuneralCry]

I just want to be forgotten about, like I never existed at all. However it could never matter to me how people would react if I was to die as I simply wont be there at that point, it's not my concern.

 

[Littlewittlelight]

I can't decide whether or not I want my loved ones to remember me. I dont want them to feel sad or miss me, Im scared of them forgetting me because if they forget me it feels like they don't love me anymore. But at the same time, like I said I dont want them to feel sad either. Plus if they remember me, I dont know whether itll be a good memory or a bad one. Will they remember the me from the good times, or will it be the me at the end who haunts them, sick and despairing? I know it wont matter since I'm dead, but its kind of the same as people worrying about the state of their body when theyre found. I guess its true, it would be better to have never existed at all. What about you guys?

Really this was on my mind I deeply want them to just feel something about me not only good things but maybe I was a human who tried and just accept me. I am also thinking I don't want them to remember the bad things about me which they wouldn't I think because they make me feel safe I only feel safe at home here now but I always am thinking how it can affect them and what they would feel like if I ever lived and where they will put my things there are rituals there is something I can't tell but I am thinking what would they do about it because I am young and other things which are like that because I can see them discussing about the ones who passed away years back sometimes remembering the good times or sad times their suffering I am thinking like you too.

 

[cath55555]

I can't decide whether or not I want my loved ones to remember me. I dont want them to feel sad or miss me, Im scared of them forgetting me because if they forget me it feels like they don't love me anymore. But at the same time, like I said I dont want them to feel sad either. Plus if they remember me, I dont know whether itll be a good memory or a bad one. Will they remember the me from the good times, or will it be the me at the end who haunts them, sick and despairing? I know it wont matter since I'm dead, but its kind of the same as people worrying about the state of their body when theyre found. I guess its true, it would be better to have never existed at all. What about you guys?

I feel similarly about wondering how people will remember me. will I be to my parents the smiling child who never caused trouble and rarely cried? to my friends, the person they vented to? will I be to strangers the person who lent them an extra 20p for a bus ticket? or, will I just be the me *I* see? the shadow, the figure barely flickering into existence, the failed projects, failed relationships and friendships? the half-person who can't get it together for long enough to clean their room?

I don't know which I'd rather be. the rock who never got upset, strong, tough, unrelenting always. or the mess who couldn't shower in their final weeks. the former would be missed more, which I don't want, but the latter being my legacy crushes me.

 

[Hangnail]

I hope my friends remember me as someone who was loyal, funny, and genuine.

Idc how my family remembers me. I know they'll make me out to be the selfish, awful child. They barged into my room a few nights ago yelling at me (while covid positive) about how messed up I am in the head.

 

[outrider567]

I don't

 

[yuno]

I wish I could be forgotten sometimes, but I know that's not what will happen. I understand that if my life ever went accordingly, I am actually a talented, hardworking, quality individual and I have bounds of potential which I am continuously wasting. So in that regard I would wish to be remembered as the person I could've been. So much of my life has been misinterpreted and no one has really understood my side of things. So I wish someone would honestly speak of me, in some sort of biography or documentary. But I'm not special enough for that. I was almost special but instead a disappointment. I will break my loved ones. My family will experience another suicide. I will be remembered as a tragedy. That's the reality. As much as I hate to do that to my loved ones, this is my fate.

 

[Life_and_Death]

i like when harry potter and his friends left. a wave of the wand and they never existed, no one knew. you cant be upset or care if you dont even know

 

[Rocinante]

Being forgotten is ideal